*Have you been the 3rd or 5th wheel just one too many times?
*Do your non-single friends always push you on the single guy/girl in the room thinking just because you’re both single, you're automatically going to be into each other?
*Would you like to find friends that can be ready and on the way in an hour?
*Would you like to meet other single people doing single people things on a single person schedule but don’t know where to meet them?
Well, if the answer to one or more of those questions is yes...then this is the group for you. This group is about making friends with other singles and not intended to be a match making/hooking-up kind of crowd. I’d like to create a fun and inviting yet safe group where one would feel comfortable showing up alone. That being said, if you do find someone who strikes your fancy, remember the very best relationships always start out by being friends first. We’ll be getting together in the South Bay Area for social activities like happy hours, dinners out, movies, concerts, dancing, and whatever else that sounds good to the group. Please feel free to make suggestions.
To Prospective Members,
Thank you for your interest in our group. Please, realize, before sending a request, that this is a group for people 45 years of age and older. If you are not yet 45, please, do not send the request. We are trying to minimize the age gap between the members of our group. We will wait for you patiently until your 45th birthday arrives :)
It’s 7 Months Later: Since the beginning of this group in February 2012, we’ve had great success with the group’s original mission, single people coming together making wonderful friends and having A LOT of fun in doing so. We have created an inviting environment in which people feel comfortable and welcome from their very first visit. This is thanks to the group’s incredible members who are friendly, accepting, and just down right awesome! To all of you, THANK YOU!
As time has gone by and we have gotten to know each other better, a few couples have formed in the group. As stated above, this groups intention is not a singles mingle or a place to troll for the “next available”. However, when you get a group of friendly, fun, and interesting single people together, human nature takes over and people are attracted to and drawn towards one another. New couples are welcome to stay in the group and will not be asked to leave and join some “Friend of” group. We are all friends here and the good friends you’ve made want nothing but the best for you, truly.
If…however, you are a member or become a member of this group and have a problem with this kind of new found joy and are bothered by the fact that there are a few new couples around sometimes…I suggest you find another group that is dedicated to staying single. That sort of group is out there and is available to you. If you’re inflexible about this, you’re probably not a good fit for this group anyway.
That said, to the new couples, please exercise age appropriate behavior. I ask that you not behave like teenagers and fondle, make-out or talk incessantly about your new beau or beauette. Please do not try to hide your happiness! Hand-holding, hugging, and a peck on the cheek here and there is encouraged. Be forthcoming. I don’t want there to be hard feelings or embarrassment if you need to turn down an invitation because someone didn’t know you were no longer available.
Nobody wants to cut off these new friendships, and nobody should be made to feel like they have to leave the group…for any reason (unless you’re totally creepy and are scaring people). Comments like “why are they still here” or “they should go join a couples group somewhere” will not be tolerated. If I hear you say it, you’ll be the one asked to leave.
At the end of the day, it’s about making friends…not staying single.
1 Year & Four Months Later: A lot of great times have been had and good friends have been made. After speaking to many of the core members, a collective consensus has been made to make the group private. As of June 1st 2013, new membership will not be automatic. Events will be visible to the general public, but the location of the events and member profiles will be visible only to current members. Please send an email directly to Nieves and/or Kimberly if you have a friend who you would think is a good fit for the group. Membership will be based primarily, but not exclusively, on a referral by a current member. However, for those who come across the group in a general search and we sound like a group you'd like to join, please do send in a request for membership. Membership will be approved from time to time if the organizers feel you seem like a good fit for the group. If you don't get approved right away, hang tight. As non-active members are dropped, new members will be approved.
"Amendment" to our policies:
There is a strong group made of few members that have been loyal to our events, attending many of them and/or helping us organizing them. These members have also shown a great deal of responsibility by showing up to those events they signed up for or have changed their RSVP few times and with enough time to allow others from the wait list to sign up. They are committed to make this group a nice place to come to.
We reward these fabulous people by having preference to events when their names are in the waiting list. The organizers of the events can decide which member can be moved up the list to attend events.
Thank you and hope to meet you in future events :)