OC-Polyamory's Eat&Discuss #15(discussion,+more­ topics via cmts)+

  • April 3 · 6:30 PM
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MEEvtL event listing MBPR0W:

  1. MO0I1G: Now a nearly guaranteed popular event! How?
    1. MO0I2T: The date on this event (shown above) is NOT final and WILL be moved forward... 
      UNTIL we have, at least 5 days before it, RSVP YESes from
      at least 20 people with 55% women.
      .
    2. MO0IPC: Once this happens, the date will be finalized at the soonest reasonable date given:
      1. MO0IBD: aiming so the day-of-week and time-of-day stay the same, for easy planning.
      2. MP2IIS: NOT on some obvious conflict as a major holiday unless the event description says so (so any listing then would only temporary to collect more RSVPs)
    3. MO0J0Y: Once the date is finalized, that will immediately be announced, especially to all who already RSVPed YES.
    4. MO0I8Y: Until finalized, the date will be incrementally moved forward...
      1. MO0IAY: ideally as soon as clear that's necessary
      2. MO0I9Y: by 1 week typically, but
      3. MXQ49D: the postpone period will double typically when there has been no significant change from last scheduling, to avoid needless alerting & rescheduling
    5. MO0I6W: Any excess RSVP YESes, as most likely any excess men RSVPs, will be moved to a waiting list.
    6. MO0JFX: For any excess, we will get selective as to who gets in, but given no other factors, priority will be given to who RSVPed YES first.
    7. MO0JWJ: As one could infer, this plan should assure what it's goal is: that we never have another meeting with low attendance (as short of critical mass, yes even for a leftist group trying to take root in conservative (behind the orange curtain) Orange County) NOR gender imbalance (yes, even for an easily-seen-as sexual group, so normally an-excess-of men, or all men)!
  2. MHQ8ST: Want more folks attending, plus great events totally suiting you? Then MAKE IT HAPPEN! -click here! Including:
    1. MJ9E11: for our upcoming/future events
      1. MJ9E48: Don't wait, RSVP NOW! And if a MAYBE just say YES with explanation.
        • MJ9EOM: for special-interest Meetups as ours, this REALLY helps build attendance more than anything else.
      2. MJ9E9N: SUGGEST TOPICS by commenting on the event listing, with 1 top-level comment per topic.
        • MJ9EPD: We typically cover the topics people suggest.
    2. MJ9ESK: BRING YOUR LAPTOP + Devices for accessing Meetup, including for website sharing & research, posting questions & announcements, RSVPing for future events, and much more: just click that link.
  3. MDJQ6Z: Occurrences plus Historic Changes, in order:
  4. LG4OWH: What are these codes as “LG4OWH:” on this point? They’re short IDs to date-stamp, uniquely-reference, & portably-track most any point or item.
  5. MDMN8M: Listing History, in order
    1. MKNMPR: all authoring here byIDestinyexcept where noted here.
    2. MMF3E0: for prior history see last listing which this is a copy of.
    3. MO08GM: added MO08FM; pst2013.06.06Thu2100.
    4. MO0LHH: added MO0JU0+MO0LGO; pst2013.06.07Fri0143.
    5. MP2J2M: (MO0I1G updated: MO0I2T for clarity (adding "moved forward & "), (MO0I8Y, including MP2IIS motivated by the temporary-schedule on a major holiday)); pst2013.06.27Thu1320.
    6. MQ3POA: Updated MMF3GX: replaced date from "2013.06.27" to "2013.(when enough RSVP YESes)" & added MQ3PWP; title portion: fr "#14" to "#15"; pst2013.07.17Wed1518.
    7. MXQ3NA: Due to a member not getting & heeding top featured dir quote(MO0I2T: The date on this event (shown above) will be moved forward & not-finalized until we have, at least 5 days before, RSVP YESes of (MO0I4Y: at least 20 people,)(MO0I5A: 55% women)) which all ~15 members before had no problem with, to make even clearer by updating to present version; containing section MO0I1G: reviewed again & polished further; pst2013.12.12Wed1907.

