Pressure Points

by enaD

This is a simple idea to transition/ phase-shift (to ‘the next level’) or break/remove negative pressure and tension.

The premise of this assumes that there will be transitions to make and/or that negative tension may surface or present itself during the PU. Not to be used in S1, S2 or S3 (you’ll see why). Useful if the situation goes off track.

I call it these situations Pressure Points because it's an analogy that works well. In any situation, obstacles may present themselves. Obstacles can be boring conversation, an actual person intruding on the PU, nervousness that is preventing your transition, etc. And in these situations this is a simple technique that is very malleable and can be applied to alleviate any of these ‘imposing forces’ with just a few words and actions. Pressure Points are points of pressure (tension), a way to really effectively communicate to the girl to transition (phase-shift). I.E., You are pinching the pressure point. (How you do this and what it will accomplish will be up to you.)

It can work to re-gain Frame Control, Transitioning, Handling Situations, Kino Escalation, Humour, Flirtiness/Sexiness, etc.

I’ll give you a few examples to demonstrate what Pressure Points are:

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1. Breaking up with a girl that is not a girlfriend – turning a low-energy interaction into a high-energy interaction, Kino escalation.

Girl comes over. We’re watching a movie in my bedroom on my bed. For whatever reason I am just not feeling it, and if I wasn’t feeling it, I doubt that she was. I wanted to get laid and I had not previously had sex with her although we’d hung out before and she was digging me. So, to mix things up and get things playful and fun but also to advance the situation I say:

Me: (initiating Pressure Points): *sits up and grabs her hands, serious tonality* Listen, there’s something I’ve been wanting to talk to you about and I think its only fair – for both of us – that I be honest with you right now.
HB: *concerned* What do you mean?
Me: Well, I don’t think if this is really the right time or not but I can't pretend any more and I think I should be straight up with you…
HB: What? Is something the matter?
Me: Yea, something is the matter.
HB: What is it?? Is everything ok? You can tell me.
Me: Well, the time we’ve spent together has been awesome, I’ve had a great time and I hope you have had fun too and it’s not that I don’t want this to stop or anything but…
HB: What are you trying to say? I don’t understand. Awww.
Me: *looks downward, serious/sad face and voice, slightly disappointed* Well, like I said I’ve enjoyed myself with you and we’ve had some fun but I think we’re just two different people on two very different paths. We’re just in different places and I duno… its nothing personal or anything…
HB: Ohmygod… are you serious? Awww. What happened? What's the matter?
Me: Well, I think we should break up.
HB: blah blah blah
Me: I know but I think I’m breaking up with you. Things just aren’t working out how I thought they’d be. I mean, if you think we can work through this and if you want to give this a second try, I guess I’d like to but.
HB: Yes, we can make this work, don’t worry, blah blah blah
Me: Well, I think we should kiss and make up, don’t you? *don’t wait for answer, just kiss*

Boom – we have great sex. The whole situation is resolved and at the end of it she says “See? Aren’t you glad we made up?” playing along. We’ve been friends with benefits ever since and see each other regularly.


We were watching a funny movie and I was making her laugh but it was low-key and relaxed. I took her through a roller coaster of emotions. My body language was saying one thing and my words another. She ended up being happy to give the imaginary relationship another try and was turned on at that point. At first she was very drawn in and was very taken by it – I thought she was about to cry! I couldn’t believe it! – and finally she realized that I was joking but couldn’t help feeling the words and my contrasting touching (I was also stroking her fingers and leg).

This is a pretty powerful ‘routine’ though so be careful.

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2. Day2 – Having a coffee with a female in a coffee shop. Amping the energy, Kino escalation, doublespeak + flirting.

Me: So what do you do again?
HB: I work at X and go to school at Y.
Me: Really? Interesting, tell me more! *intense EC*
HB: Well, blah blah blah…
Me: No way! *Intense EC*
HB: Yea, blah blah blah –
Me: C’mon?! *lightly hits her arm + bedroom eyes*
HB: Seriously, and blah blah blah
Me: That’s crazy! I can’t believe that! *bedroom eyes, slides hand down her arm*
HB: blah blah blah!
Me: *holds her hand* Wow!
HB: Are you serious or joking?!?! *laughs* you’re cute.
Boom – she asks for sex “Do you want to go play?”(I had to get to work unfortunately).

All I did was have my body language say one thing and allowing my words to interrogate her to the point of oblivion – at which point she realizes the whole time I didn’t care at all and was joking with her. She likes it (laughs) and is turned on by my actions at the same time.

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3. In Other News…

HB: blah blah blah
Me: So, *said sternly and clearly, in a news reporter voice* In Other News… did you see those two girls fighting outside? / Please don’t look at my breasts when you talk to me, its rude! / Do you floss before or after you brush? / lets go dance / lets change the subject, this is boring / how about them mad cows? / etc.

Start up a routine or get yourself back on track in how you run your game.

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4. Handling an AMOG

Chatting it up with a female and a guy tries to come up on you guys.

You say - its very simple - "Hey man, How are you doing? Good. Ok, listen we're trying to have some conversation here and we'd like to be alone right now, ok? Thanks"

Simple as that! The girl will respect the fact that you were straight up ALOT. You got rid of the guy, and if he sticks around he's being disrespectful and will look like a tool. You just told him you did not want him there! The girl hears that you want to be alone and *talk*, even though you didn't actually say it to her directly. If her friends come by she's expected to say the same to them, and if that guy WAS your friend its cool, you're letting him know you don't need a wing or anything like that.

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Ultimately, you want to freeze the situation and snap her out of it, hook her attention, draw her in and then take it from there. The key in this working is bringing her up, or down, to your level of energy (to effectively draw her in). The above were 4 different examples of using the idea of pressure points. It saves me thinking about structure and helps me to focus more and have fun in the moment. On top of that, when those Pressure Points present themselves it allows me to play with the situation a bit and have some fun, as opposed to getting nervous and anxious, can’t think of what to say and all that other negative stuff.

Use discretion and calibrate the situation and target to see if you should address the pressure point directly or indirectly.

This can be used in a multitude of ways in any situation. It can be combined with humour, seriousness or pacing the reality. It can be used in the first minutes or on a day2 or day3, etc.

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Summary: When you have difficulty phase-shifting, create tension and then release it. Bring her up or down to your energy level.

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