April 13th - Social - We will have some conversation starters at the tables. But this is your time to mingle around and meet everyone! Part of the joy of Friends First is building those relationships.
April 27th - Workshop - Red Flags - more details soon.
We are doing a workshop once a month and a social the other Sunday.
We look forward to seeing you this Sunday and SUNDAY TWO WEEKS FROM NOW.....
Exciting Workshops to Come!
Lori G, the Queen of our Chat Rooms and her trusty “side kick” Dee, brought along a couple of newbies that we all met through chat and had the great fortune to meet in person. It was so great to meet them! I think the new people, Barb and Sri, will tell you all that it was not as difficult as they feared, to get out of the house and come meet new people. As a matter of fact, when I left, they were both there enjoying the evening talking with new friends, with smiles on their faces by the way!
THAT is exactly what our socials and workshops are about. Bringing good people together to enjoy friendship, learn something new and to help others along their journey of
healing and putting themselves back together and creating a new, more exciting
and better life.
So, now the start of our workshops are upon us!
In talking to my co-horts, Queen Lori G and our new friend Steven Urich, we are working together to create a series of interesting, insightful and informative workshops.
Here is the outline of what we are working on:
There will be three levels of our workshops and in each level, there will be several workshops designed to help people through important stages of building a better life for themselves and for dating.
What we will need though is people of all experience levels. You may read the descriptions of each of these workshops and you may not think some of these workshops are for you because you have already been through and experienced what we are working on.
WRONG! There are others going through that very same thing and they are going to need YOUR experience and input! So these workshops are for all! You will find that it is beneficial for you in either learning something new or by sharing your experience and knowing that you helped someone else.
The first level
over view: Learning about YOU. This is where we will explore through our
workshops about learning how to deal with your emotions and helping you figure
out how to get through the difficult stages of loneliness, finding optimism,
the woes of thinking about starting over (“where do I begin?”), learning how to
get out and make friends and how to begin to help yourself think about the life
you WANT and creating the life that YOU design and not just take what is dealt
to you. In essence, this whole level is about YOU. ( workshops: DUMPING YOUR BAGGAGE, UNDERSTANDING CO-DEPENDENCY, DESIGING MEN AND WOMEN-DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT, GET OUT OF THE GATE/STARTING OVER and more!)
The second level
over view: Learning about OTHERS. This level will explore what you NEED
to learn about others. Do you ever think WHY did I make that mistake? WHY did I not see who that person really
was? This level will help you learn about body
language, personality disorders, what and how the other sex thinks, the
expectations and needs of the opposite sex.
This is all so very important to learn so that you will make wiser
choices in the people you date and who you choose to have a serious
relationship with. (workshops: RED
FLAGS, WHAT IS A BODY SAYING, EXPECTATIONS: What do men want? What do women
want?, WHY DO MEN/WOMEN CHEAT, SEX-5 part series on sexuality over 50, after
divorce and widowhood and in dating)
Level three over view:
Maintaining, nurturing and creating an exciting and rewarding relationship. In this level we will explore how to put life and enjoyment into and maintain a really wonderful relationship. Yes, we all need to learn how to get out of the door and how to actually get out there and date. But what happens when you DO find the person that you are going to have a serious relationship with? Who teaches you those skills? Did your parents? Did your teachers? Most likely NOT! I know mine didn’t. We observe others and see what good and bad relationships look like but how do we know HOW to achieve that for ourselves? HOW do we maintain that? If you are out there dating, it is likely that you ARE going to meet someone! It may happen right away or it could take years but wouldn’t you want to know what those key things are to insure that this next relationship is the last one that you have?
We are currently working on these workshops because we have never done this part before! This is exciting and new so keep your eyes posted on the site to find out what those workshops are going to be about.
For those of you that are new, here is what to expect from
You will enter and pay the workshop fee ($5.00) and receive a name tag. Handouts and note paper and pen will be on the tables at each place setting.
The first half an hour is social. Come in, choose your table/moderator that you wish, drop your coat on the back of the chair, write your name on the back of your hand out so as to hold your place, grab a drink and make the rounds to meet and socialize with others. Some people bring snacks-chocolates, candies, cookies, deserts or chips to share with their table mates.
We will ring a bell bringing you all back to the tables. Once everyone takes a place then we will do the whole room meet and greet where everyone will get up and make it around the room shaking hands, (some hug!) and meet each other! It just so happens when people first come in they start talking to old friends and they don’t get to meet everyone, so this just loosens everyone up and becomes fun!
