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Real Talk: Open relationships

Are you in an open relationship? Do you hook up with guys who are? Are you thinking about opening things up with your partner? Or do you prefer monogamy?

Join us for a frank discussion about navigating open relationships as a gay man. We'll talk about why some couples decide to be open, tools for good communication with your partner(s), ways to protect your physical and mental health and how the marriage equality movement has changed perceptions of same-sex relationships.

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Location: San Francisco LGBT Community Center, 1800 Market Street

 

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  • David

    Sorry to have missed the conversation. I had a previous commitment at the Commonwealth Club. Will there be more conversations on Open Relationships?

    February 6, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      We have concluded our series of discussions on Open Relationships. Thanks for asking!

      February 12, 2013

  • Tyler S.

    A very small number of tweets from the evening:
    https://twitter.com/TSchnoebelen

    January 30, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Few in number or not, you hit all the key points we struggled to remember the next day. Go, Tyler! :-)

      February 5, 2013

  • Tyler S.

    The emcee was terrific, researcher Colleen Hoff was fascinating and the instant texting polls were fun.

    1 · January 31, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Hi, Tyler! Glad you enjoyed the event! Hope you'll join us again soon. This was but one kind of event at which BRIDGEMEN participate :-)

      January 31, 2013

  • David

    We also enjoyed the event. I wanted to stand and share: when I met my partner 35 years ago at a bisexual potluck in Sunnyvale, CA - after knowing him 18 months I moved into his apartment on Douglas and 21st Streets. The first thing he said to me was he wanted and open relationship. I felt deflated since I tend to be monogamous. The only agreement we had was "call me if you aren't coming home so I won't worry!" Then, when we last started couples counseling (many times over the years) 2 years ago we communicated what we really meant. Since we are a magnetic couple, we cherish our inter-dependence and respect each other's need for independence and at the same time want to stay safe so not to infect others!

    January 31, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Had a bad day finding out I can't afford co-payments for meds and I have to wait longer to continue physical therapy. Needed to stay home and lick wounds.
    Jay, thank you so much for your bravery to bring tonights topic to discussion. I've struggled with this one for decades. I really wanted to be there.
    In my history of dating I always enter with monogamy in heart and mind and never received it. I would either be persuade out of that notion through charm & looks, or be told it's a pipe dream or this isn't the 50's.
    I have found compared to guys who did and did not put it out on the table they wanted an open relationship; that those who did want it and I allowed it I felt I enabled their addiction. Always walked away hurt but always my fault, lazy. On the other hand, those who never brought it up if they were sexing on the side they lead a faults pretense that I never discovered.
    I'm sorry I could be there tonight, but if any of you want to continue the conversation, lets do so!

    January 30, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      You're in luck! Bridgemen is hosting a continuation of the discussion at the Stop Aids offices. Keep an eye on the calendar.

      1 · January 30, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      YYEEEAAAHHH!!!!!!!

      1 · January 31, 2013

  • Jay C.

    I enjoyed the event. I found that the panel/large room model wasn't nearly as instructive (or as interesting) as speaking with guys directly. I learned a lot from the panel, and feel more comfortable. But the subject is so personal that even members of the panel were much more forthcoming in person. (Insert "Duh".) I don't believe I can make the smaller discussions, but I think they could be very useful, especially on this topic. I hope that this may be the beginning of us bringing this topic "out of the closet".

    January 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    BRIDGEMEN! Many of us attended prior Real Talks such as "Are We Allowed to Age?" and "F**k Without Condoms? Ever?" Now, as the days wind down before "Play Well With Others?" I'm super excited! I made a suggestion of featuring a couple on the panel who share different orientations on monogamy; one partner who's monogamous; one who isn't -- both equally accepting of the other and how that acceptance both enriches and challenges the relationship. It'll be a surprise to see if the organisers were able or willing to find a compelling couple to fit that criteria! :-)

    January 17, 2013

    • Jay C.

      I'm really looking forward to hearing the perspective of different guys on this. After moving here from the Midwest, the prevalence of open relationships here on the West Coast was a huge culture shock. That was 11 years ago, and the subject still, honestly, intimidates me.

      1 · January 29, 2013

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