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Who is a nice guy?

He is the relative who lets his wife run the show.
He is the friend who will do anything for anybody, but whose own life seems to be in shambles.
He is the guy who frustrates his wife because he is so afraid of conflict that nothing ever gets resolved.
He is the boss who tells one person what they want to hear, then reverses himself to please someone else.
He is the man who lets people walk all over him because he doesn't want to rock the boat.
He is the dependable guy at work who will never say "no," but would never tell anyone they were imposing on him
He is the man whose life seems so under control, until BOOM, one day he does something to destroy it all.

In general, nice guys share the following characteristics:

Nice guys seek the approval of others.
Nice guys try to hide their perceived flaws and mistakes.
Nice guys put other people's needs and wants before their own.
Nice guys sacrifice their personal power and often play the role of a victim.
Nice guys tend to be disconnected from other men and from their own masculine energy.
Nice guys co-create relationships that are less than satisfying.
Nice guys create situations in which they do not have very much good sex.
Nice guys frequently fail to live up their full potential.

This group is forming to support men in finding and being their authentic masculine selves. We will support one another in learning to follow and listen to our own hearts, desires and needs. Many "nice guys" are lost as it concerns women and setting appropriate boundaries. For many of us this was something which we learned in childhood as a means of survival. Now we find ourselves being nice time and again at the expense of our own needs. There is an appropriate balance between honoring our needs and the needs of others, the nice guys described in Dr. Robert Glover's book have difficulty striking this balance. We must learn that we do not have to sacrifice what is important to us to be liked and loved by others. If you feel that your needs are not honored while time after time you bend over backwards for others, then this may be the book and support system for you. I invite you to read the review below from one amazon reviewer, and contact me with any questions. Also, please check my website to learn more about me.

http://www.breath-of-life.com/

About the meetings - Join us Wednesdays at 7pm for a continued look at Dr. Robert Glover's book. We will continue supporting one another as we grow in clarity about exactly what we want in relationships and life and continue to develop a stronger sense of identity and self. These meetings will dramatically improve our relationships with women and improve our lives in general. There is a $20 meeting fee as this is a facilitated group, but I will not accept any money for the first visit. The meeting is from 7pm until 8:45. See you soon.

Jack 303-258-3893

"No More Mr. Nice Guy is a GREAT book However, the title is misleading, the purpose of the book is to boost confidence and help men reclaim power in their lives, it does not make men jerks. The author points out that you are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness. By boosting a man's confidence and ensuring the man's needs are met, women are naturally more attracted to these men. The greatest aphrodisiac is self-confidence.

The characteristics of "Nice Guys" are men who have difficulty setting boundaries in relationships with women and become doormats. The men often feel themselves helpless victims and see another person as the cause of the problem. Many nice guys live life trying to gain approval from others.

Many nice guys did not have their needs met as boys. As a coping mechanism to try to get their needs met, they try to be nice. Later in life, Nice Guys apply the skills learned as a boy in dealing with women - by being nice - it does not work. When being nice does not work, the Nice Guys try to be even nicer, thinking that if they can just be nice enough, they will be appreciated, liked and get their needs met.

Men need to set healthy boundaries in relationships with women. Avoiding conflicts in relationships is problematic and another problem "nice guys" face - Women do not feel safe with a man they know they can push around. A woman wants to know you will stand up to her and for her. This is how she will feel secure in the relationship...Generally, when women feel secure, they feel loved. When a man stands up to a woman, she believes he will likely stand up for her.

Also, "Nice Guys" learned to sacrifice themselves in order to survive, recovery must center on learning to put themselves first and making their needs a priority. That's what this book is about. "