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The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships

Let's commune and discuss the often controversial topic of non-monogamy.The group has decided on "The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures" by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy for the second Meet-up of Not Your Momma's Book Club. Here is a synopsis of the book from Goodreads.com:


THE GROUNDBREAKING BOOK THAT GAVE SLUTS A GOOD NAME

If you've ever yearned for love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy, The Ethical Slut will open you up to infinite possibilities. Relationship pioneers Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths about sluthood and show you how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer-sex practices. This updated and expanded edition includes new strategies for single sluts, advice on how to open an existing relationship or marriage, and exercises to help you and your partners define relationships on your own terms. Whether you’re a card-carrying slut or just testing the waters, you’ll learn how to expand your circle of lovers and partners, balance your family and personal life, and discover romance and friendship beyond your dreams.

 

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  • A former member
    A former member

    Thanks it's was nice meet you guys, looking forward meeting you guys.

    April 28, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Thanks for making me feel welcome. Bright and interesting company.

    2 · April 27, 2014

  • Thea

    Here is a link to the free e-books available for tonight only. Sorry for the late notification. It's been a busy, busy day. http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Ddigital-text&field-keywords=%22pleasure+mechanics%22&rh=n%3A133140011%2Ck%3A%22pleasure+mechanics%22

    April 27, 2014

  • Travel L.

    Had lots of fun. Enjoyed the atmosphere and the company.

    1 · April 27, 2014

    • Thea

      It was great to finally get a chance to speak with you both in person. I look forward to seeing you again soon!

      April 27, 2014

  • Gérard

    I am not able to attend. Look forward to reading partipants' feedback. I will be very happy if someone might be available to meet with me to tell me all about it. Tonite? Later this week? My treat! Gérard

    April 27, 2014

  • Thea

    Well, I finally finished reading "The Ethical Slut" and I'm not overly impressed. I'm seriously re-thinking the whole alternating fiction/non-fiction set-up of this group. I have to be honest with myself: no matter how hard I try, non-fiction and me just don't seem to connect. *sigh*

    April 25, 2014

    • Thea

      Emphasis on the "dry"; very weak on the "how-to" - unless you're living in San Francisco, I suppose. I did like how they were inclusive to all lifestyles/genders/orien­tations but I found it ended up greatly diluting the message. I do look forward to the discussion on Sunday - especially since I know there are people attending who fall into both sides of the monogamy/non-monogamy categories. It should be interesting (and in case it isn't, at least the selection of beer at Pub Italia is wonderful.)

      3 · April 25, 2014

    • Thea

      Oh, and I took the liberty of adding a +1 to your RSVP as a spot opened up and I'd like to keep the numbers accurate. Hope that's ok. :)

      April 25, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Wonder what you weren't impressed with, Thea. Although I haven't finished the book, and can't attend the discussion, I thought they did a good job in their treatment of jealousy, slowing down and dissecting the core of those feelings. Still have to read the rest.

    April 25, 2014

    • Thea

      "Jealousy" was the one chapter I actually liked, Joyce. My issue with non-fiction books of this sort, in general, is that they tend to be relevant only to those people who are living through very specific circumstances. Even though non-monogamy is a topic that is very relevant to my life, I just didn't find it added much "newness" or insight beyond what I have been able to learn through my own experiences. I know others who love the book, though. My opinion is just that - my opinion. (And I love it when people disagree with my opinion. It helps keep me humble.)

      April 25, 2014

  • MikeJB

    Have to withdraw from this one unfortunately. Sorry to all for the late notice but it's my Birthday and my kids want me around for a change. Have fun (I know you will)

    April 23, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Haven't had a chance to get the book, so I'll let someone who has sit in.

    April 22, 2014

    • Thea

      Hope to see you at another meet-up, Rick. Thanks for letting us know. :)

      April 22, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Any chance I could mooch a copy of the book. I downloaded it on line but god that's a bad way for me to read a book. I'm always dropping the laptop in the bath when I fall asleep. :) Mike is going from Orleans tonight to the dinner and a movie and could bring it to me if anyone can part with theirs and has been the teacher's pet and read it already.

    April 12, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      It probably won't make a difference. I will be electrocuted in my bathtub with my laptop. if one comes available, I would love it thank you.

      April 13, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      There are copies available at the Ottawa Public Library!

      April 16, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    1 · March 29, 2014

    • Thea

      I finally got a chance to read it. Fabulous article, Tracy!

      April 1, 2014

    • Wei

      Speaking about subtlety, we probably are all complicated yet simple-minded, paradoxical beings. I don't know what you can recall, but here are two of my situations:

      1) Being an OCTranspo bus rider, I have an impression/opinion that the riders on Express 6x are somewhat a better group (cleaner, better mannered) than those on regular 9x buses. But yesterday, when I was holding my breath on a smelly 96 and thinking how ugly a short guy 3 rows away from me was, he smiled and let a lady take a seat that he could have taken. immediately realized actually how unkind my thought was. That's how easy one can simplify a complicated situation (including calling others slutty while having a, slutty mind, so to speak).

      2) I don't like to swear but I'd love to learn how to talk erotic/dirty. How do I reconcile this? :)

      April 1, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    This is a great read regarding relationships and how we connect:http://www.brainpickings.org/index.php/2013/01/28/love-2-0-barbara-fredrickson/

    March 30, 2014

  • Thea

    I have posted the rating poll for "The Ethical Slut". You may find it under the MORE tab at the top. From the drop down menu, click on POLLS and vote from there. As always, please only vote if you've read the book.

    March 27, 2014

    • Jobie

      Love your descriptions for each ranking!!

      March 28, 2014

    • Thea

      Thanks!

      March 28, 2014

  • Thea

    Just FYI, it appears that it is relatively easy to find a free PDF version of this month's book selection. Try Google or send a message to our member, Rob. He's offered to send a link to those who request it. :)

    March 24, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Great title! Will read this anyway. Can't make the date as it's another yoga weekend for me. But I'm keeping my foot in the door here.

    1 · March 23, 2014

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