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Put An End To Long-Term Emotional, Psychological, And Relationship Problems
By Dr. Jay Kantor, 112 Prospect St., Ridgewood, NJ 07450 – 201-461-7347
Far too many children had parents who failed to adequately meet their needs. This deprivation left these children, now adults, in a poor position to negotiate life’s challenges successfully.
Children require unconditional love, acceptance, and nurturing to develop properly. They require healthy, mature, competent role models to learn successful ways to be in the world. They need to be valued in order to value themselves. They need to be consistently supported and protected to feel safe and secure.
Without adequate parenting and in the presence of parental maltreatment, traumatized children disconnect from parents and from life itself. They come to distrust people and life. They move back, into a safe position where life can’t hurt them anymore. They protect, defend, and isolate themselves.
In their isolation, they remain in the negative emotions and beliefs formed due to past trauma. They continue to relate to themselves in the unsupportive, shaming, rejecting ways their parents related to them. They are incapable of bringing any emotional healing, hope, faith, and confidence to themselves. Their negative emotional states and painful memories keep getting activated, making them sad, angry, hurt, and afraid for no apparent reason. Survival, relationships, even physical health can become a struggle.
If inadequate and abusive parenting are the primary causes of a person’s problems as an adult, what can be done about it now?
To heal the results of childhood need deprivation, inadequate parenting, and parental maltreatment, we must provide a corrective experience which is as psychologically and emotionally powerful, safe and positive, as the person’s childhood was negative, dangerous, and damaging.
What if we could become the good, kind, loving, competent parent we never had to the devastated, isolated, frightened child that still remains in our minds and still affects our lives?
We might ask: Does this child part of the mind still exist? Could we connect with and build a therapeutic relationship with it? Could we help to resolve that child’s past trauma now? Can we build a loving relationship with this inner child, in which their needs can finally be met? Can we establish a deep sense of safety, value and trust by being a reliable, nurturing parent to that child now, even if they never experienced such support before?
This is what is accomplished in Self Reparenting, a recent, proven therapeutic approach pioneered by Dr. Jay Kantor. In Self Reparenting we heal the mind by healing the parts of the mind which create our experience of life. We heal the wounded parts of the mind containing past experiences that cause us to suffer now. We empower our inner parent to be the parent our inner child needs and wants. We manifest our Higher Self as an on-going source of unconditional love, wisdom, peace, and joy in our lives.
Call Dr. Kantor (201-461-7347) for more information about this life-saving, life transforming therapy or email him @ email@example.com . Additional information can be found at:
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