Sharing Our Most Common Experience

Whether we’ve experienced the death of a loved one (or many), friend(s), colleagues, neighbors or family, or are contemplating our own death in the future, death is the one common experience human beings share.

Come prepared to talk about your own experiences of how you have faced the death of someone you knew, what you view about your own death at this point in time and other thoughts you may have about this important transition.

Some of us believe that it is the body alone that dies and what we call “spirit” continues.  Others may believe that when you die, that’s it, everything stops. There are as many ways to explain death as there are people.  But one thing is certain, we will all do it.

Whether we admit it or not, most of us fear Death.  Some of the discomfort with death and the process of dying comes about because it has been removed from our common experience.  Many of us were taught not to talk about death, to “get over it” at a certain point after someone close to us has died. Our language often reflects this.  Phrases like passed on, kicked the bucket, gone to a better place are common.  What has been your experience with viewing death, what were you taught and how do you view it now in your own Third Trimester of Life?

It's what connects us as human!

 

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  • caroline k.

    Wow! Never expected our group to swell to 20! You controlled us well, Sandy! Everyone had a chance to speak and all had such diversity of perspective! LOVED it!

    1 · June 21, 2013

  • Kathy R.

    This was my first meet up and I had a wonderful experience. I enjoyed all the different "energies" of everyone there and Sandy is a wonderful gift to the community. Thank all of you for being who you are. I may be in "cooler" Colorado for the next meeting but will be there in Spirit.

    2 · June 19, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      thanks Kathy and glad to have you anytime! I'll be "cooling off" in Oregon next week too. Our next two meetups are scheduled for July so hope to see you then.

      June 19, 2013

  • cheryl

    Another great discussion led by our fabulous facilitator, Sandy

    2 · June 18, 2013

  • Sarah Anne M.

    It was awesome as usual.

    1 · June 18, 2013

  • Sandy M.

    Excellent participation, depth of shares, diversity (as usual) of experiences. We laughed, we cried and I believe we were all touched by many perspectives about the death of loved ones and the anticipation of our own death. Thanks so much for a wonderful meetup. We had several new visitors who fit right in from the get go. Grateful for the quality of this meetup.

    1 · June 18, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I just realized that most if not all of this groups meetups are in the East of Tucson. I live near Oro Valley, so I am going to concentrate on meeting people closer to home.

    June 18, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Sandy, wanted to give you a heads up. We are having 6 friends and people from our community coming to the meeting. They are new. See you tomorrow.

    June 17, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      Fabulous DeAnna. they are most welcome and I will be sure we have enough room for all. Have you shown them the meetup post, i'm sure they are aware of the topic, but it might get them more up to speed too. Look forward to seeing you all. Thanks for the heads up.

      June 17, 2013

  • Sandy M.

    Well thanks again to member Carol Berger for finding this wonderful article on a "Death Club" that's been meeting in NYC. Check it out if you are interested. I'll bring a few copies to the meetup tomorrow as well.

    http://newoldage.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/06/16/death-be-not-decaffeinated-over-cup-groups-face-taboo/

    June 17, 2013

  • Karen L.

    Sorry - other commitments

    June 14, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      it happens. see you next time or soon. Always welcome

      June 17, 2013

  • Brenda J.

    Sorry, I have drop out again. I thought the summer would bring more days in the week.

    June 14, 2013

  • Sandy M.

    Thanks to Suzy Hunt for this find in The New York Times thought of the day. How perfect for our next discussion!!!

    "Death and grief are topics avoided at all costs in our society. If we talk about them, maybe we won't fear them as much."

    1 · June 17, 2013

  • caroline k.

    Looking forward to see Y'all!

    1 · June 16, 2013

  • Brenda J.

    I so happy to see the words death, dying, died used. When did it become so common to use euphemisms?

    1 · June 12, 2013

  • Brenda J.

    I have volunteered with hospice for many years, and find people always want to talk about the same thing at the end. This will be great discussion!

    1 · June 12, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I am dying to come... (I did write that, Lol) Couldn't resist.

    1 · June 10, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      great Elizabeth. That's the spirit!

      June 11, 2013

  • Sandra K.

    The two most important people to me, who have died did not look like themselves when I saw their bodies. Their soul was not there.
    I have never feared death. It is just another door! And I do not care what is on the other side. I will cope with what ever it is as I have coped with this life.

    1 · June 7, 2013

    • Sarah Anne M.

      Loved that and it is so true just on to another adventure.

      June 7, 2013

  • Valerie C.

    On a road trip to Orlando, FL. with family enjoying ourselves. Will be gone until last week of August. Enjoy the summer! Will find time to add my thoughts.

    June 7, 2013

  • Karen L.

    It's been said "the point of spiritual practice is preparation for death."
    But, Sandy dear, it's not what makes us human - it's what we share will all life forms. Animals, plants, insects - all of creation. Like sex, it's universal. And looking into both sex and death scares the poop out of lots of folks. But that's life!!!!!

    2 · June 7, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      well said Karen. Hope you will bring your wisdom next Tuesday.

      June 7, 2013

  • Karen L.

    I'll try to make it.

    1 · June 7, 2013

  • Sarah Anne M.

    I would hve a whole lot to share to this meeting.

    1 · June 6, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      that's what it's all about Sarah, look forward to hearing your conversation

      June 7, 2013

  • Lea G.

    yes - being present at someone's moment of death is a unique and significant experience. Good idea! Sorry I missed last time - it's fun to blush about sex, too. After all, that's the inevitable consequence of death - oh, my! Lea

    1 · June 7, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      I have often said that Death is the ultimate teacher, Lea, I have always found it so too.

      June 7, 2013

  • Sandra O.

    I am looking forward to going to your meet up. I currently work during the day but I will not have that job by end of June. You seem to have some good conversation ideas.

    June 7, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      Hopefully, you can come to one of our social outings, we try and have once a month and usually on the weekends or in the evenings.

      June 7, 2013

  • Sandra O.

    I cannot come but I wish I could. Soon I will come to your this meetup.

    June 7, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      you are always welcome, Sandra. I know it is difficult at times to coordinate. I look forward to meeting you soon.

      June 7, 2013

  • Joanne Chimi D.

    I'll be on vacation. Look forward to seeing you all again in July.

    1 · May 29, 2013

    • Sandy M.

      thanks for letting us know Joanne. Have a great trip

      June 4, 2013

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