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  • A former member
    A former member

    I'm sorry to say that this is officially the most confusing meetup group I've ever been a part of. All these codes, rules, abbreviations and event changes are very time-consuming to decipher. I'm sure it's all there for a reason, but looking through previous posts, I'm just not seeing a clear answer. So when is the April 3rd event actually happening? If it is actually on the 3rd, I'll have to back out because it's my mother's birthday and I made plans. Perhaps someone can explain to me how to navigate this page and the OC Poly group in general? So far, it has just been very alienating. A welcome message would have even been nice.

    If anyone is out there, thanks for your consideration in helping a lost sheep.

    April 2

    • A former member
      A former member

      Thanks you for your efforts in communicating to me, Destiny. It's nice to see that you actually care. And thank you for the compliments, as I'm sure we are both alike in that we care about the things we do and the way we communicate. As a fellow intentional person, I'll reiterate that I was truly sorry to be making my initial post because after several blocks of time between multiple logins to attempt navigating the page and previous posts and updates, despite being reasonably tech savvy, I found myself lost and frustrated. The time stamps on the posts were not reliable and for some reason, entire posts were beyond the scope of my patience to sift through pages of codes and code references akin to reading a detailed contract. Your responses to my post indicate to me that you took a personal offense to my words that were meant to serve the dual purpose of getting assistance from a human and offering constructive criticism through my frustrations, neither of which were wellaccomplished.

      April 23

    • A former member
      A former member

      Thanks again for your attempt to make contact. I do appreciate that and I wish you luck in your future endeavors.

      April 23

  • DestinyArchitect

    DestinyArchitect ATTENDANCE&REVIEW of this event.
    *RSVPing YES now. Haven't missed one in about 1yr now!

    May 7, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    EVENT OVERALL –put all this in this thread
    *YES IT'S THIS EVENING! in about 1hr, per When Thread latest comment http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ .
    **&again there may not be another 1 for a long time... unless u show(or post here offering2help)&change that!
    **“pls show before 7:30pm,ideally by 6:30pm.”
    *For all who show,
    ***as we always do,
    ***we've got a fun video (Lisa Ling's “I love You & You & You” http://1.JotHere.com/4036#MJ917...­ ) and fun topics, plus of of course awesome pizza!
    ***We work well-know&introduce u,including ur even ur group profile u if u want to share.
    **the venue got good inexpensive food, and is really nice!
    ***Yes,cool-nerdly as it sounds, pls BRING YOUR LAPTOPS & devices for accessing Meetup, plus ur wifi hotspots & Chromecasts if you have any. We'll be sharing cool stuff including videos on the Internet, planning upcoming events, plus having multimedia fun!
    *I quite look forward to 1st meeting everyone.

    April 3

  • DestinyArchitect

    WHEN –put all on that here in this thread.
    *Per our new “MO0I1G: Now a nearly guaranteed popular event! How?
    1. MO0I2T: The date on this event (shown above) will not be finalized until we have, at least 5 days before, RSVP YESes of
    1. MO0I4Y: at least 20 people,
    2. MO0I5A: 55% women
    ..” detailed in the event description, this event will accordingly move forward, so this thread will detail & announce those moves.

