Please Come Join Us, We are Here and We Understand

We are a local chapter of the International Organization BAN, Beyond Affairs Network. Our mission here is to run face to face support meetings for the spouses of those who have been betrayed by partners by bringing an affair into their lives and relationships. This is because BAN has found this to be a very proven and successful model that is so benefical for those in our situation. Many wounded spouses and partners feel so all alone and know not what to do or who they can turn to. Many even believe that they might be losing their own mind or sanity. You are NOT insane and this is NOT your fault! What you are experiencing unfortunately is an all too normal part of the process and reactions to the devastating emotional traumas that you have been subjected to during the various acts of betrayal against you by your partner or spouse.

You Need Not Suffer in Silence or Isolation Any Longer. We are Here and We Do Understand.

Please don't try to go it alone. It is not your fault that your partner went and engaged in an affair. Nobody can make another person have an affair. These offenses that you have been subjected to have most probably cut you to the bone and wounded you down to your inner core. Now you deserve the best care you can provide for yourself on your difficult journey of recovery. You probably feel like most or all of your life is beyond your control at the moment and you can't seem to find a way back to your natural center. Again this is very normal, upsetting and concerning but very normal. So do yourself a favor and take the first important positive step in regaining some sense of control over your own life, your own health, your own well being and and your own peace of mind. Please come and join us at our meetings.

We also want to let you know some important facts right off the top. As much as most people swear prior to experiencing the betrayal of an affair that they would certainly leave or "throw the Bum out", this is usually NOT the case. A majority of couples actually try to stick it out and stay together. Certain research shows that perhaps as many at 68% of couples remain married and stay together even after the discovery of an affair by at least one of the two spouses. And that many of these couples actually do report that in the long run (after a lot of pain, introspection, sharing, healing and reconciliation) that they feel their marriage is stronger and healthier after the long process of recovery and reconsiliation. So we really want to stress the fact that there is Hope that you and your spouse can actual save your family and your marriage. There certainly are No Guarentees, but there really is good reason for Hope that you can heal yourself and your marriage.