This group is for adults not currently in relationship, to meet others socially. This is not specifically a dating group, more a social group; a way to meet new people in the same boat as you. There will be some people here looking for love, but more are looking for friendship, community, or just a social evening out.
The people in this group:
There are people of ALL ages in this group. I have an event specifically for 20s and 30s once every other month, an event for 30s and 40s every 3 weeks, and also a 45+ event every 3 weeks. I also have a mixed age event, labelled just 'Social' Generally the age will be 40s, 50s and 60s here.
People new to Bristol/ UK (some practising their English).
People recently divorced, separated, or previously widowed.
People whose friends are in relationship, or don't go out because of child care commitments (or can't be bothered!)
People who may be nervous at first, or uncertain where and how to meet others.
People not ready for dating
People who are!
Above all, people who like to socialise.
I find that the people in this group are generally polite, good people.
At the moment we have bar socials every week on a Wednesday or a Thursday. Here. I encourage people to stand, to make it easier to socialise.
Every month, we have a new members night. This the most facilitated of the regular socials, to help you mix easily with each other. This is a popular event.
This group is largely for people who are not in relationship at the moment. Occasionally (and this is literally a handful of people out of 2700!) you will find regulars here who have hooked up with someone from the group. I am realising that there are regulars here who feel they lose their community when they find a relationship and have to leave. Therefore, the events that do not have any theme (age, or 'First Timer's') and are labelled 'events for anyone' or just 'Social', are open to regulars who are not currently single. This REALLY amounts to one person at a time, if that! You are welcome to ask me who these people are, if you don't want to mix with them. I am happy to review this if it becomes a problem.
Usually at least 1/3 of the people at each social are first timers and nervous! Most people were the same once! This is not a cliquey group; friendliness is fostered from the beginning. The people here want to meet new people. I also make it my job to greet you, to encourage approachability, and to facilitate, so that new members in particular, are put at ease (see testimonials for the group, see also comments on each past event).
Events are held in various popular, and well researched bars in Bristol; in Clifton, Park Street, Whiteladies Rd, Cotham, Redland, Bristol Centre, Gloucester Road, Bedminster, Totterdown areas. My aim is to help you get to know some of the best bars and areas that Bristol has to offer, so new bars are added to our venues regularly.
At the venue, please ask for Shelley's area, and look out for Meetup signs nearby. Shelley will be looking for you too. We will always have a private area reserved for us, and sometimes have the whole bar to ourselves. We will never have a sign saying 'single' or 'social solos.' Though we often have a lot of interest in our group from other people in the bar! Please also read the information for specific meetups; there may be specific information for that meetup location.
To join this group is free. Events are paid for on a pay as you go basis, usually on entry. New Members events are £4. All other events in the week currently cost £3. Friday socials are £4. Special event prices vary.
I receive many compliments for being well organised, for facilitation, and for putting people at ease.
Please note that you can adjust your settings to decide which notifications you receive from this group (sometimes the website sends too many, especially if you join other groups too, so be discerning!)
One of our members has informed me that his name came up in web listings for social events, after clicking 'attending' to an event organised by another website/ social group. I don't know if this happens with Meetup. Perhaps if you are worried about this happening to you, use a pseudonym.
How to get the most out of the Social Solos group:
If you are technically minded enough (don't worry if not!), have a clear profile photo of your face, so that other members can see who you are, and find you between socials.
Interact with members between socials using meetup's email system and my Facebook Page.
You are much more likely to make friends (and meet a potential partner!) if you come to events regularly, and without other friends. There is an event available to you almost every week of the year. MANY people come to these events to see other people they have met at previous events, and for the sense of friendly community. There are also lots of new people each time, who are welcomed by all of us (at least 1/3 of people at each event) This is an ever evolving community and it seems to make people happy!
You have everything you need on this website, but in order to attract more people in the same boat, for us all to meet, I have a Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/Bristolsocialsolos. You can add me as a friend.
The Future of this group!
I have played with the idea of expanding this into larger events and speed dating etc. But, as many of the regulars know, I already have a main career. So, I will be expanding into putting on helpful talks and workshops, over time. We'll be starting with a talk on how to socialise more confidently, over the Summer. Feel free to register interest with me now, to be the first to know about this!
I'll look forward to chatting with you when I get the chance!
(Whilst other groups have many organisers and lots of different activities, I prefer to keep it simple and effective. Currently I am the sole organiser of this group and these events. Ocasionally I have assistance if events are busy. This group is run very differently to the others that you may have joined on Meetup.com in that it started as a community group, and developed in to a small part time business, to pay for my costs and time, due to demand. See why for yourself!)
Please see my newsletters, under the tab at the top of the home page, marked 'Discussions', for more information about this group.