Monthly Social - Small Talk

This is the Monthly Social of the Book Club on the 5th of every month. A get together to meet, mingle and discuss without the pressure of having to finish a book before the meet-up.

The theme for this month is Small Talk.

Small talk is defined as "Polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters" , so therefore at this meet-up there will be no discussion on books, politics, world poverty or Iran's nuclear ambitions. Any form of deep meaningful conversation is not allowed. There will be a fine for anyone who breaks the rules

Small talk is conversation fo conversations sake and is a bonding ritual which helps to keep interpersonal distance.

Here is an example of small talk.

William: Morning, Paul.
Paul: Oh, morning, William, how are you?
William: Fine, thanks. Have a good weekend?
Paul: Yes, thanks. 

So if you decide to reply to the question how are you? By telling people about your latest relationship break up that is breaking the rules.

The meet-up start at 6:30pm and go on until 9:30 pm, however members are free to drop by any time during this time.

 

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  • jas k.

    jas here....sounds great...would be lovely to connect again with the members of this wonderful club

    March 31, 2013

  • Vineet

    You look a little flushed, but I am haPee to see you. Whey you finish I will give you some Cole-ogne and in you give me a black eye.

    March 22, 2013

  • Malcolm

    Wonder what the Toilet Attendant said to Cheryl?

    March 22, 2013

  • Gizmo

    Though on second thoughts, I think the honeyed tones should rise to a quivering Kate Bush falsetto for the kabaddi death match sequence.

    March 21, 2013

  • Gizmo

    Can we have edgy small talk mingled with echoes of poetry delivered in honeyed tones? For example, I'd like to hear a poem about global warming that starts with Paul and William's idle chit chat about the world's impending doom and culminates in a kabaddi death match between Chezza and her Allen nemesis right down to the last iceberg.

    March 21, 2013

  • mozibur u.

    My impression is that scientific opinion is pretty solid behind global warming - but not politically. Sure left wing radicals are stopping progress, but so are immensely large vested interests - and they are so much more immensely larger.

    Lily Allens quite bitchy about Cheryl Cole, she's quite bitchy on her video 'smile' too. I didn't know she was part of the Girls Aloud gang. Is this the right level of banal?

    I wouldn't call it poetry Vineet, but it's not a limerick either!

    March 21, 2013

  • Sonia

    I'm going to revise my cliches for the 5th.

    March 21, 2013

  • Sonia

    Is that the only lexicon Sonny? Sadness adds too much depth to small talk. The signs with the emoticons makes me think of the scissors, paper, stone game where we would have to show our cards, and if it tallies, we both win.
    The only thing about introducing global warming is that it's an area where there may be differing opinions, and if there are smouldering undercurrents, it gives the small talk an edge. Are we not aiming for banality where the resulting feeling at the end is neutrality and bland connection?

    March 21, 2013

  • Vineet

    ..but Gobal warming is a load of Hogwash, there is no scientific evidence to support it one way or the other. The term is just an instrument used by left wing radicals to stop progress. A topic definitely not worth discussing, small talk or othewise. Mozibur what you are writing feels like poetry, a bit too high brow to be classified as small talk!!

    March 21, 2013

  • Sonny

    we should use no words. only emoticons printed on sign cards. :) :| :/

    March 21, 2013

  • mozibur u.

    Winter made William weep :(. Paul sailed through Spring :) Summer
    was never so good - for them both:),:). Autumn calmed them down:|,:|. And so it goes...

    are emoticons allowed, or should we be conservative with or punctuation too?

    March 21, 2013

  • Sonny

    Apparently you have to insert global warming into the weather conversation now. It takes it out of mundanity but I think you can still keep it nice and dreary. The challenge is not to get sidetracked and keep it light. eg 'Oh it's so awful about all those polar ice caps melting.' 'Yes but at least it means the polar bears and penguins have more water to swim in.'

    March 21, 2013

  • Vineet

    Yes very unpredictable this British weather. The daffodils should be coming out soon.

    March 21, 2013

  • Sonia

    I had a nice day thanks Vineet. The weather is certainly improving, but we shouldn't get used to it, you know British weather (artificial nervous chuckle).

    March 20, 2013

  • Vineet

    I am fine Sonia, Did you have a good day. Isn't the weather getting better now?

    March 20, 2013

  • Jibunnessa

    This business of small talk seems to have become too controversial to remain within the confines of what truly constitutes small talk. Perhaps this will also join the list of banned topics on the night?! ;-)

    March 20, 2013

  • Sonia

    It's essentially an anti-book club, as we discuss to seek meaning, clarity, different perspectives, opinions or to glean/draw out emotion. Is the emphasis on small random info with no coherence? Or is too much thought on the rules going against the mood of small talk?
    Is adding emotion to inane sentences okay? Or is that pushing the boundaries?

    March 20, 2013

  • Sonia

    Vineet, how are you?

    March 20, 2013

  • Gizmo

    Can we all replicate William and Paul's intense debate about their weekend? I'd like that.

    March 19, 2013

  • mozibur u.

    I quite enjoyed the last conversation - even if it was intense for some. But I can easily imagine something like that can lead to frayed tempers and so on.

    March 19, 2013

  • Vineet

    Malcolm talking about Cheryl Cole is allowed. Does that give you enough to go on?

    March 18, 2013

  • Malcolm

    I agree I'm also baffled, obviously discussing the Falklands isn't acceptable but can we have a list of topics that are?

    March 18, 2013

  • Jibunnessa

    Oh dear! I was about to say 'yes'. But now that I'll be spending all evening wondering what I'm not allowed to talk about ...it's all feeling a bit stressful! So doesn't that really contravene the whole ethos of small talk? ...never had trouble making small talk before! ;-) x

    March 18, 2013

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