Is it normal to feel "weird"

Hi everyone, this idea was suggested by another member of the group. It is a recurring theme discussed at these meetups! Here is a quote provided by another Infj from this group:

"INFJs often report feeling 'different' from others. Is that true in your experience? If so, does it bother you or are you okay with it? Is it a problem to feel different from others, and as INFJs what can we do to foster meaningful connections with others to reduce feelings of alienation? Do we need to find ways to communicate more of what is going on in our internal world with others in order to experience a greater sense of belonging, or is feeling different simply something we have to get used to?"

This meet up will be on a Tuesday, so the member who proposed the idea can attend. Hopefully this date is ok for most people.

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  • Tracey

    Thanks for everyone's thoughts and ideas. I personally think the meetups are more successful when the group is a lot smaller. In hindsight, I would've limited the no of people to about 10, although Ive been so busy lately with work/studying/voluntary work, and wasn't tracking the no of people attending. The outside sitting area at Leone's is more accommodating for groups, but we chose to sit inside because the weather was a bit chilly

    November 2, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Yes that is better venue. It's always gonna be difficult to find a decent venue that's free. I certainly appreciate your efforts Tracie. :)

      1 · November 3, 2013

    • Carmen B.

      Tue, thanks Tracie, it's a difficult job finding the right balance of people and the right venue.

      1 · November 3, 2013

  • Carmen B.

    Do you think that maybe more than the number of people it was more the setting? Maybe for a bigger group a place with a round table or a place where the group can be in a circle and be able to listen to each member, without music, I'm not sure where that maybe, but I thought that having more people brought more points and views. The problem was we sometimes couldn't follow and I guess some people didn't participate as much as they wished.

    2 · November 1, 2013

    • Manjit

      Staying on topic rather than digressing?

      November 1, 2013

    • Nico

      I think it basically worked well. The only problem was the old problem of finding a public space that is quite. Because that, in my view was the main problem. The aircon and the music was drowning out speakers at the other end of the table. But people weren't really talking over each other a lot.

      4 · November 1, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Good meeting but maybe too big a group

    2 · October 31, 2013

  • Carmen B.

    I thought we had really a intersting conversation, I'll be up to discuss more about intuition versus judgement, I believe intuition is an asset and if we learn to differentiate it from judgement and rationalisation, it can play massively in our advantage.
    I feel really good after INFJ meetup, as it makes me realise that after all, I'm quite normal.... quite normal for my type ;-) Great meeting you all!

    3 · October 31, 2013

    • Manjit

      I love chatting with you! :)

      1 · October 31, 2013

  • Tracey

    Thanks to everyone for a nice meeting. I learnt several things today, including the difference between intuition and judgement. Ill try arrange the next meetup in 3-4 weeks, with less people. The conversations are more inclusive when the group is smaller (IMO). Take care everyone

    1 · October 29, 2013

    • Manjit

      Or have two smaller groups led by yourself and the other by Pamela for example? Just a thought! Keeping the size to around 8 per group would be ideal.

      1 · October 30, 2013

    • Manjit

      Hi Tracie,
      Could you clarify what you mean by the difference between intuition and judgement? :))

      October 31, 2013

  • Rhoda

    It was lovely to meet everyone, thank you for having me as your guest from Bath! Lots of interesting discussion too, and several threads that I think would be really good to pursue, such as the one Tracey mentions about intuition versus judgement. Also I think it would be really interesting to continue talking about INFJs desire to 'go beyond.'
    Before the meetup I secretly wanted it to be INFJs only (!) but actually I felt the discussion was hugely enriched by having different types there so thank you also to the INFPs, INTJs and ENFPs for providing such a useful counterpoint.

    3 · October 30, 2013

    • Manjit

      :)))) From an ENFP ;)

      2 · October 30, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Lovely comment Rhoda. Great to meet you last night. Cathy the INFP :) x

      2 · October 30, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Hi everyone, thank you so much for letting me in to your group and making me feel so welcome last night. Great topic and some fascinating thoughts and stories. INFJs, what a lovely bunch.

    2 · October 30, 2013

  • Manjit

    Hi!

    For those who would like to add me on Facebook: Manjit Breyal

    I also have a closed group entitled 'Winners' which I will also add you to if you like. It is an inspirational page with quotes, thoughts and discussion -please join in! However, I will be in no way offended if you do not :)

    Have a great day everyone!

    Manjit xxx

    1 · October 30, 2013

  • Manjit

    It was an interesting topic. The sense of our need or desire to belong is fascinating. Is is simply a need to feel accepted?

    I would suggest that the group sometimes take a more practical route in addressing possible issues regarding improving communication skills such as work shops. I highly recommend Sam Power who does a lot of work on confidence and expressing yourself in authentic manner. You can check him out on meet up Master-Inner-Confidence-and-Overcome-Your-Fears-In-London if you are interested. Have a fab week everyone; you created a lovely atmosphere of warmth and acceptance at the meet up tonight. Thank you :))

    Please stay in touch!
    Manjit xxx

    1 · October 29, 2013

  • Tracey

    I'll be there from 6:45. Here is my work number in case you cant find us:07826943595. See you there :)

    October 29, 2013

  • Tracey

    We'll be sitting outside Leon's restaurant, on the table with the "INFJ Meet up" sign. I've limited the number of people who can attend, so the meet up is easier to manage. If you cant attend, it would be great if you changed your RSVP, so others can attend. Cheers

    October 28, 2013

  • Tracey

    Hey everyone, looks like there is alot of interest on this topic! looking forward to discussing with the group. It would also be interesting to look at the prevalence of all 16 types. The Myers Briggs foundation has useful info on the percentage of all the types in the US:
    www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/my-mbti-results/how-frequent-is-my-type.asp
    I couldn't find any for the UK, unfortunately

    October 27, 2013

  • Jean-Charles G.

    Looking forward to this too. Will try to grab a bite before turning up. Otherwise I'll need to sample Leon's menu I'm afraid whist working on my listening skills! ;)

    1 · October 27, 2013

    • Tracey

      See you there JC, the food (imo) is quite nice

      1 · October 27, 2013

  • Manjit

    Looking forward to this! :)))

    October 25, 2013

  • Mira

    looking forward to meeting you all

    1 · October 3, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Looking forward to this .....

    1 · September 23, 2013

    • Carmen B.

      Me too! I've been weird for so long that I quite like it by now :-p

      September 23, 2013

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