Do you feel vulnerable proposing a date, initiating sex, asking for love?
If your proposal is denied, will you feel that you actually don’t need them anyways (self-control as a strategy)? Or,
Do you avoid feeling of needs or desire for a partner by having multiple but casual partners (unfaithful as a strategy)?
Do you feel that career development and relationship are mutually exclusive since we can’t have enough time for both?
Do you consider that independence means avoidance or self-denial? Or
Do you feel that independence should include honestly expressing your desires without feeling shame or guilty?