San Jose, CAUSA
November 3, 2012
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I'm infinitely curious.
Do you relentlessly pursue personal growth? Do you feel compelled to help others? Are you compassionate and sensitive to other people's feelings? Are you a "big picture" person? Do you prefer meaningful/substantive conversation? Do you feel like you have a sense of mission? Do you have deep feelings that you fear no one else truly understands? Do you prize friendly cooperation? If you do, you may be an iNtuitive Feeler (NF).
--==PURPOSE OF GROUP==--
Myers-Briggs (MBTI) iNtuitive Feelers (NF) / Keirsey (KTS) Idealists make up 12% or less of the U.S. population. The purpose of this group is to give iNtuitive Feelers a place to converse/interact/meetup with other iNtuitive Feelers. Since the other 3 core personality types account for 88% or more of the U.S. population, it is easy for iNtuitive Feelers to feel marginalized, suppressed, misunderstood, out of place, and alone (whether you are socially isolated or have lots of friends). You may find that when you are among other iNtuitive Feelers, you can be understood and appreciated for being your true self.
--==WHAT WE HAVE IN COMMON==--
The center two letters of your MBTI personality type describe your core personality. So the ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ, and INFP personality types share a common core of iNtuitive Feeling (NF). iNtuitive Feelers are often also the kind of "highly sensitive" people Elaine Aron describes in The Highly Sensitive Person. According to Dr. David M. Keirsey, all Idealists share the following core characteristics:
As a group, iNtuitive Feelers tend to be sensitive, expressive (using either the written or spoken word), ethical, and spiritual. iNtuitive Feelers tend to have extraordinary goals.
iNtuitive Feelers are often artists (writers, musicians, dancers, actors, painters, playwrights, poets, and so on), educators (teachers, professors, and so on), counselors (therapists, psychologists, coaches, and so on), photographers, journalists, and soft-skills trainers.
--==WHAT TO EXPECT==--
At meetups, you are welcome to share your thoughts and feelings, but you will not be "put on the spot" to do so. Likewise, please do not discourage others from sharing their thoughts and feelings. If you wish to attend a meetup, and say nothing, then that is fine. Since most attendees are introverts, I tend not to try to draw people out--instead letting people watch and then participate when comfortable. Meet 'n Greets and Tribe events are a good place to get started.
Many people know each other casually, and there is a growing core group of people who are friends; however, there are always new people attending, and the group is unfailingly warm and welcoming.
I ask for tolerance of the differences of expression between and different perspectives of the NF types, and for tolerance in general. Meetups are designed to encourage friendly social interaction (making friends), but this is not a "dating" meetup (though if you happen to find love, that's great!). It is a meetup (and not a meeting).
MBTI serves more as a starting point for discussion rather than as an end in itself. All iNtuitive Feelers are equally welcome to join and participate in general events. Some events will be Tribe events, and in that case the event is open to only the specified personality type (for example, ENFP Tribe).
--==MY ROLE, YOUR (POSSIBLE) ROLE==--
I see my role as maintaining a group core--that is, providing a consistent schedule at trusted venues in the same region. While I love hosting these Meetups, I am investing all the time I have, so I do not have much extra time to expand the group's activities, venues, or region.
But maybe you do! All members are encouraged to join this group and to post events. The growth of this Meetup group depends on member-generated inertia. Add events under "suggested" (be sure to include a venue, date, and time), and the event will be announced if either 2 more people RSVP for your event or you contact me regarding your Meetup event.
Some possibilities include:
Since I am trying to foster a community, I am open to input from members regarding all of the possibilities of what the group could be/do.
Tribe Meetups are Meetups limited to specific personality types. I envision that every type could potentially have a type-specific Meetup--in order to talk about type-specific issues (or to meet others of their type). I want to make sure people who are put off by the larger general Meet 'n Greets (which are quite large) have a chance to participate. Additionally, some members suffer from social anxiety on top of being introverts, so the type-specific Meetups are meant partly as a starting point for people to wet their toes in and get comfortable before splashing into the general iNtuitive pool.
Some, but not all, events are cross-posted with our sister/brother groups.
This page shows the geographical distribution of group members (but is out-of-date).
This page shows suggestions/ideas submitted by members regarding what to do at Meetups.
This member-edited page lists member suggestions for Meetup venues.
This member-edited page lists personality-related links and resources.
This page contains links to resources I have mentioned in Meetups.
--==IN WHAT CITIES ARE MEETUPS HELD?==--
Los Angeles, San Bernadino, and Orange counties makes up the actively developing area of this Meetup group. People living outside of these counties are still more than welcome to attend. Furthermore, any member can use this Meetup group to post Meetup events in their city (or any other). So you are welcome to expand participation and membership in your area (or any other)!
I, personally, schedule Meetups based on the following history of interest and turnout. Remember, this only influences my scheduling of event--not yours.
Pasadena: Very high interest; very high turnout.
Los Angeles: Medium interest; low turnout.
Claremont: No interest.
Fontana: High interest; very low turnout.
Long Beach: pending.
-------------====QUESTIONS YOU MAY HAVE/FAQ====-------------
Below, I have answered some questions you may have. If you have additional questions, feel free to e-mail me. We look forward to meeting you!
-CAN I ATTEND A MEETUP IF I DON'T KNOW MY MBTI TYPE?-
Yes, of course. Please feel free to attend.
If you are interested in learning about your personality type, you have a few different options:
Whichever option you decide on, remember that there are no wrong or right answers. There is no "wrong" or "right" personality type. The MBTI measures your cognitive process and not your actions. For instance, as an INFP, I have an introverted cognitive process, but my actions can sometimes be quite extroverted (like when I'm forming a Meetup.com group). When you take the test, try to answer instinctively and try to think about how you generally approach interpersonal relationships in your personal (non-work) life. Try not to think about specific people (such as romantic partners, co-workers, and so on), since we often make adjustments to the expression of our personality for certain people (for instance, spouses) or in certain situations (for instance, work).
Whichever option you decide on, I hope you enjoy learning a little something about yourself.
-CAN MY SPOUSE, PARTNER, BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND, OR FRIEND ATTEND A MEETUP IF HE/SHE/THEY DON'T KNOW THEIR MBTI TYPE OR HE/SHE/THEY ARE NOT INTUITIVE FEELERS?-
Yes, your significant others and friends are most welcome. A group member may (automatically) bring up to two other people. If a group member wants to invite more people than that, he/she need only contact me, first.
-ARE THERE DUES OR OTHER FEES? DO YOU MAKE A PROFIT FROM DOING THIS?-
There are no dues or fees associated with my group. In fact, it costs me money to maintain this group, but that cost is not passed on to you. I do not make a profit in any other way. I do not get any kickbacks from the websites listed above or from The Meyers & Briggs Foundation. If this group really takes off, the only thing I might ask you to do is B.Y.O.B.
-HOW DO I CONTROL HOW MUCH E-MAIL I GET?-
You can control which e-mail notifications you wish to receive here: http://www.meetup.com/account/comm/
--=I hope you decide to join, and we look forward to meeting you!=--
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