    June 27, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *I'm DestinyArchitect http://1.JotHere.com/...­ the inventor,creator,&ho­st of this event &most of this Meetup group.
      *Thx2u all,we now nicely have 11(5 men+6 women) RSVPed YES. -indeed ~55% women.
      *&tho yes that's also ~55% of our 20 YES RSVP goal,
      **this listing seems2hv reached is present max RSVP YES.
      **+now due 2problems not my fault(due to Meetup&et al,too complex to explain here),unless they're fixed by say tomorrow noon (&I put in a request but that doesn't seem likely),I'm unable to further edit this event listing(&this also prevents sched of future events SO THIS MAY WELL BE OUR LAST EVENT FOR SOME MONTHS,unless u fix that:come&see).
      *So despite what the intro of this listing says,THIS EVENT WILL BE AT THE TIME ABOVE(“Thursday, April 3, 2014; 6:30 PM to 9:30 PM”) and in the above venue(if not the main banquet rm on left (facing in) then in the big side area on right) -UNLESS(but unlikely) I before Reply on this thread w/changes. So pls show before 7:30pm,ideally by 6:30pm.

      April 2

    • DestinyArchitect

      *Per my call N3H77A just now, I've just confirmed our venue for TONIGHT. “pls show before 7:30pm,ideally by 6:30pm.”
      *While experience tells me not to hold my breath,
      I sincerely hope most of our now 10 RSVP YES show!, incl as
      **again there may not be another 1 for a long time... unless u show(or post here offering2help)&chang­e that!
      **I'm missing 2 important mtgs this eve( http://meetup.com/Ang...­ & http://meetup.com/soc...­ ) to put on nice event for all :-)
      *Brock asked some Q's on his thread http://meetup.com/OC-...­ :
      **“is [this ]actually on [today April] 3rd ”; yes,&as I anticipated, nothing's changed.
      **effectively on my last cmt “due 2problems not my fault(due to Meetup&et al,too complex to explain here) ” -well there in his thread I overview explained. So those caring 2be willing contribute to help our group,I encourage u read it.
      *I lkg fwd2 1st meeting everyone!

      April 3

  • A former member
    A former member

    Maybe. It is far for me to drive but my night classes are in spring break so I want to try to come while I can. I'm bringing my sister so that I'm not coming alone.

    March 27

    • DestinyArchitect

      PJ http://meetup.com/OC-...­ PARTICIPATION & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT – put all that on this thread, URL: http://meetup.com/OC-...­
      *Seems by this comment ~6 days ago, PJ RSVPed MAYBE with 3 guests.
      **PJ, thanks for your possible-YES RSVP. Also welcome to the group. We look forward to seeing you at this your 1st event or at some event soon.
      *Before posting this, ~1hr ago, PJ changed her RSVP to a NO.
      **PJ, wish you could join. Note this event is often delayed later (and may still be). Update ur RSVP to YES/MAYBE as soon as that's possible.

      April 2

  • Bob & Carol

    Looking forward to meeting like-minded people, though we may not make it until at least 7pm. Hope this event doesn't change time or place as seems to be implied by Destiny's postings can happen?

    October 16

    • DestinyArchitect

      At 9:39 AM, thanks for ur RSVP YES. Since you're a M&F couple profile, I will now increase ur RSVP from 1 to 1+1 guest (1 man & 1 woman) -great, 2 more RSVP YESes! Pls also consider each of u getting a Meetup profile (1 profile per person; our profile Qs support (indeed, for poly's openness, require) the cross-reference so your couple status is still shown & celebrated, plus among simpler attendance tracking, we get more pretty pics of folks attending on our attendance lists, plus more. Yes, the date of this will, as it has, move forward until we get enough balanced RSVP YESes to insure the event is a success (and thanks to you, 2 more!) but the venue should stay the same, all as detailed in the event description. Look forward to meeting you two!

      October 16

    • Bob & Carol

      Although I emphasized in my post that we we were NOT interested in RSVPing for an event only to be told it wasn't happening & that yet again was moved later in the year, that's exactly what took place with this non-event. If we were supposed to infer from your post above that there weren't enough people (20? half women?) & that it was being canceled one more time, we didn't. Bob & I altered our schedules & drove separately to Round Table Pizza to find no event &, curiously, the banquet room occupied by another group. Guess you didn't even reserve it? We'll be changing our RSVP to no--not going to get jerked around by your extensive rules of having a certain number of RSVPs before you actually HOLD an event that's been scheduled for weeks. WAY too many rules, WAY too much gobbledy gook in the form of "codes" & acronyms making your posts almost unreadable. Good luck attracting people--we don't have time to decipher gibberish or to go to an event someone cancels on the day of.

