OC-Polyamory's Eat&Discuss #14(discussion,+more­ topics via cmts)+

  • June 6, 2013 · 6:00 PM
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  • DestinyArchitect

    Gerry Grant http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE&REVIEW OF THIS EVENT -put all that here in this thread.
    *“Wed, May 29, 2013 at 3:36 PM” RSVPed YES (FIRST TIMER).
    *Gerry, welcome! & looking forward to 1st mtg u at this in the next hour.

    June 6

    • DestinyArchitect

      At the meeting, Gerry told us he had years experience with Tantra, seemingly all his life, and had attended many such events especially in San Diego (where it seemed he used to live) including those of Kamala Devi http://1.JotHere.com/...­ (which indeed he astutely noticed is shown in our new group logo per that URL). Seeing our own Tantra event trying to launch I suggested and he said yes he could & would be the primary leader for it, do during this meeting I made him an event host there! (thanks, Gerry! ANOTHER SIGNIFICANT EVENT AT THIS MEETING: GERRY BECOMES PRIMARY EVENT HOST HOST FOR OUR TANTRA SERIES!): see full details at the thread for that at http://meetup.com/OC-...­ and reply there with comments.

      June 14

  • DestinyArchitect

    EVENT OVERALL (u make it happen!) -put all that in this thread.
    *We've got 7 people attending, cool!
    *-mildy suggests that a few OC poly are brave enough to come to a poly mtg in OC! ;-) -instead of only going poly mtgs outside their area -good deal!

    June 6

    • A former member
      A former member

      I should be there about 6:30 - 6:45. Running late this afternoon.

      June 6

    • DestinyArchitect

      Rob, great cmt! Thanks! & It belongs here http://meetup.com/OC-...­ where I've just copied it to & replied to it, per that thread's title (ur "attendance & review of this event -put all on that here in this thread"), so PUT ALL FURTHER POSTS ON THIS TOPIC (of ur attendance&review) THERE. Thanks.

      1 · June 14

  • A former member
    A former member

    A very good meeting, well led and lots of input and information. Glad I attended. :)

    2 · June 7

    • DestinyArchitect

      Rob, great cmt! Thanks! & It belongs here http://meetup.com/OC-...­ where I've just copied it to & replied to it, per that thread's title (ur "attendance & review of this event -put all on that here in this thread"), so PUT ALL FURTHER POSTS ON THIS TOPIC THERE. Thanks.

      1 · June 14

  • A former member
    A former member

    I look forward to attending and meeting new friends, & discussing common interests.

    June 3

    • DestinyArchitect

      Rob http://meetup.com/OC-...­ ATTENDANCE&REVIEW OF THIS EVENT -put all that here in this thread, http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *“Wed, May 29, 2013 at 3:36 PM” RSVPed YES (FIRST TIMER).
      *“Mon, Jun 3, 2013 at 9:30 AM” posted comment above.
      *Rob, welcome! & looking forward to 1st mtg u here in ~1hr.

      June 6

    • DestinyArchitect

      Collecting Rob's 2 other cmts on this pg which belong in this his thread(Rob,see this thread's title for why; sadly,if 1 posts in wrong place, Meetup allows nobody to move). Fully quoting:
      * http://meetup.com/OC-...­ “Rob<br/>I should be there about 6:30 - 6:45. Running late this afternoon.<br/>Lik­e · June 6”
      **Thanks for the update. Yes, we (&most well-run small Meetup groups) really appreciate when people post their latest estimate arrival & departure times so we can best plan for everyone.
      * http://meetup.com/OC-...­ “Rob<br/>A very good meeting, well led and lots of input and information. Glad I attended. :)<br/>1 · Like · Reply · June 7 · Mute”
      **Thx much 4posting ur sincere review! &thank u; I work hard4 these mtgs even if nobody shows.
      ***Indeed honest reviews like this well help bring more folk,so thx4 that2.
      **Pls also star-rate this.

