OC-Polyamory doing Tantra

MEEvtL event listing MHS90A:

  1. MLL4DU: Details from most-urgent:
    1. MLL4MO: under-construction. But still RSVP; and if MAYBE, say YES and explain in your RSVP comment.
    2. MHXFN7: We need some venues in order to hold this! Offer & nominate venues by Replying in the comments below.
    3. MHS9HH: DATE IS APPROXIMATE; see WHEN thread for full details.
    4. MHS910:Activity hosts thread --see that for who designing & hosting the activities. Also please volunteer and/or nominate activity hosts by Reply-ing there.
    5. MHSIAL:Activity: doing Tantra
      1. MHSIE0: Those into polyamory are often intro tantra
        1. MHSIFQ: for instance, Kamala Devi, the most prominent character in Showtime's Polyamory series.
      2. MHSIBH:can be used to look beyond the physical and get to know a person says Astara.
    6. MHSJ52: Repeating every 2 months on 3rd Saturday (once finalized).
    7. MHSIMN: more details, including more on the activities, TBA here by the Activity Hosts.
    8. MLL5FO: OVERALL ANNOUNCEMENT & ATTENDANCE thread tells that including event listing hosts.
  2. MHQ8ST: Want more folks attending, plus great events totally suiting you? Then MAKE IT HAPPEN! -click here!

  3. LG4OWH:What are these codes as “LG4OWH:” on this point? They’re short IDs to date-stamp, uniquely-reference, & portably-track most any point or item.

  4. MDMN8M:Listing History, in order
    1. MHS8XE:IDestinycopiedhttp://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/events/98658112 version MHQDCN then edited to fit, creating a 1st draft.
    2. MHSIYA: used the location possibly offered by Michael; did not specify if residential or commercial as residential mixed with sexual may frighten some; pst2013.02.06Wed0052.
    3. MHSJLO: added MHSJH7 & some rearranging; pst2013.02.06Wed0059.
    4. MHSJX2: fixed & improved formatting of this & prior section; updated to smaller 347×370 image.
    5. MHSKG6:Astara, u are free to start editing this listing. Log ur changes in this section as I have, except use a date&time stamp 2013.02.06Wed0119 instead of a 6-digit code. I Destiny will make periodic backups in case of loss. To notify everyone of a change, make an event comment post. pst2013.02.06Wed0119.
    6. MHXEM9: in order:
      1. MHXEOQ: had put in description:MHSJH7:Michaelsaid he MIGHT be able to find us a venue, so I've added him as a 2ndary Event Host includingto keep one in the loop one must be RSVPed YES (so if MAYBE just put an RSVP comment explaining.
      2. MHXEXU: a few hours later, Michael changed his attendance status to NO (I now suppose to get the event host status off, but that doesn't happen on Meetup) emailed me changing his mind, saying he didn't want to be an event host, and I suppose may not want to provide the venue, apparently not because he didn't believe in it but because he remembered he knew someone important to him who may not approve if ever seeing this listing; knowing him from outside this group and knowing quite a bit more about the situation, I emailed him encouraging him to reconsider.
      3. MHXF86: Just now Meetup emailed me saying he had tried to say No (again?) on this event about 3 times, but with no comment; maybe he was again trying to get the "Event Host" status off?  I checked and hadn't gotten response from him to my reply email. But guessing he despite still wanted to take back his original offer, I removed him as Event Host. Guessing he also possibly might want not to be seen on this event, I also tried to remove his RSVP (instead of it just showing up NO), I checked but saw Meetup provided no way to do that; still per Meetup's convention, the NO RSVP will disappear after the event happens. I will now let him know of these changes to insure he approves.
      4. MHXFNR: Added MHXFN7 (seeking more venues). pst2013.02.08Wed1622.
      5. MLL2VD: ~1hr ago I just now see this update got saved to the future listings starting with the 2nd but, due (yet another) Meetup bug, it did not get saved to the 1st & upcoming one, until now when I'm putting it there.
    7. MLKW1G: Cutting repeat & delaying as announced; cut Q7of7 as Meetup now allows only 6; pst2013.04.20Sat1704;
    8. MLL3M7: Updated MHSJ52, MHS910 and MHXFN7; added links to related event comment threads (4 of them); all references to Astara removed especially as Astara has not responded since agreeing to host; replaced MDJQ6Z with MLL4DU; full review & rewrite of listing; updated location from Michael's venue's cross-streets to present; pst2013.04.20Sat2033.