      October 19

  • DestinyArchitect

    "Children in California Can Now Have More Than Two Legal Parents. Conservatives: Your Plan Backfired." http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_f...­
    *Just heard now oddly on on tonight's http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Th...­ (not a show I watch, just happened to be on)
    *Though seems no one has posted connecting this with polyamory (says http://google.com/search?hl=en&...­ ), including starting with this wasn't the motive, on at least very quick look this seems an important step towards acceptance of polyamory parenting plus maybe even civil unions and marriages between 3+ people :-)

    October 8

  • DestinyArchitect

    beautifulhearts http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE & REVIEW OF THIS EVENT --put all on that here in this thread.
    *“7/20/2013 7:56:00” they RSVPed YES, indeed for the 1st time in our group.
    **Thanks for your RSVP YES. We look forward to your 1st joining us.
    **Per ur bio saying “We're a poly couple” and ur pic, I'm counting u as 1 man+1 woman, and I'm updating ur "guests" from 0 to 1 so Meetup's “attending” count is accurate (2 people, not 1).
    **Ideally u'll each have ur own Meetup profile, instead of a shared profile
    ***will make make Meetup's counting& general RSVP tracking the normal & easier plus show more neat pics on everyone's attendance list.
    **why this is preferred; note it never yet been required.
    ***Note you can still (and we'd want u and any relationship) to refer to each other in your profiles: our MGCRel Q there is just for that; and u can include additional photos of u all: so you wouldn't loose sharing your connection.
    *Looking fwd to 1st mtg u!

    July 23, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I work in LA so this is too far on a weekday to make it on time. Maybe next time...=)

    July 9, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      *Tonya,I wrote this especially for u. So would love to hear ur Reply posts on this :-)
      *This thread's URL: http://meetup.com/OC-...­

      July 18, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      Thanks for thinking of me! My only problem is that most of the events I see are at a time during the weekday that I cannot possibly make it on time. I'm waiting to see something on like a Saturday or Sunday. Don't worry..I get the emails and check the event dates often. =) Thanks again!

      July 18, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Sorry, I have a tight schedule - can't plan ahead. Hope this works out for everyone ~~ enjoy!

    July 18, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I will be attending without a guest. :(

    June 27, 2013

    • DestinyArchitect

      Rob http://meetup.com/OC-...­ ATTENDANCE & REVEIEW OF THIS EVENT –put all that here in this thread, URL http://meetup.com/OC-...­ .
      *“Sat, Jun 22, 2013 at 1:19 PM” He 1st RSVPs (YES) for this.
      *2013.07.27Thu, seemingly in response to my cmt here http://meetup.com/OC-...­ , he commented “I will be attending without a guest. :( ” above.
      **Actually I see I was accidentally mistaken in saying “+(1 undetermined, a guest of Rob)” (as he had declared no guest; rather Jennifer had her husband as a guest (and we're looking forward to that :-),which I will now correct in my reply to that.

      July 2, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      No worries see you on the 11th. Take care, Rob.

      July 3, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    That Girl http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE&REVIEW OF THIS EVENT -put all that here in this thread
    *Just now I RSVPed you YES per ur http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ of “.. c u next event :)”.
    *That Girl, we always enjoy having u. Looking forward to seeing you again at this one!

    June 6, 2013

  • DestinyArchitect

    Christine http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ ATTENDANCE&REVIEW OF THIS EVENT -put all that heare in this thread.
    *Just now I RSVPed you YES per ur cmt http://meetup.com/OC-Polyamory/...­ as I will further explain there soon.
    *Thanks for your RSVP We quite look forward to 1st meeting u at this later event!

    June 6, 2013

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