      June 14

  • DestinyArchitect

    "MO0I1G: NOW A NEARLY GUARANTEED POPULAR EVENT"
    Probably the biggest thing to come out of this meeting was actually something I came up with right after everyone had left(&left early!), addressing the seemingly unsolvable: GETTING ATTENDING A CRITICAL MASS(Yes even in Orange-curtain OC) +A GENDER BALANCE
    *what seemed most important2 100% of mbrs attending this, but which no one knew how to do(besides the obvious: attending&staying even if not enough others were,but none of the attendees followed thru there,well except me).
    *But right after I came w/a solution, and fairly painless one, which should not only help achieve this, but SEEMINGLY GUARANTEE IT!
    **and I stayed up to the wee hours of the morning then posting it, PUTTING IT INTO EFFECT STARTING OUR NEXT MEETINGS: see tiny-announce@ http://meetup.com/OC1-Polyamory...­ then top of that page!
    *Thoughts? -Reply here. I expect ppl will like,esp our attendees.

    June 14

  • DestinyArchitect

    KEY STUFF TO BRING FOR THIS MTG THIS EVE 6:00pm-9:30pm. Quoting from our agenda http://1.JotHere.com/967#M3BB40­ as this cannot be said enough, quote: M3BB40: Key stuff to bring: MJGNGL:Bring your devices for accessing Meetup & portable Internet if you have it. M6VJ4I:DEFINITELY BRING YOUR LAPTOP –VERY IMPORTANT, including for posting questions & announcements, RSVPing for & suggesting future events & topics, and web research. :
    --yes I know this is a poly event, but we actually do make use of this stuff at our meetings, including looking up poly videos & news plus planning & RSVPing for future events, so don't just bring 5 lovers, bring 5 laptops, too! (well, u can start with 1 :-)

    June 6

    • Anthony

      Just of of work but heading that way

      June 6

  • DestinyArchitect

    NEAR-POLYAMORY FEATURED & MOSTLY-PROMOTED IN A MAJOR HOLLYWOOD FILM... 20 YEARS BEFORE THE TERM INVENTED! *During this meeting, I will be screening a few clips of it (so see for yourself!) from in the 1972 classic I just saw, Caberet http://imdb.com/title/tt0068327­ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ca...­) ,which IMDB rates 7.7of10 (just 0.2 from http://imdb.com/chart/top­ the top-250 movies of all time).

    June 6

  • DestinyArchitect

    Anthony http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE&REVIEW OF THIS EVENT -put all that here in this thread.
    *“Wed, May 29, 2013 at 3:36 PM” RSVPed YES (FIRST TIMER).
    *Anthony, welcome! & looking forward to 1st mtg u at this in the next hour.
    *You are RSVPed with +0, so Why not also bring your mate Rachel? whom you feature in your profile (“Hi we are a poly curious couple..”) and I suppose is the lovely lady you picture yourself with here. We love to have couples (and triples & more :-) at our meetings.
    **BTW, in your photo, you look like a great couple!

    June 6

  • That Girl

    sorry D/A, will not be able to make it after all. Primary not able to attend tonight. c u next event :)

    June 6

    • DestinyArchitect

      Ok, thanks for the heads up and letting us know. I just put this your comment where it ideally best goes, your existing attendance thread http://meetup.com/OC-...­ (every attendee has one) -just see my response for you there (we'll miss u) and reply there.

      June 6

  • DestinyArchitect

    That Girl http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT. *Yesterday I RSVPed you YES per http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ -delighted to have you!

    April 3, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread's URL is http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *That Girl,
      **Thank you for your very early RSVP YES.
      **Quite look forward to seeing you again for this, which will be your 3rd meeting in a row!
      **We've always enjoyed having you.
      *Before I cd post the above:
      **“Thu, Jun 6, 2013 at 4:28 PM” RSVPed NO w/cmt http://meetup.com/OC-...­ “sorry D/A, will not be able to make it after all. Primary not able to attend tonight. c u next event :)” (which ideally wd go in this thread).
      **Sorry to hear; we'll miss u. U do know u can come urself& we might even find u a carpool. Per ur cmt,I”ve RSVPed YES for our next one http://meetup.com/OC-...­ -see ya soon!

      June 6

  • DestinyArchitect

    ramjet http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT.
    *Yesterday I RSVPed you YES per http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ -delighted to have you!

    April 3, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread's URL is http://meetup.com/OC-...­
      *ramjet aka 's Meetup URL is http://meetup.com/mem...­ , needed here as his group URL (above) no longer works per his own breaking our rules (see my next comment)
      *note I RSVPed him YES b4 he started breaking our rules.

