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Can Men and Women be just friends? (The Harry Met Sally Debate)

This will be a fun and interactive discussion. Sit down and take moment to think about how you have been successful or unsuccessful in having one of these 'platonic' situations work. Of course it's possible...right? :)

Now think of a question or two that you'd like to ask members of your same gender about this...and one question you'd like to ask your opposite gender. Write them down and bring them with you.

This promises to be an informative night and maybe some laughs.

Prerequisite: Leave all stereotypes and gender bias at home. We have all had bad experiences with INDIVIDUALS and while it's easy to broad-brush the whole other gender, it just isn't so.

Bring an open mind, because like parachutes...they only function when OPEN.

Feel free to post CONSTRUCTIVE comments below (no gender bashing allowed, it will be moderated and deleted) and don't be afraid to take a stand on your position.  What prevents it sometimes?  Is our chemistry so different?  Does one gender control whether it happens or not?  Are some people having ulterior motives?  What say you? 

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  • A former member
    A former member

    Heads up to all that grab a quick bite in the area of this meetup.................. Since what I wanted to eat was unavailable at IHOP the other night, I grabbed a quick burger at Mc. D's at Park and Preston on my way home. About 2 hours later was struck with food poisoning. Finally feeling human again and ready to start eating healthier!

    February 11, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Ouch, John! You threw Sondra and I under the bus!! :-) How did we get nominated? I do believe you and Jack fit this bill. Can't expect the new girl in town to host. I'd call a travel agent and set it for Scottsdale next year!!

      3 · February 15, 2014

    • A former member
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      Not UNDER the bus, Kim - - rather, that you and Sondra might make the best drivers... if lost, few men will stop to ask for directions! My engineering phase dates back to when purists refused to trade-in their trusty slide rules for calculators :-) As for cars, I'm now more likely to opine on why some men name theirs after women... and treat them better than their partners!

      February 15, 2014

  • A former member
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    Happy Valentines Day to all the fabulous ladies in our group. We have been blessed. The very best to all!

    1 · February 14, 2014

  • A former member
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    For reference; the "debate" in question:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8kpYm-6nuE

    1 · February 11, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Now that is funny!! I wonder if they know people still debate and qoute the movie

      2 · February 11, 2014

  • A former member
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    I agree... right on Kimberly! The discussion continues?

    February 11, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Yes, I agree, Friday evenings, Sat all day/night & Sunday at 1-2

    February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Kim Furman, and others interested, the name of the magazine that was IN MY FACE at the cash register at Barnes and Nobles on Saturday is Scientific American Mind, Jan/Feb. issue and the article title is "Can Men and Women Really be 'Just Friends'?" It jumped into my hands, of course. It addresses everything that was brought up and discussed, I just didn't want to keep reading from "the research". lol Great discussion. Could we possibly start these types of evenings around 5 p.m. since it is Sunday and a work day the next day?

    February 10, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      6:00 works great for me.

      1 · February 10, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      I agree with Marla. 6or later on Sunday is a good time. Friday or Saturday evenings will not work for me.

      1 · February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Accidentally hit the screen and did not finish.... The hrs on meeting seem more flexible on Friday evening and anytime on Saturday.Is there a special reason for meeting on sunday? If so then between 530/6 vs 7 to accommodate other's schedules?

    February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Sounds like considering future meetings on a Friday or saturday evening instead of Sunday and between

    February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Marla did a great job keeping the discussion on topic.

    2 · February 10, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Thanks, Kelly. :-)

      February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I had a great time as usual. It was nice hearing all the different views. :)

    1 · February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I prefer 7. Certainly any time before 6 is too early for me to be able to attend.

    February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    It was a spirited debate.

    1 · February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Thanks to all for your lively, insightful, informative, and respectful participation! No blood was drawn (LOL); Steve will be so proud of us all! See you again soon!

    1 · February 10, 2014

    • Steve Z

      I'm already proud to be able to be out of town and see you all pull together to do an event people loved. Add to that the handling of the venue fumble, and I'm IMPRESSED! Thank you to our hosts Tony, Siobhan, Marla, and Christine!!

      6 · February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Does anyone remember the name of the magazine with the article about the topic? I'd like to read it.

    February 10, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Yes, that's it. http://www.scientific...­

      1 · February 10, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Thank you!

      February 10, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Not bad. It would have been nice to maybe to have small group discussions then bring the table results to the whole group.

    2 · February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    The verdict: a resounding, "Yes!" provided both parties are authentic about their intentions.

    1 · February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Great night of genuine discussion, laughs and meeting new people !