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  • DestinyArchitect

    LOCATION

    April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      **So, WE NEED A VENUE SO WE CAN HOLD THIS EVENT. Know of any within Orange County?
      ***-even if it might seem a long shot, as right now I know of none.
      ***Please Reply here on this thread (in addition, the confidential details if any, as likely the exact address of a residence, send that to just to event hosts (as me Destiny & Astara) via private message as Meetup-email).
      ***It MIGHT need to be a private room or home due to the nature of the activity, but me personally not well knowing this activity including I've never done it before, others experienced as Astera would be better able to explain what if any special venue requirements are needed.

      April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      I AM SADLY CANCELING THIS EVENT AS, I announced here “April 20, 2013” “WE NEED A VENUE SO WE CAN HOLD THIS EVENT” http://meetup.com/OC-...­ , but nobody gave a nearby offer.
      *But thanks goes out to:
      **the 9+ RSVPing YES
      **kwan for offering a venue tho too far,
      as announced http://meetup.com/OC-...­ and
      **especially H for very nicely offering a great alternative event http://meetup.com/OC-...­
      *I didn't reply to this sooner, as say cancel this event say weeks in advance, as after 2014.01, due to serious mistakes by Dave, our perpetually absent&unreachable group head(no joke), I apparently/actually didn't have ability to update events, as long announced at say http://meetup.com/OC-...­ –ALL MBRS SHOULD READ.

      June 21

  • H

    Looks like this does not have an actual location... and since the Live the Dream group is doing Tantra for their meetup in the morning, I suggest we double up and all go to their event http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Pol...­ for full details.
    Shama is a fantastic Tantrica so this should be good for everybody.

    June 16

  • David R.

    Contact me for event location.

    June 16

    • That G.

      hi David, please provide location.

      June 21

    • DestinyArchitect

      -NOT AUTHORIZED AND/OR MISLEADING: David Roel http://meetup.com/OC-...­ posts here “Contact me for event location” (implied) for this listing
      *David,
      **Did u mean in-reply-to http://meetup.com/OC-...­ ? If so u really need to reply ON that thread. As for here,
      **u've no authority to make such announcement. Indeed,
      **until now, I've never even heard of u(!) --I the interim event host+the person overseeing this group nearly all of the last ~2yrs
      **so,esp on this potentially sexually explicit event,u/1 cd be misleading attendees to some unknown dangerous place
      *Consequently, as the 1st time I've had to do staring as a Meetup event&group in 2004,TO PROTECT MBRS,
      **momentarily I am set to flag your post as Inappropriate,
      **I request Pls reply-this-thread else Meetup-email-me, what u doing &why u post that,
      including to avoid me having to report this ur post to Meetup.

      June 21

  • kwan

    could poss host but would be in victorville ca

    May 4, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread's URL: http://meetup.com/OC-...­
      *kwan http://meetup.com/OC-...­, thanks very much for making us this venue offer for us!
      **Indeed the only one we seemed to get after our 1st venue fell thru, so thank u!
      **Presumably in response to my request http://meetup.com/OC-...­ . **Unfortunately,
      **I just saw it now.
      **Much more seriously, yes, Victorville is notably too far
      ***a 80min drive each way https://google.com/map...­ and easily ~50% more with typical traffic that way, plus
      ***not only well beyond our charter territory Orange County but typically beyond even adjacent territory Riverside County.
      **But it at least it was an offer.

      June 21

  • DestinyArchitect

    WHEN

    April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      By my last cmt, this was tentatively scheduled "delaying 4months, so 2013.10.19(Sat#3)" which is today; but since we don't yet have a top leader for this, until we get one, I'm delaying again, and to minimize interruption, again doubling the delay, so 8months, so to 2014.06.14(Sat#3) as the new tentative date.

      October 19

    • DestinyArchitect

      -correction, "14" should be "21", so: DELAYING THIS "2014.06.21(Sat#3) as the new tentative date --until someone volunteers & becomes a new top leader: please offer-to-be and/or find volunteers :-)

      October 19

  • DestinyArchitect

    Gerry Grant http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT --put all on that here in this thread.
    *Now during our group's main meeting http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ , Gerry tells us all he's super into tantra and has run kundalini tantra http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ku...­ events and would love to help run or lead this one.
    **Yeah! We need more leaders to step up to the plate.
    **So I'm now making him an EVENT HOST here.
    *And I'm sure our other main event host Astara http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ who came up with this event idea will work with him. (Astara, would enjoy if you reply here.)