      June 6

    • DestinyArchitect

      *Especially if say That Girl (who was RSVPed YES here) or anyone may unknowingly bring him again(as he tricked her into last time,he not telling her he was no longer a mbr&from his own doing),
      *I AM NO LONGER ALLOWING HIM AT OUR EVENTS as:
      **he has many times broken our rules
      ***http://1.JotHere.com/...­ “Do “due-process” before you do anything possibly negative.” (including quitting w/o warning nor explaining,+deleting Greets 2him),
      ***(important but not killer) http://1.JotHere.com/...­ fr he emailing instead of posting --&from hv to ask from simply not reading
      **-all wasting me a considerable time,+seemingly mis-leading mbrs(as That Girl above)
      *as this often suggests,he may be violating polyamory values(I recall he told me he was married but on his profile he suggested he was single(“No current romantic relations”)) -tho this I not fully investigated as couldnt-well given this his actively undoing communications.

      June 6

  • DestinyArchitect

    Jaylene http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT. *Yesterday I RSVPed her YES+1 guest(roger) per http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ -delighted to have you!
    *Now I made roger his own RSVP per http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ , way to go, roger!

    April 3, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *This thread's URL is http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      “Tue, May 7, 2013 at 6:33 PM” changed RSVP to NO.
      **Jaylene, kindly share Why. --my guess is because of what you talked about before, the distance for you (being in Lakewood, indeed outside of OC), but please share by Replying here else emailing me. We quite enjoyed having you 2 meetings ago. Moreover at this meeting we'll be talking about Parenting, per your own suggestion we do so. :-)

      June 6

  • Christine

    Haven't been resting well, coming down with some weird sort of cold.

    June 4

    • DestinyArchitect

      Christine http://meetup.com/OC-...­ ATTENDANCE&REVIEW OF THIS EVENT -put all that heare in this thread, http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      * “Thu, May 30, 2013 at 11:30 PM” she RSVPed YES (FIRST TIMER). Glad to hear! By no inherent design, Polyamory traditionally foremost attracts men esp white, so I particularly appreciate attendance by all not this categories in order to achieve the full balance which poly deserves and, as far as gender, needs.

      June 6

    • DestinyArchitect

      * “Tue, Jun 4, 2013 at 12:18 AM ” she RSVPed NO with reason above (1st post of this thread). Sorry to hear, especially for reason I just gave.
      **I hope you're feeling better.
      **If there are any significant additional reasons (such as Meetup persons inappropriately contacting u due to ur membership in a polyamory group, as has been reported by some women), pls let us know: Reply here else privately msg me, so correction (for everybody) can be made.
      **As you will hopefully be better by next month, I've RSVPed u YES for our next http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .

      June 6

  • DestinyArchitect

    MEETUP PRIVATE RSVP Qs (which Meetup asks one when s/he RSVPs) --all on that put here in this thread.
    *They were all missing, due to a Meetup bug (they no longer get auto-copied to automatic repeating listing)
    *So I just added them (all 6).
    *NON-HOSTS, if you're RSVPed YES
    **CURRENTLY WE HAVE 7 ATTENDEES (yeah!):
    + http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ me Destiny
    + http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ Rob
    + http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ Jennifer B.+1
    + http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ Christine
    + http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ Rudy
    + http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ That Girl
    **TEMPORARILY change ur RSVP to NO then right back to YES, then Meetup will prompt you for THESE IMPORTANT 6 PRIVATE Qs which PLEASE ANSWER. This info really helps, especially before the meeting. Thanks!

    June 3

  • DestinyArchitect

    VENUE & DATE+TIME OF THIS SERIES STARTING THIS ONE --all on that put here in this thread.
    *OUR REGULAR VENUE SO DATE+TIME HAVE CHANGED starting 2013.05.17Fri2200 (all improved IMHO), as I just added & detailed in new event description point MNT7VR. So update your calendars. Comments & thoughts? Just reply to this thread.

    June 3

  • DestinyArchitect

    roger http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT.
    *Now I RSVPed him YES per http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ -delighted to have you!

    April 3, 2013

7 went

  • DestinyArc­hitect
    of Laguna Hills;2012.04.14-,47+RSVPs,28+attend; +seeking romance
    Event Host
  • Anthony
    of Capistrano Beach(27min SE);2013.06.03-; w/Rachel;poly-curious
  • Rudy
    of Mission Viejo(19min SE);2013.04.04-, 3+RSVPs, MGCRel NEED ANS
  • Gerry Grant
    of Encinitas(62min SE); 2013.06.01-;1+attends; Tantra event host
  • A former member
    +1 guest
  • A former member

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