This group is (mostly! See later *mostly*) for adults not currently in relationship, to meet others socially. This is not specifically a dating group, more a social group; a way to meet new people in the same boat as you. There will be some people here looking for love, but more are looking for friendship, community, or just a social evening out.
The people in this group:
The most common age group here is late 30s, 40s, 50s + early 60s. There are LOTS of people here who are in their 20s and 30s, they're just really shy, so don't come as often, (or aren't prepared to mix with older people too). So, I have an event specifically for 20s and 30s, once a month. I also have an event for 30s and 40s once a month. Occasionally there will also be a 45+ event. But, as I say, the age group for the regular (not age themed) social is late 30s+, so is suitable for any age above that. I don't ask age but I suspect there are lots of lively people in their 60s here too.
People new to Bristol/ UK (some practicing their English).
People recently divorced, separated, or previously widowed.
People whose friends are in relationship, or don't go out because of child care commitments (or can't be bothered!)
People who may be nervous at first, or uncertain where and how to meet others.
People not ready for dating
People who are!
Above all, people who like to socialise.
At the moment we have bar socials every week on a Wednesday or a Thursday. Here. I encourage people to stand, to make it easier to socialise.
Most weeks we have a mixed age social with around 45 people. All ages are welcomed. (As mentioned, the age group for these is largely late 30s, 40s, 50s and early 60s.)
Every month, we have a new members night. This the most facilitated of the regular socials, to help you mix easily with each other. This is a popular event.
Every month, we have a social specifically for people in their 20s and 30s. It is usually well attended.
Also every month we have a 30s and 40s night. Again, this is popular.
I also sometimes have a 45+ event, to compliment the other age themed events, so that some regulars can still attend that week.
New for 2015! There will be special events, trips and meal events, gradually being introduced over the course of the year. Speed Dating will be on the calendar in May (probably!)
NB. *Mostly!* I say that this is a group for people who are not in relationship at the moment. This is mostly true. However, I am realising that there are regulars here who feel they lose their community when they find a relationship and have to leave. Therefore, the events that do not have any theme (age, of First Timer's) and are labelled 'events for anyone' or just 'Social', are open to regulars who are not currently single.
Usually at least 1/3 of the people at each social are first timers and nervous! Most people were the same once! This is not a cliquey group; friendliness is fostered from the beginning. The people here want to meet new people. I also make it my job to greet you, to encourage approachability, and to facilitate, so that new members in particular, are put at ease (see testimonials for the group, see also comments on each past event).
Events are held in various popular, and well researched bars in Bristol; in Clifton, Park Street, Whiteladies Rd, Cotham, Redland, Bristol Centre, Gloucester Road, Bedminster, Totterdown areas. My aim is to help you get to know some of the best bars and areas that Bristol has to offer, so new bars are added to our venues regularly.
At the venue, please ask for Shelley's area, and look out for Meetup signs nearby. Shelley will be looking for you too. We will always have a private area reserved for us, and sometimes have the whole bar to ourselves. We will never have a sign saying 'single' or 'social solos.' Though we often have a lot of interest in our group from other people in the bar! Please also read the information for specific meetups; there may be specific information for that meetup location.
To join this group is free. Events are paid for on a pay as you go basis, usually on entry. New Members events are £4. All other events in the week currently cost £3. Friday socials are £4. Special event prices vary.
I receive many compliments for being well organised, for facilitation, and for putting people at ease.
Please note that you can adjust your settings to decide which notifications you receive from this group (sometimes the website sends too many, especially if you join other groups too, so be discerning!)
One of our members has informed me that his name came up in web listings for social events, after clicking 'attending' to an event organised by another website/ social group. I don't know if this happens with Meetup. Perhaps if you are worried about this happening to you, use a pseudonym.
How to get the most out of the Social Solos group:
If you are technically minded enough (don't worry if not!), have a clear profile photo of your face, so that other members can see who you are, and find you between socials.
Interact with members between socials using meetup's email system and my Facebook Page.
You are much more likely to make friends (and meet a potential partner!) if you come to events regularly, and without other friends. There is an event available to you almost every week of the year. MANY people come to these events to see other people they have met at previous events, and for the sense of friendly community. There are also lots of new people each time, who are welcomed by all of us (at least 1/3 of people at each event) This is an ever evolving community and it seems to make people happy!
I'll look forward to chatting with you when I get the chance!
(Whilst other groups have many organisers and lots of different activities, I prefer to keep it simple and effective. Currently I am the sole organiser of this group and these events. This group is run very differently to the others that you may have joined on Meetup.com )
Please see my newsletters, under the tab at the top of the home page, marked 'Discussions', for more information about this group.