Breaking news - this event has been POSTPONED. Come to our one-day Intimate Transparency workshop Sat. 4/12 10 AM - 6 PM instead! http://www.meetup.com/New-Culture-Personal-Growth-Social-Change-Community/events/176139212/
“Transparency” in human relationships means openness and the lack of hidden agendas – “what you see is what you get.” When we have intense feelings, sometimes it is difficult to communicate our thoughts, feelings, and desires in a way that others can appreciate and understand. It can even be challenging to articulate these to ourselves.
This New Culture weekend focuses on the skillset of becoming transparent about our needs, desires, fears, hopes and dreams in a way that is truly effective and promotes closeness rather than separation. We will explore and practice how transparency relates to self-discovery, communication skills, emotional challenges, and nurturing our relationships.
Sliding scale: $150-$300 including meals and lodging, scholarship available
Led by Sarah Taub, Debby Sugarman, and Michael Rios
Register at http://www.instant.ly/s/z1bmo; send questions to [masked]
WHAT IS NEW CULTURE?
"New Culture" (http://www.nfnc.org/) is about creating sustainable, rich, intimate personal relationships, along with a sustainable world to enjoy them in, based on transparency, delight, freedom, and community. Though not specifically poly-focused, New Culture is 100% poly-friendly and many poly folks attend. In order to create a New Culture in our lives and in the larger society, we put on events that help us develop the skills we need to make that real, including communication, self-knowledge, presence, conflict resolution, and effective activism.
These events can be an evening or weekend, and some last 10 days or more, so that we can "live" New Culture and turn new skills into daily practices. You can see descriptions of many of the 4 day and longer events on the Web: Summer Camp East (Mid-Atlantic, July, http://www.cfnc.us/); Summer Camp West (Oregon, August, http://www.nfnc.org/sc); Cascadia Summer Camp (Oregon, July, http://www.ncnw.us/), Winter Camp Hawaii (http://www.newculturehawaii.org/); other events can be seen here: https://www.facebook.com/NewCultureSummerCampEast.
Along with building community skills, the New Culture community asks questions about what a healthy, violence-free culture might look like – for example, how do we raise children? How do we care for elders? What might intimate relationships look like? What’s an ethical and sustainable way to grow our food? We have lots of questions and not too many answers. The fun part is looking at these issues together and trying out possible solutions while we practice being non-attached, curious, and transparent and also being playful, creative, and connected. We have no gurus and no dogma – a diversity of opinions is welcomed and appreciated.
This weekend we’re taking a deep dive into the foundational skills and practices that support transparency in our lives. We’ll ground ourselves in a space of radical acceptance and radical empowerment, then practice the two phases of transparency. In Phase 1, we’ll work with self-acceptance and revealing tender truths while being held in a safe, supportive container. In Phase 2, we’ll learn to become the source of safety for ourselves and others – we’ll practice taking responsibility for creating the space and offering others what they need to open into transparency with us. When both phases have become a natural part of our lives, blame and shame lose their sting and relationships of all sorts flourish. We’ll explore these concepts both through discussion and through experiential, embodied processes.
We will begin at 8 PM Friday evening and continue through 4 PM on Sunday afternoon. People are welcome to arrive early and stay late - particularly if you help with set-up and clean-up! However, please do not *come* late; this is NOT A DROP-IN EVENT. We are creating a strong yet flexible container for deep work, and so we request that people arrive NO LATER THAN 8 PM Friday night for the opening circle / setting of intentions. We also encourage you to stay for as much of the event as possible; of course you may leave at any time. If you have special circumstances that do not allow you to be there by 8 PM, you may contact us to see if something can be worked out.
We will be serving optional dinners on Friday and Sunday at 6:30 PM - please indicate on the registration form if you would like to eat those meals with us.
Chrysalis Community, Arlington VA (DC suburb)
There will be several group sleeping spaces, with room for about 12 people. Mattresses and bedding will be provided, but please bring your own towels. If it is warm enough, people are welcome to tent in the yard.
WHAT TO BRING: games, musical instruments, healthy snacks to share, a cushion or backjack to sit on, towels, your joy and curiosity
WHAT TO LEAVE BEHIND: alcohol, recreational drugs, pets, fragrances and scented products (including “naturally” scented products)
SUGGESTED DONATION: $150-$300 including meals and lodging. We have scholarship available for those in need – please contact us at [masked]. If making a contribution in dollars presents a barrier for your joining us, we may be able to make arrangements for another kind of contribution; please contact us about this as soon as possible.
Meals will be delicious, healthy, vegetarian food; we will also serve fish in some form at least once during the weekend. We'll ask folks to help out with food preparation and clean-up at the event, so that the weekend goes smoothly for everyone.
Please register online at http://www.instant.ly/s/z1bmo. All participants must register online in advance – a Meetup RSVP is not sufficient. We have a limited number of spaces, and we expect to fill up! If you haven't registered but find you can attend at the last minute, give us a call [masked] or[masked]) to see if there's space for you. Directions will be sent once you register.
If you have any questions, contact us at [masked]!