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|A former member||
I had a bad experience once. and I'd like some feedback on general rules of etiquette. here's what I've got so far.
The rules of game etiquette
1. Games are supposed to be fun; try too make sure it is for everyone.
2. Play to win, don't soft-play anyone.
3. , Play in as timely a manner as you can. Think before your turn.If you need a moment to think, say so with the deference that asking an imposition brings.
4. Pay attention; If someone needs to tell you that it's your turn more then once, your head's not in the game.
5. Try to limit other activities. You're playing a game, don't ask everyone to stop to show one player a youtube video.
6. Lots of people love to chat during a game, but if you have to choose, don't make people wait for you to speak. Take your turn, then finish your story.
7. Never offer advize or criticism on another player''s play unless asked.
8. Never complain about your luck in games. Everyone has the same luck.
9. The general rule is that if you make a mistake, and someone has acted after your mistake, the mistake plays. Most house rules indicate a once-per evening "mulligan" that may undo that mistake. Do not expect this privilege and try not to use it.
10. Many people make small alterations to game rules. House rules need to be explained to guests. if not explained, written rules stand.
11. If you're in a guest in someone's home, act like it. Noise levels are especially significant to apartment dwellers.
12. In games with political elements, if you get ganged-up on, there was a good reason.. Take it with good cheer.
13. Before starting a game, Be relatively sure you can finish it.
14. when playing a game that isn't yours, realize that they probably paid money for that game. Be responsible for drinks food or other dangers to the game materials.
15. Most games enjoy an amount of friendly ribbing and/or trash talk. Guests have to judge the level and intensity and hold responsibility if they cross over "the line"
I think those are great guidelines. While I predominantly play games with my family and significant other, I think it's pretty important to keep a set of guidelines in mind when gaming with those you don't know all that well.
If anyone is on Boardgamegeek, there was a thread a while back discussing gaming etiquette and a poll was created, here is what the results where (if anyone is interested):
No. Behaviour Non Acceptable + Borderline
1 Stealing 99.10%
2 Threatening behaviour 98.60%
3 Cheating 98.20%
4 Verbal or physical abuse 97.90%
5 Damaging the game 97.70%
6 Body odor/hygiene 92.00%
7 Quitting a game 90.10%
8 Texting continuously 89.70%
9 Constantly pause the game 88.30%
10 Control freak 84.30%
11 Rude,loud and overly profane 79.90%
12 sore losers 79.30%
13 complaining/whining 76.20%
14 farting 63.90%
15 Being know-it-all 61.20%
16 not playing to win 58.40%
17 bringing babies/kids 58.30%
18 Analysis Paralysis 49.10%
19 arguing about rules 45.00%
20 bringing non-gaming girl/boyfriend 41.70%
21 Politicing 37.50%
22 Eating / Drinking while playing 28.80%
23 Trash talking 26.50%
24 dress too sexy/revealing/distraction 19.50%
25 Newbie joining a complex game 17.10%
Focusing on those which is above 75%, we got these behaviours that shouldn't exist at gaming groups.
** TOP NO-NO BEHAVIOUR ** (90%+ Votes)
2 Threatening behaviour
4 Verbal or physical abuse
5 Damaging the game
6 Body odor/hygiene
7 Quitting a game
** TOP ANNOYING BEHAVIOUR ** (75%-89% Votes) (Tolerance depends on indivudual gaming groups)
1 Texting continuously
2 Constantly pause the game
3 Control freak
4 Rude,loud and overly profane
5 sore losers
Clearly, some issues may not be avoided depending on the circumstance and the various factors should be taken into consideration but not necessarily set down in stone. For example, it isn't always possible to leave the kids at home, or maybe the only time you are able to game is after an intense day at the office and you haven't had the time to stop for a bite to eat before arriving. But, you always do things that mitigate the perceived 'bad' behavior (eating your dinner away from the game for example).
Enough rambling, good list Chris!