Des Plaines, ILUSA
June 3, 2009
To expand my social horizons & find that elusive "friend/lover" guy. It’s so hard to know where people are coming from: some still burning from divorce, many confused, afraid to connect, or wanting purely to be social. Straight upfront: I’m looking for a friend & lover - both. Won’t have the lover without the friend, tho you can have the friend without the lover part! It’s something that has to be felt out, but that’s where I’m at – wanting BOTH. Friend & lover means mutual respect & support--however imperfect, but the intent must be mature & considerate. The “lover” part is always initially experimentation, which is great if it works…and I miss it! I do not want to get married (mix assets), live together or support someone. Ideally I would like the long term relationship “friend/lover” combo that is reliable, but gives us room to be ourselves too. But shorter term is better than nothing!
SINGLE- never married, no kids. I've been in healthy long term relationships while living separately & seeing each other alot - providing mutual support. No legal contracts tho & no divorce fees.
I am comfortable talking with all types of people about many different subjects. So I'm somewhat of an Extrovert, but never loud!! I also seldom vie to be the center of attention, but won't get too upset if so. I love to have fun, but also take life seriously in that I examine of lot of different subjects in this life with depth. I believe it's important to live life with a sense of purpose about who we choose to be & how that affects others (including humans, animals & the planet as a whole).
My intelligence & my creativity. Also a sense of humor. I love humor as a means of diversion from the tedious aspects of life & humor can promote reflection. I cannot help but reflect on things; it's in my DNA, I suppose. I'm told I have a split brain: a very logical/analytical side & a VERY creative side. The creative side needs more freedom!
I love creative activities & this is what I get to do least - partially because I have no one to share these things with. I do regular partner dancing, but want to get back into piano. Enjoy any creative outlet: comedy, good writing, theatre, LOVE music, dance. I write poetry & some humorous things periodically. I also volunteer with animals which I LOVE, but became allergic to them again. Also enjoy young children, tho I don't have much access to any. I joined this & some other groups because I'm doing too many things alone! The interests are there; but I need my "friend/lover" guy with me sometimes!
Been single a LONG time looking for my "Friend/Lover" guy. I have several interests: dancing, music, biking, fitness, nature, animals, more. I'm a very creative, intelligent & emotionally mature person w/ fun ideas. Are you stable & still ticking?
Excellent group, but we always need more men!! You can't all be dead already! Get out of your rut & come on over. Guys & gals - bring your men friends!! That's an order (please). Very friendly group.