|Sent on:||Sunday, March 3, 2013 11:33 PM|
Our recent workshops were "off the charts" GREAT because of our wonderful moderators!
I would like to take a moment to thank each and every moderator that participated. YOU made the workshops what they were! I do the research, write and bring together the material but it is YOU who makes/brings the workshop to reality and to life. Each and every personality that participated as a moderator, created their own feel/warmth/style and brand of their table.
What started out as a group event became wonderful sub-group events! Each moderator had their own personality and flair that made their table stand apart from others. Lori started a really neat thing of bringing dark chocolate for her table and as we progressed through the workshops, members and moderators alike brought their own goodies for their tables. Each table became their own little communities where they were "family" that shared with each other. Not just their thoughts but their food! What an amazing transition.
When people come together and individuality is allowed and inspired, amazing things can happen! People bring their gifts and their ideas and what started out as a good workshops became GREAT workshops!
As most of you know, I practice the Lakota Indian faith (I am American Indian and Swedish by heritage). In a spiritual Lakota discussion group on Saturday night, we were talking about how organizations fall down because someone takes a leadership role and others support that LEADER role and when too much faith and too much given power is put upon someone, one person--an individual, the organization starts to fall apart. It is just inevitable. It is through not leading, but walking with others that keeps the spirit alive. That is the consensus among each of us in that discussion.
I find that to be true in our group. Yes, I am the person that started the group and I am responsible for holding a leadership position to a certain degree. But as we discussed this topic on Saturday, what thought came to my mind was this.....Don't walk ahead of me, Don't walk behind me....walk WITH me.
Empowerment is the life blood of any group! Wow...what an amazing realization that I had! I was thinking of the transition of how our workshops have gone through. It started with a bunch of us talking in my back yard, to me putting together the workshop and trying to do it by myself, to last year, finally realizing that it would take many people to pull of such sizable work shops.
Over the last year, since our first Sexuality workshop, the transition has begun. Last year when the first group of Sexuality Part A started and it was TOO large for me to handle. Because I found that very day and that moment that I COULD NOT handle the whole group, I had no choice and I asked someone at each table to take over that table and the moderator position began.
As the workshops progressed, more moderators came on board.
At this last series of workshops, moderators from last year returned and other new ones joined them. What was born of that was small communities of friends joining other friends at a specific moderator's table.
Ximena, Meg, Lori, Rich and Marybeth, Cindy, Diedre, JoAnn, fTom and Diane, Greg, Jeannie, ....damn...I know that I am forgetting someone! I just can't think of them all at this moment because I am writing from my heart and feelings and not looking up everyone who participated as a moderator by name.....but you each know who you are and all the members know who you are! So, if I forgot someone's name, please forgive me!
Two workshops ago, the management at Moretti's, Jon and our servers, (great servers and great management team--Jon and Al) convinced me that we would be better served to do a buffet instead of breaking up to go upstairs for dinner. Little did I know that not only would we have great food and service but what else would happen would be another aspect of a deepening relationship would be formed as a result.
By not having to break up and go upstairs, people filled their plates half way through the workshop and rejoined their table and individual dinner parties at each table ensued! The sharing of food, conversation and great friends, created a warmth and closeness that is created when good friends dine together. There is something that happens when we "break bread" together! It changes the relationship between people!
Because we did not break up the group, people were less likely to go home and conversations lasted way beyond the workshop time.
As a matter of fact, when some people would vacate a table to go home, those left would join other tables and the conversations were no longer on the workshop topic but it became a group of friends laughing and talking and sharing friendship!
I am just floored at what a wonderful, warm, kind, spirit our group has taken on as a result.
Tonight, as I was getting ready to leave, there were goodbyes said. Warm hugs and reluctance to part company I think was felt by many. I know that was my feelings. I felt differently about those that I had shared an evening with. I was saying good bye to great friends and I was sad to bid farewell. I always feel that goodbye when we all part but this evening, this progression of our workshops and where they have grown and become has put an even deeper meaning and feeling into them for me and I think for others.
Each and every person that participated in this series of workshops has helped to change the lives of each person in attendance. New friendships were formed. People who knew each other got to really know each other better and as a result, deeper friendships were grown.
I can say this for myself, I really got to know many of you so much better and I know why this type of format works best for the workshops and our group. It gives each of us an true opportunity to KNOW others at our tables and at the event.
Again, I thank each of you wonderful men and women who moderated. Again, I thank each of you who attended. YOU made a huge difference in each other's lives and YOU made a huge difference in my life. With each workshop, I grow. In my attempt to teach and help each of you grow, it is I, who grows and learns from you. Thank you for that gift.
FYI, Our next workshop will be the second Sunday in April. I will be in Spain from the 17th of March until April 2.
Our next topic will be ONLINE DATING: The truths, the myths, the disappointments, the joys, HOW TO DATE ONLINE intelligently and purposefully. This will be REAL sharing from those that have dated online, to those that have never and are thinking about dating online. If you have something to share, by all means attend! If you want to learn the rubber meets the road truths, attend!
Have a GREAT week friends! Again, thanks for being each and every wonderful individual that you are. You matter and YOU make a difference.