    June 6, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *ALERT: mgt talk is here to allow mgt transparency,including per Meetup's design; but if dont want to be emailed of this&arent involved,merely click “Mute” on THIS thread.
      *No,Gerry,u attended our evt&made a *notable* promise before all of us,to the delight & even there written celebration to all of us attending there: there I announced to all the original proposer of this cool event Astara cd no longer be reached so we need helper, or top leader if she didnt reply; &u replied volunteering for that job. Indeed immediately there I put it down in writing --see the 1st post of this thread saying u Gerry "to help run or lead this one ..So I'm now making him an EVENT HOST here", which I had u proofread &got ur approval b4 posting it. So do I also need to get the other 2 attendees as witnesses? &Do I also need to get ur signature? Maybe even collateral(!) -As 2 witnesses,+u attending just“one event”as u note,does not make ur word good enough? Well u better bet u've taught me to trust less.

      October 19

    • DestinyArchitect

      No,u offered&approved this,Garry. So pls be a person of ur word,not as u hv falsely say u "made no promises"(!),and say I write “false info” here,esp w/o quoting it,&even suggesting by writing “I have been to [just ]one event” that wd excuse u of any expectation that u cd hv made promises or perhaps that u be beholden to them, and u saying all this notably convenient 4u: after u then,per above,failed us,by,I'm still guessing accidentally but carelessly,by becoming unreachable right when we we then depending on u be a ldr here(yes,even leading for just as little as it was:just picking a tentative new date since the details weren't fixed at the current scheduled date,so attendees needed that update:yes,at min,that's all u had to do). -Ur not following thru hurt us, Garry. So at least show us,&u, some respect&honor: notably admit what u did, show u feel the pain we suffered, & try to undo that bad & make things good.

      October 19

  • A former member
    A former member

    Am I understanding correctly that there is no actual location or host, much like the Brentwood Poly Family's Huge Poly Pool Party?

    October 15

  • Gerry G.

    I would need to now where it is before I decide.

    1 · June 16, 2013

  • Gerry G.

    I don't see a location.

    1 · June 15, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      That's of course because u, our new primary event host for the last 9 days, haven't posted one, so instead of (apparently confused) posting this Q and RSVPing NO to the own event u promised us all u'd host(eeks!), u (also our Tantra expert) pls post suggested locations(and, most urgently a replacement time --we need that in less than an hour!) as ur ATTENDANCE&(ROLE)&­REVIEW thread (linked next) explains; that's also where RSVP changes (as this) should go (Meetup doesn't automatically put them there (instead mistakenly very-confusingly creates an additional top-level post) so one has to put them there separately) http://meetup.com/OC-...­ - (that particular cmt is further reply to this but naturally pls read the whole thread for u)

      June 15, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    Astara Blackwell http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENANCE&REVIEW OF THIS EVENT –post all on that here in this thread.
    *As could be inferred by carefully reading this event listing, summarized here:
    **As http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ details, at our 2013.02.05 Meeting she Astara proposed us doing this event series and said she would lead so I then there created this event listing for it.
    *But since then we've never heard from her again, and despite many posts here asking about her & for her leadership or even just her reply on this event she proposed & proposed to host for us, so then we've since written it up and gotten now 13 YES RSVPs.
    **all for no reason I know other than all I suspect is that Meetup members are sadly often flaky, yes even when they volunteer to be a leader for their event they propose and so has been advertiser, costing others hours of time&stress when then they don't follow thru.

    June 15, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread's URL is http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *So at our last meeting 2013.06.06 http://meetup.com/OC-...­ , I told of this news (of Astara proposing it for us, have us list it, then disappearing) and, especially explaining that I have long said I don't have any Tantra background, asked for any leaders to do this.
      **And there Gerry told us of his extensive background in Tantra and volunteered and I accepted & placed & announced him into the job (of event host for this series), as I detail at http://meetup.com/OC-...­ and so currently we then imminently await here his leadership as that thread explains.

      June 15, 2013

  • That G.

