|Sent on:||Sunday, May 20, 2012 6:48 PM|
"Everything you want is on the other side of fear"
Everything you want is on the other side of fear...however, instead of tackling your biggest fear right away, you can gradually build your courage confronting your smallest fears first, and progressively work up to more significant acts of courage. Here is how to do it...
First, select a fear you'd like to overcome. Now see if you can identify one small step you could take to confront that fear, something that would be a fairly mild challenge for you but that would still trigger some trepidation.
For example, if you're afraid to initiate a conversation with a stranger, your first goal might be to walk past a stranger and smile. If that still seems too difficult, start with an easier goal, such as making eye contact with a stranger for one second.Train yourself with your first baby step until you feel ready to increase the challenge. There's no specific number of repetitions you need to complete for each step, but five to ten is a good ballpark estimate;-)!
Suppose you master making eye contact with strangers, being able to hold it for one full second without looking away. You may feel a little anxious about it at first, but after ten reps, you're able to do it consistently. Then increase the challenge to two or three seconds. Once you've mastered that, you may want to progress to smiling. Next, try smiling and saying hi. Within a matter of weeks, you can slowly work up to starting a conversation with a total stranger.
Each baby step builds your experience, allowing you to gradually progress from novice to expert without feeling overwhelmed. Make each training step as small as you want. Face mild challenges that you're fairly confident you can complete. Feel free to repeat as many reps as you need until you feel ready for the next step. You control the pacing.
By following this progressive-training process, you'll accomplish two things. First, you'll stop reinforcing the fearful avoidance patterns you exhibited in the past. Second, you'll condition yourself to act more courageously in future situations. Your fear will diminish while your courage grows!
After a while, as Emily Lane says, you might even be able to turn your fear into excitement...:-). here is what she says about it:
EMILY LANE "How to turn fear into excitement"
To watch the video, CLICK HERE!
If you resonate with these ideas, you are more then welcome to join us next week:
Love & Light
Max Leone & The Conscious Living Dublin Team