From there we will take our seats and then I will give you the overview of what the workshop is all about. Lori and I will explain what we are hoping to that each of you achieve in that particular workshop.
START TIME: 4-4:30 check in, meet and greet
4:45-5:00-Explanation/overview of what the workshop is about
5:00-5:45 Workshop-10 people to each table with one moderator. Some of our moderators have their own celebrity and draw a following to their tables. Each one of them has a moderator outline to help guide you through the workshop.
5:45-6:00-Bathroom and drink break
6:00-6:30-wrap up of workshop
6:30-7:00 group discussion and sharing of what we learned. People can stand up and share their thoughts and insights from their table.
7:00-?? We all go to the main floor where they have reserved tables for us. There you are on your own tab for drinks and whatever you choose for dinner. You don’t have to eat but at least come and socialize! Believe it or not he conversations from the workshops follow some upstairs and people share their thoughts.
BENEFITS: You will meet some of the kindest, compassionate and caring people through the workshops! GREAT friendships are made when sharing laughter, tears, thoughts, feelings, information, drink and food! There are several things that you will take away from the workshops: learning new ideas, learning new information, hope for the future and friendships! I have seen our group grow from just being people in a room to people with warm friendships, welcoming new and old friends and even the change from sad or lost to happy and being people that are now moving forward!
Rules of the workshops:
EVERYONE gets a turn to share their thoughts, experiences and feelings about the subject. Remember this is an interactive workshop. YOU are part of what happens there.
Tempers are not allowed. You can share your thoughts and feelings but must do so with class. Loss of temper will not be tolerated.
CRUDENESS is not appreciated. Some of our subjects may lend toward sex, feelings about how men and women behave or a number of other touchy subjects. We can talk about anything and everything but we keep things out of the gutter. There is much laughter sometimes when we talk about things and clean, playful humor is very much enjoyed by all.
YOUR MODERATOR RULES.
He or she is your leader and you are asked to follow their lead. If they say your time is up, your time is up. In the past, we have had some people that tried to hog the conversation or take over from the moderator. If I get a tip from the moderator that they are having issues with someone who is ill-behaved, I will then intervene. It know we are all adults, but some don’t know how to play well with others. This does not happen often but if it does it is dealt with.
Show of emotions is quite okay. Sometimes our subject matter touches the heart or the emotions and we are there for each other to assist. We usually have someone trained in our group that can and are willing to help assist when someone needs help. Remember, these workshops are to help us, each other and to move forward. Sometimes moving forward involves pain and emotions and those are not feelings that we should try to hide or be ashamed or embarrassed about. We have all been there!
Please keep your voices to a level that won’t interfere with the table next to you.
PLEASE--Thank your moderator at the end of the session.
Each of them are not getting paid to be sitting in that chair. They are donating their time, compassion and skills to help each of you get something valuable and meaningful out of the experience. When you pay your $5.00 at the door, that money goes towards the moderator’s dinner and materials to create the workshops.
I do not do these workshops as a business. Heck, by the time I create and work on the
workshop materials, setting up the tables, decorating them and cleaning up and hosting the dinner hours afterwards, I am in the hole for my time and money spent. The workshops are a mission in my life and I enjoy creating them and seeing the good that comes from them. I have a job and do not rely on the workshops for revenue. I have expenses of Meetup web site, gas to and from workshops and events, decorations for tables, name tags, markers, paper, printing of hand outs, pens and paper for tables, candy for tops of tables, research materials (books-cd’s and such), the cost of my own food and drinks and a host of other trivial items. So please understand, this is important to me and I take the workshops seriously. It is my way of giving back to those that bring great things to my life. I LEARN JUST AS MUCH AS YOU ALL DO when I create and execute each workshop! It is a win-win!
So please mark your calendars for the next scheduled Sunday when we will start! I will be posting the name and the description of this next workshop some time in mid-week, so keep your eyes on your mail and sign up and come on out and enjoy a great evening with us!
Welcome back our past moderators-Lori G, Marybeth, Little Diane and Ximena. A warm welcome to a newbie-Sue who has offered to step in to moderate!
So friends, take a seat and put on your seat belts! This is going to be a bumpy, FUN and exciting ride! LOL
Thanks and hope to see you all there!
Fena, Lori, Steven and all our wonderful moderators!