    I would have liked to attend this event but since a location has not been found as of yet, I have made other plans. Looking forward to next month's meeting :)

    1 · June 15, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Is there a location for this event? I would really like to attend. :)

    June 12, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      In due respect, I find it annoying&time-costly­ u again ask what's well-posted&what I just answered pointing u to it, for:
      *As 1 sdn't,unless justified,I will not repeat any info on a group post,esp where it doesn't belong or when it may change(&this is both),as that leads to:
      ***ppl not bothering 2read what's already posted
      ***significant additional confusion(with typically conflicting answers, in different places) as the details for the event change, which of course they do,indeed as this is expected to),
      ****then additional maintenance to correct all these places (where it's even possible to correct),
      ***+a lot more text _for potentially everybody_ to have to needlessly read, the very activity(reading) u esp appear not to want to do.
      *As is is proper Meetup event listing,EVERYTHING KNOWN(suitable for general-members, which currently is everything) is on this listing(include comments)+posted immediately. So
      **all answers are ON THIS PAGE.
      *Still I 3x pointed u to ur answer:

      June 15, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *(1)A link (“MOGAAS: See LOCATION THREAD starting say.,”) to the latest is and has-been-ever posted where it sd: in the very top of this listing in the official Meetup location section.
      *(2)In the description start “MHXFN7: We need ..”
      *(3)Still in my last reply 2u here just above,I again just gave the link to that thread(just read the thread, esp its latest entries).
      *Now r u hving tech problems? For,instead of being vague,if u kindly tell the exact links u followed+quote a little of u the text u found when u went there(+tell what all u read)+tell what web browser u're using(mobile browsers sd not be relied on 2well-follow links),I&1 can diagnose what if any tech 4u is going wrong.
      *In sum,all info is here --as it sd be; so respectfully pls
      **read carefully
      **and if u still don't see ur answer, Reply not vaguely but *fully* with what u're doing(detailing&quot­ing each part as I explained above)so we can find out why u're still not seeing ur answer when its seemingly well-posted here.

      June 15, 2013

  • Eagle

    My girlfriend and I are very interested in Tantra. We have a birthday party to attend but hope to make this on time

    June 10, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    Dr. Corynna Clarke http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT.

    April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      This thread is at URL http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *I now RSVP her YES per her YES RSVP at http://meetup.com/OC-...­ as that listing now canceled http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *Dr. Clarke.
      **Welcome! It will be a pleasure to first meet you!
      **Be VERY ure to soon set your RSVP to NO-then-YES-again so Meetup will prompt you to for the event's private Qs which you then need to answer. We really need these answers for you especially your cell#.

      April 20, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    Gus http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT.

    April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread is at URL http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *I now RSVPed him YES per his "Tue, Apr 9, 2013 at 12:04 AM" RSVP YES on the listing of http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (a spurious duplicate listing).
      *Gus, be sure to soon set your RSVP to NO-then-YES-again so Meetup will prompt you to for the event's private Qs which you then need to answer.

      April 20, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    roger http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT

    April 20, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    Jaylene http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT

    April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread is URL http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *This event was originally but tentatively set for 2013.04.20Sat
      *"Tue, Apr 2, 2013 at 10:05 PM" (at our mtg during RSVPing http://meetup.com/OC-...­ ) she RSVPed NO for this, I believe saying that she & her husband Roger http://meetup.com/OC-...­
      would be out of town then
      *This event rescheduled for 2013.06.15Sat & causing RSVPs then to moved to here http://meetup.com/OC-...­
      *So I now RSVPed her YES per http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (her "Tue, Apr 2, 2013 at 10:53 PM" (same time) event comment there on the 1st listing for 2013.06.15Sat of "We[, I and my husband,] are planning on attending this event."). Lkg fwd to seeing u at this!

      April 20, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    What is the address for tonight

    April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      Just saw this now (as I was busy telling everyone (appropriately,by posting here),&still awaiting ur ans to how u didnt see that email). But ur effective answer was&is already on this pg,where it sd be in http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (the LOCATION thread), created 6hrs before ur comment and replied to 2hrs b4). So, as mentioned on http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (my reply to u, 1hr before this cmt, on ur_other_new thread u created instead of reusing the existing thread for it), "When posting comments, please always first seek for an existing appropriate thread to Reply to, only creating a new thread when it doesn't exist.." -indeed here that wd hv told u ur answer&w/o ever hving to post a cmt, also saving me time&stress to stop&rush u an answer to ur emails,&now this cmt,when answers r all here,&emailed to all here.

      April 20, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I believe the orientation video wont be shown at this event so i plan on arriving at 6:00.
    See you Saturday night!

    April 17, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread:
      **is URL http://www.meetup.com...­
      **should not have been created (so don't further post on its topic on THIS thread); rather the topic is at, so should have been a Reply on, and now replied to on, the thread of http://meetup.com/OC-...­ --so where I've copied this content to.
      **When posting comments, please always first seek for an existing appropriate thread to Reply to, only creating a new thread when it doesn't exist per our standards (please read) at http://1.JotHere.com/...­ --especially important since it's impossible to move comments and redirecting them is, as you can see here, fairly complex & time-consuming; thanks.