    1 · February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Good discussion- I liked the interplay between the male and female

    1 · February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Lively discussion, often off the topic but interesting just the same! I always learn from others opinions and experiences.

    February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    This was fun and enlightening.

    1 · February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Good info as always. Thanks for offering great topics.

    2 · February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Excellent comments by all and a great job of moderating the discussion by Marla, Sioban, and Tony.

    3 · February 9, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      and Christine (didn't mean to leave you out)

      4 · February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I have unexpected company. Sorry to miss this.

    February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    HOUSTON, WE HAVE A SITUATION. Turns out we do not have the room at Palio's, so we are relocating to IHOP, located at 4804 W. Plano Pkwy, near Preston & Plano Pkwy. We have people at both locations to try to direct traffic. Sorry for the confusion, and see you as soon as possible. [masked] is the number for IHOP, or call Tony at[masked]

    February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I became ill. I was looking forward to this event...

    February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    All right, here is the right spot. I figure I won't back down. But I also think I'm going to default into listening on this one-I just don't want to fight.....fighting just wears down your soul. And with this many people,,,,,,But it's gonna be fun to spectate. I just feel like the "basics" are already in this forum. I'm gonna spectate like it's a hockey game-wait for a fight to break out...hee, hee.

    1 · February 7, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      I guess I need to be more careful what I say.

      2 · February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Do I half to officially say RSVP, .......

    February 7, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Hi Tony, by gosh I think I'm being doubly redundant. I just confirmed and I think I did on another day as well. So here I am two hours beforehand, confimin'..

      February 9, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      I confirmed way on the bottom of the tag by accident-I think that's what happened.

      February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I'm quite certain I confirmed! Well, pardon if I'm doing it way late in the game.

    February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I will be there.

    February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Im comin anyways....

    February 9, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Hey Tim sent you email way back about the photos you took.let me know.....Bernie

      February 9, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Thanks for the confirmation Tim! See you later.

      February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Hey, everyone! This meetup is tonight, and it's sure to be a lively discussion. Doors open at 6:00 p.m. For dinner and conversation, so come early if you can and meet some new friends. Discussion starts at 7:00. See you tonight!

    February 9, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Yay! This will be the first Meet up I go to with this group I'm excited!

    2 · February 8, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    The 'YES' list was just 'scrubbed' (deleted) of RSVPs that remained unconfirmed as of 3:25p Sat. Amy David, Gary, Aaron Cottle, and Kelly Passmore, thanks for confirming your RSVP while on WAIT; you were moved to the YES list.

    FOUR SEATS REMAIN and can be claimed by the first to post CONFIRM in the 'Comments' to claim them.

    Thanks for your help with this process. The space is limited and we want to make sure that we can comfortably accommodate those committed to attending.

    The other host and I are looking forward to seeing you tomorrow!

    February 8, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Confirming my RSVP

    1 · February 8, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Confirmed

    1 · February 8, 2014

  • Kathy L.

    Confirmed

    1 · February 8, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I've been to one large meetup in the last year-and (it was all women-...) there was arguing! People griping "You interrupted, don't interrupt!" -then some woman wanted to time people!

    February 7, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Sorry to hear that, Vanya. While the point of this particular event is to discuss opposing views, and anywhere in the middle, I'm very glad you brought up this point. It is a good reminder to be respectful of the other people, even if we whole-heartedly disagree. It seems to be a passionate topic, so a social etiquette reminder is welcome!!

      3 · February 8, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      So...I should leave my timer at home? LOL. Vanya, you raise a great point, and since awareness is the first step toward resolution, we are already on our way to a productive, civil discussion. Thank you for the reminder.

      1 · February 8, 2014

  • A former member
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    Confirm.

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  • A former member
    A former member

    Confirmed.

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  • A former member
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    Confirmed

    1 · February 8, 2014

  • A former member
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    Confirmed.

    1 · February 7, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Confirmed

    1 · February 7, 2014

  • A former member
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    confirmed

    1 · February 7, 2014

  • A former member
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    Confirmed on waiting list

    1 · February 7, 2014

  • A former member
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    Confirmed for one

    1 · February 7, 2014

  • A former member
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    Confirmed for two

    1 · February 7, 2014

  • A former member
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    I will be there.

    1 · February 7, 2014

  • A former member
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    See y'all Sunday.

    1 · February 7, 2014

  • A former member
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    Yes, I will be there.

    1 · February 7, 2014

  • A former member
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    Confirmed

    1 · February 6, 2014

    • A former member
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      Confirmed

      1 · February 7, 2014

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