Dear Friends:

Thank you for your interest in ALF. First of all, let me explain to you what ALF is. ALF is a community of folks interested (either as curious, moderately active, or very active people) in the alternative lifestyle community. Our primary purpose is to provide an environment for alternative lifestylers, of all stripes, to meet, network, make friends, ask questions, and learn about each other’s particular likes and dislikes.

There are a large number of human beings in the world who feel like the normal world's sexual and social morales do not fit theirs. The social stigma and embarrassment forced upon them by society, for even questioning their own sexuality or "kink" is suffocating. That is why ALF was started. To provide an understanding, non-judgmental, and supportive place for these people to go, learn, and thrive. Because we've all been there, the odds are that whatever you're into, we have a member or members that are in to it as well.

What ALF is not; it is NOT a dating site. It is a place for like minded people to connect. 

We are pretty evenly matched, single men, single women and couples with most of our females being bi-sexual and 98% of our men being straight.

Our membership committee's primary function is to maintain an even mix. Admission into ALF is not just limited to people who correctly send in an application, but also on an "as needed basis." For example: A single unattached straight female, who correctly submits and application will most likely be immediately accepted. However,  a single unattached male, will likely be placed on a waiting list. We review our membership every month, and remove members who have shown little interest in the organization. Then we replace them with applicants who are on our waiting list. In all honesty, this is mostly an issue with single unattached men. **All people looking to join ALF will need to meet the organizer first before membership approved.  This ensures us that you are who you say you are."

In order for an application to be considered, it must have a current photograph of the person or persons wishing to join. The pictures should be "G" rated image of the face of the applicant(s) wanting to join. If a member removes their picture, and does not replace it with another picture that complies with the above criteria, they will be removed. All pictures, as well content of our group, can only be accessed by accepted members of ALF.

** Due to recent events, all new members will meet with the organizer or a member of the "new member" committee before being allowed to sign up. **

Many people have asked: "What happens at a Meetup?" Monthly meetups are held at a local Grille or Tavern and we mingle, get to know each other, and generally have a nice time.  Once you are a member in good standing, you may be invited to a more private events which will be discussed after you are a member in good standing.

I hope this gives you an understanding about ALF. If you want to apply, please complete the on-line application, attach a current photo, and hit send. You will then be contacted about meeting the organizer or member of the committee.

Thank you,
The Organizer


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  • Saturday, May 16, 2015 10:00 AM

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    July Meet & Greet

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