      April 20, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Looking forward to meeting others of like mind and heart. Will arrive after the orientation video is shared. Probably be there around 7:30.

    April 12, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *this thread
      **is ramjet http://meetup.com/OC-...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT
      **is URL http://meetup.com/OC-...­
      *At time of his 1st post, he RSVPed YES with comment above.
      *then http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (later "3 days ago" he cmted "I believe the orientation video wont be shown at this event so i plan on arriving at 6:00.<br/>See you Saturday night!")

      April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *Thanks for your nice cmts!
      **an "orientation video"
      ***Yes we don't do 1 here (unless the ACTIVITIES HOSTS (thread http://meetup.com/OC-...­) want to add that)
      ***u were probably thinking of our Main Meetings.
      ****For our next one (2013.05.07Tue) I see u're already RSVPed YES http://meetup.com/OC-...­ ; as is standard, simply post your anticipated arrival & departure times there if the won't be for the full mtg.
      *Looking fwd to seeing u again!

      April 20, 2013

  • Mukunda R.

    What's the plan for tonight? Are we practicing/learning Tantra? What lineage? Or is it a meet n greet cuddle puddle, or what? I'll probably be in Topanga but I'm interested in future events that don't require driving to LA or SD.

    April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      Mukunda, thanks for your great Qs & feedback.
      *See all I know on this at
      http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (in the ACTIVITY HOSTS thread).
      **As seem a bit interested in this, COULD YOU OR ANYONE ELSE BE AN ADDITIONAL EVENT ACTIVITY HOST for us? Just Reply-post there on that thread.

      April 20, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    ACTIVITY HOSTS

    April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread
      **list changes ideally in order.
      **is URL http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *Per the event description,
      **at http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (our 2013.02.05Tue mtg)
      ***per description point MHS910, "Astara http://meetup.com/OC-...­ mentioned her background in Tantra, so I Destiny suggested she host (be the main host for) an event on our group, and she [delightfully ]agreed." (making her our 1of1 event ACTIVITY host).
      *Astara,I not heard fr u since that mtg 2013.02.05. What r ur plans here?
      **As
      ***u picked this event to tentatively happen tonight 6pm-9pm: see http://meetup.com/OC-...­
      ***we've got 7 RSVP YESes: see http://meetup.com/OC-...­
      **So I now also Meetup Greet&SMS u to Reply on this&the other matching threads on this listing.

      April 20, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    OVERALL ANNOUNCEMENT & ATTENDANCE, in order it happened where possible.

    April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread is URL http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *Per the event description,
      **at http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (our 2013.02.05Tue meeting), we got:
      ***Astara as an ACTIVITY HOST: see http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (ACTIVITY HOSTS thread)
      ***then Michael as a possible LOCATION host: see http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (LOCATION thread)
      **so per pts thru MHSKG6, so right after by 2013.02.06Wed0119, I Destiny http://meetup.com/OC-...­ wrote up this listing w/those details
      ***so making me an event LISTING host
      ***all the details weren't finalized,
      ****so I put at top "under construction & not yet emailed out to members. But still RSVP"
      ****I see I left the setting "[auto ]Member reminders: On.": now think ok as RSVPs&ppl for planning.

      April 20, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *We now pleasingly have 7 RSVPing YES (4 men+3 women) & 3 RSVPing NO (2 men+1 woman)
      **Thank to all of you RSVPing early!
      *For everyone, especially those RSVPing NO"
      **only RSVP NO based on the activity as the date & venue are not finalized and will change.
      **As always, if you're a MAYBE, RSVP YES (so you get notified & counted as far as planning).
      **RSVP NO only when you're absolutely certain you're a NO.

      April 20, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    Looking forward to Astara's neat event and this new offering for OC-Polyamory!

    February 6, 2013

9 went

  • DestinyArc­hitect
    of Laguna Hills;2012.04.14-,47+RSVPs,28+attend; +seeking romance
    Event Host
  • Dr. Corynna C.
    of Orange;2011.04.11-,1+RSVPs,1+attend;Tantra teachr&always poly
  • Rudy
    of Mission Viejo(19min SE);2013.04.04-, 3+RSVPs, MGCRel NEED ANS
  • Chuck
    of Mission Viejo; 2013.01.19+,2+RSVP YES,1+attend;ref by Kamala

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