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XLB 101: Crash Course for New Members

user 4299627
Long Beach, CA
XLB 101: Crash Course for New Members

Hey party people! We have new members constantly getting on board the XLB Party Train and we often find ourselves answering the same questions about our group. So here's a crash course for new members (and maybe even some regulars) with helpful info on all things XLB (Explore Long Beach). If you still have questions or social apprehensions about attending our events, email one of the organizers and we'll hold your hand. No really, we like to hold hands. We like to make out too, but that's another email...

1. Don't be shy or nervous about showing up at your first event. We're all here to make friends and socialize. You'll never get off your couch if you don't come to an event. And you'll never come to an XLB event where no one talks to you...we call ourselves a "warm & friendly bunch" for good reason and we're not kidding around.

2. We are not a dating group, though people have been known to find romance in our midst. We're actually having our first XLB wedding this spring. No, the bride and groom won't let us post it as a Meetup. Please don't send unwanted emails or post "pick up" messages to other members in the group (p.s. that "special" someone can clearly see that you have posted messages for a dozen or so other "special" someones). If you send unwanted emails or post unwanted messages to other group members, you will find yourself looking for a new Meetup. And if someone sends you unwanted emails, let an organizer know.

3. When you show up at an event for the first time: find the organizer, introduce yourself, and let them know you're new. You'll get introduced to other members (but you won't be expected to remember names). Sometimes there are table signs to indicate where the group is, but generally just look for the large group of people assembling as they greet each other with handshakes, hugs, & kisses...that's us!

4. Come to events as often as you like. Some members show up once a month or so, while some are in the mix a couple of times a week at least. We're no pressure when it comes to attendance, but we miss you when you stay away too long. And please don't become a chronic flaker: i.e. constantly signing up for events and then no-showing. We will remember who you are and you might find yourself 86ed from other events.

5. Sometimes the RSVP list for events fills up quickly. There are usually good reasons why an organizer limits the number of RSVPs for their event, but often that number can get stretched so more can get in on the fun. If an event is full and there is a waitlist option--simply waitlist yourself. If space becomes availabe, you'll get a chance to move up and you'll get an email letting you know. Please do not crash events!

6. If an event doesn't give you the option of RSVPing "Yes", that means either the event is full (waitlist yourself) or the organizer has closed the "Yes" option for other reasons (pending payments, time constraints, etc.). Waitlist yourself and be patient. Sometimes new spots open up at the last minute.

7. If an event doesn't give you the option of RSVPing "Maybe", well, that one should be pretty self-explanatory... that means the organizer is looking for more of a commitment and needs a definite head count. For those events you need to get all in or all out!

8. Try to keep your RSVP info for an event up to date. If your plans change, take a second to change your "Yes" to a "No". This is especially courteous if an event has tight RSVP restrictions. You may be required to change your RSVP comment to the word "paid" or "confirmed", depending on the event...or find yourself booted off the "Yes" list. It helps if you READ your emails and follow along!

9. If you don't want to attend an event and don't want to get email reminders, RSVP as a "No" and that should take care of it--it's not a guarantee if the organizers aren't using their tools properly (ahem), but it should help eliminate a lot of your email in-box clutter.

10. After you have attended an event, please be sure to respond to the email asking you to "Rate Your Event". We love to hear your feedback. Unless, of course you are one of those people who feel compelled to always complain about something. Yeah, we already know the parking sucked and it took the bartender awhile to serve all 1,000 of us. Go write a Yelp review if you have pent up anger about the venue. Seriously, POSITIVE feedback is welcome, but save any negativity for some other area of your life or we may give your barstool to someone with a sunnier disposition.

11. Get to know the organizers--there are several in XLB. You can find individual organizers listed for the specific events they are organizing (look near the top of any event listing). Please keep in mind that organizers do what they do for the fun of it--it's not a paying gig, party people, so be kind! Each individual organizer is responsible for planning and hosting their OWN events. Do NOT email Joseph about an event unless he is listed as the organizer for that specific event (he gets enough email already).

12. Please post a picture of YOU on your XLB profile--it helps us identify you at meet-ups and claim you as one of our own. If you don't have a picture, let us know at an event and we'll snap one for you and upload it to the site. We're helpful like that.

13. A first name on your profile is good too...clever handles are great, but we're never sure how to address you or how to refer to you to other people. If you have a common first name it's good to add an extra initial or something else that sets you apart (i.e. Geo John or Mike D.). We often assign a nickname (after we get to know you) when we have an abundance of members with the same first name so everyone knows which person is which (just ask any Kevin how well this works). We don't recommend using your last name in your profile name!!

14. Have fun, party people!!! That's the most important XLB tip of all. Get in the mix and get some on you. You'll meet lots of interesting new people, make new friends, and perhaps never see your couch again. Yay.

XLB was established by Joseph, our Fearless Leader, with it's first meet-up at The Crab Pot on July 23, 2007. XLB stands for Explore Long Beach (an 'X' standing in for "Explore" sounds way sexier than an 'E'...try it out yourself if you don't believe us). We are NOT a "dating" or "singles" group...we call ourselves social networkers (and party people). The majority of our members are in their 30s, 40s, and 50s and live in Long Beach or the surrounding areas...we also have younger and older members, single people, dating people, married couples, gay, straight, ambiguous, people from behind the Orange Curtain, LA dwellers, good at Math, bad at Spelling, ones with funny accents, geeky types, arty types, sporty types...pretty much all types. We like everyone--as long as they are nice, friendly, and want to have fun. Now you know.
user 4299627
Long Beach, CA
Post #: 85
Updated 9/5!
Cypress, CA
Post #: 1
Hi Nicky - I am a new member and thank you much for the info. It definitely adds to comfort level of showing up alone for the time.
A former member
Post #: 1
A former member
Post #: 1
I don't feel so afraid now. Thanks for the Crash Course.
Long Beach, CA
Post #: 1
Unfortunetely I haved moved from the South Bay area and am living in the high desert. Could you pls tell me how to eliminate receiving meetup emails from XLB, and start receiving them from Victorville area??
Laura Nicks
Joseph The C.
user 4027645
Group Organizer
Long Beach, CA
Post #: 36

My suggestion to you would be to go to your profile account and remove yourself from the XLB group. That will stop our emails. Then start searching for groups in your area using the search option. You will have to change your location by putting in a new zip code. Good luck.

Laurie K.
Long Beach, CA
Post #: 3
Thanks so much for the crash course info! I'm looking forward to meeting all of you :)
Ella C.
user 36736102
Santa Monica, CA
Post #: 1
Thank you I like the crash course.
user 183294885
Long Beach, CA
Post #: 1
excellent ! thank you
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