To look at, present, or think of (beliefs, ideas, relationships, etc.) in a new or different way. This is one definition taken from the free online dictionary.
For this hike, we will talk about what is possible through reframing our beliefs, looking at our past in a different way, and taking a new perspective of the currently occurring world (including relationships). Our future depends on how we choose to frame the world now.
Choosing to take Ownership of our experience and the framing of our perspective, we are able to see what will work for us, rather than being dominated by what does not work. The more we put our attention on what will work, the more we get what we want. We come into alignment with ourselves and what we want comes naturally as a by-product of where our attention is. When we choose to reframe, things become possible.
For me, it was necessary to make space for a new perspective of myself. If the critical voices were ever going to chill out, and the self defeating identity was ever to be shifted, I had to consider that who I knew myself to be might just be a perspective or frame that I was holding. I decided to begin catching those thoughts and put them into a box (imaginary box) where they would be if I needed them. The thought that I didn't have what it takes to make change went in the box. The thought that I was invisible went in the box. The thought that I wouldn't have anything to offer went in the box. I still have the box, and I still put things in it. Those things are there if I need them (it is essential not to dismiss these identities, because they are parts of us that will fight and assert themselves to stay alive. It is ok to give them a break and set them aside for now, though). This practice gives me the opportunity to choose how I see myself, and what I am creating for my future. It is working.
I have an assignment for you (if you choose to accept)! From the time you read this, until this hike, catch the impulses that don't feel good, grab the thoughts that tell you that you are not going to have what you want, field the critical and judgmental voices and give them somewhere to be that is not in the front of your mind. Maybe it's a box, maybe it's a table, maybe it is a locker that only you have the combination to, wherever you put the thoughts, voices and criticisms, do know that you can have them back anytime you want them. Thank them and let them know you appreciate the work they do, and now it is time to take a break. Come to the hike willing to share what shows up in this space, or share it here on the discussion board so others can be served by your success.
We are On The Path! of Radical Self Acceptance. See you on the hike.