Article that might be interesting to those of you that are dating.

From: Fena
Sent on: Thursday, December 13, 2012 7:10 AM

Hi Friends,

This is an article from a blog that was sent to me.  I read the article and thought that I would share it with all of you. 

Interesting.  Let me hear your feedback!

Fena

http://blog.mytre.at/post/34423598137/wendy-walsh-interview-dating Dating Interview: Junk Food Sex Just as Dangerous as Junk Food with Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh is a thought leader on dating and relationships. Her advice can be found on CNN, DatingAdvice.com, or her books like “The Girlfriend Test” or her upcoming book The 30-Day Love Detox. Today she shares her take on how technology has affected dating as well as other insight’s she’s gained through her work.

 

You have had no shortage of dating advice questions asked of you. From all the questions you’ve receive what are the common themes you’ve noticed from men? From women?

Men mostly want to know when and how to meet women, and women have trouble reading men’s intentions. Makes sense. So many men stumble through the emotional steps toward love and women, who tend to be emotional savants who vigilantly monitor every communication, are sometimes at a loss to understand men. My suggestion to both genders: text less. Talk more. It will reduce the number of confusing signals.

You lecture on evolutionary psychology as it relates to human mating behaviors. What is one thing you’ve learned from modern human mating rituals that stems from evolutionary psychology that might surprise people?

I believe we have acquired our craving for junk food sex as honestly as our craving for salt, sugar and saturated fat — because they were trace and vital nutrients in our anthropological pasts. It was a lucky odd hunter who entered our female village sporting the delicious scent of new genes to add to our gene pool. But in today’s fast world salt, sugar and fat are as prevalent and dangerous as the hundreds of potential sexual partners that cram ever subway, nightclub and Facebook page. Survival, of course, will go to the smartest. Those who practice a brand of slow love that leads to longterm nests for offspring.

How has modern technology (Internet, cell phones, social networks, etc…) changed the dating and relationship game? Or is it the same game just in a slightly different skin?

Technology is making us addicted to dating and the dopamine impulse that comes with a sexy text, an email from a new suitor, or a facebook friend request. Dating used to be a ritual used to select a partner for marriage. Today it is a stand-alone hobby and it is fueled by the increase in romantic opportunity partially provided by technology.

Some people have said that modern technology has made people’s social skills worse as people often spend more time in front of screens rather than in the company of other people. What is your take?

Absolutely. Relying on digital communication is like listening to your favorite band without the lead singer or the drummer. It is void of vocal tone, body language, facial expression, and pheromones.

When it comes to dating and relationships do you think reality shows (say for example “Real Housewives of New York” or “Keeping up with the Kardashians”) offer any educational benefits?

Nope. Nothing at all. Bad relationship modeling for the most part

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