OUR MISSION: We are a "Singles" group for ages 50 and up, dedicated to fun and friendship. This meetup is designed for members to enhance their social life and/or to ease transition for people new to the region. We believe that you can easily make new friends by coming to different kinds of meetups and just having fun.
1. Dating: We are not a dating club but we don't discourage dating other members. If you meet someone here, we certainly hope you will continue to socialize with us and other members. If it doesn't work out, you will be removed from the group if you create a problem for the group or for that other person. You know what this means. As singles, we've all been there.
2. House Parties:
Parties in the private homes of members are to be attended only by known members. If you are new to the group, we ask that you attend at least two events or are approved for private parties by an organizer, assistant organizer, or homeowner before you RSVP to a private party. Introduce yourself to that event's host who is most likely an organizer or assistant organizer so that you may qualify for private party participation.
3. Suggestions: Although only organizers and assistant organizers can actually post an event, we invite all suggestions for new things for you and us to do. If you would like to host a Meetup to play games or cards, please post it as an idea and if enough interest is shown we will post it as a Meetup. We will also go hiking, dancing, visit museums, theaters and plays, and go to happy hours and dining, wine tasting, and road trips here in Arizona as well as nearby California and Rocky Point. If you like to do it and it's fun, chances are somebody in our Meetup will like it as well. WVMS appreciates all suggestions for events. Our group's success depends on not only people attending events, but also people hosting events. We all hear about different events, and there are places that we want to try. The forum for doing this is the “Suggest A MeetUp” on our homepage. When you suggest a MeetUp, you will need to post the major details of the event - date, time, place/address, and description of the event. The site is very user friendly and will prompt you through the process. All the Organizers are expected to host events and they do, but we are all volunteers and can’t possibly do it all. We encourage our members to recommend and possibly host events that interest them. FYI, an organizer can set our website to enable a designated member to host an event.
4. Special Events: Our Monthly Breakfast is held on the last Saturday of each month, either in the IronWorks Restaurant at the Bellair Golf Course, the Old Country Buffet in Peoria, or a restaurant in the further Western part of the West Valley. This is a good time for "Newbies" to get acquainted. Our Monthly Birthday Party dinner is held on the third Thursday of the month. We have our Anniversary Picnic every year in either February or March (depending on weather) and we invite all new members to attend.
Here are some guidelines to make your time at Meetup a lot more pleasant and for easier navigation through the website:
5. RSVPs & NO SHOWS: When you get an invitation to an event, the screen asks you: “YES or NO”. If you are not interested, DO NOTHING. Please do not click the NO button. We need no explanation of why you are not coming to the event or apologies. We are not offended if you can’t make it to an event. Please be aware that when you reply NO, it creates more emails and postings that go to ALL members and ALL of us need to delete those emails. The NO button is only used when you are changing a YES RSVP to a NO. Make sure you click the round radio button, then the square RSVP button for the change. It is your responsibility to keep your RSVP current and to change your own RSVP! THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR RSVP AN HOUR BEFORE THE MEETUP BEGINS. Also, if you change your RSVP after the deadline for signup, i.e. let's say the host cuts off the RSVPs the day before the meetup at maybe 6 pm, then after that time and maybe the next day, you suddenly decide not to go. You will be counted as a NO SHOW, regardless of the reason. You are in charge of your own calendar and it is your responsibility to check back on the meetup site and take your RSVP off if your schedule changes. You know in advance if you are going to be out of town, have to help someone move, or have an unexpected guest, and it is important to the event host for many reasons that you revise your RSVP to "No". The same applies to revisions to the number of guests you added to your RSVP. Please don't just post a comment that you can't make it, and then leave your name on the list. The site will still show you as a Yes RSVP even though you did not attend, and people on the "wait list", if any, will not be moved up if your name remains on the Attending List. After three No Shows you will be suspended as a member for six months and will not be permitted to attend any of our events during that period. Your dues will be forfeited, and you will have to repay dues to again become active after the six month period lapses.
6. Comments During and After an Event: After you have been to an event, the automated system will ask you to comment. Remember that old adage: “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything”. We would appreciate this simple courtesy on our pages, as these are public forums and viewed by new and prospective members. If you want to know about a certain restaurant, then call the restaurant. Comments are best used for members who need something such as carpooling, a dinner partner before the event, etc. If you have a question about an event, contact the host. Click on the name of the host, and email a private message from their profile page. Also, please refrain from such subjects as politics and religion. We each have our own views on these topics and others may not share those views. Airing your personal opinions just causes hard feelings between members and spoils the fun, which is why we are in meetup...for FUN! If you want to talk about these subjects, do it privately with family or a group which is centered around those topics.
7. Special Requests: From time to time, WVMS receives a variety of “special requests” to accommodate individual likes, dislikes, schedules, allergies, restrictions, health needs, driving issues, personal wants etc. Please understand that it is often impossible for us to make accommodations for personal and individual needs. Our Event Hosts are volunteers and we cannot place restrictions on them, nor on the other attending members, in order to satisfy one or a few members. Our events are held on a variety of days and times at different venues, etc. and we encourage ALL members to join us at the events that best suit their needs. Please remember that we are a social group and people come to events to get away from their own daily life which may include their own problems and issues. While we try to be sensitive to fellow members’ issues, we are not a self-help or therapy group. We also listen to our members suggestions for future meetups, so . . . LET’S HAVE FUN!!
8. Meetup is run by a software program company in NYC. They are always adding functions to the program that we have NO CONTROL over. The programmers at Meetup NYC don’t care what we think, they do whatever they want. For example, The “NICE TO SEE YOU” big red buttons. This annoying feature cannot be turned off, and sends an email to whoever you select. We think the time to say ‘nice to see you’ is face-to-face. Please just ignore this feature. Also, we do not use “check-in”.
9. Our Meetup Site is NOT Facebook. If you want to say that you “did not like something like the food or accommodations, or other personal comments, put them on your own Facebook page. Please don't make any comments about the opposite sex that could be taken as an unwanted advance. These type of remarks will cause you to be removed from the group or reported to Meetup Headquarters in New York. If you DO experience any of these kind of problems, please send a private message to our Organizer including your preferred phone number so it can be discussed by phone.
10. Payments made to WVMS in the form of dues, donations, sponsor fees, or other forms will be used to pay Meetup.com's website fees charged to WVMS and to reimburse members for out of pocket costs incurred for a WVMS event. No compensation shall be paid to any organizer or member for personal services.
11. We humbly ask that you pay dues through the website for a variety of administrative reasons. Just click "Pay dues" on the left side of the screen on your WVMS Profile page and follow the prompts. We believe this to be a safe, reliable payment mode. Handing an organizer cash to pay dues requires a lot of effort on our part to correctly record your dues payment, and causes logistic difficulties in depositing money to the bank account that would otherwise be automatically credited had you paid through the website. For this reason organizers will insist that you instead pay through the website. Everyone fears identity theft, but we use credit cards everywhere anyway. The annual $7 fee is paid through WePay, which is similar to and competes with PayPal. We believe it to be a secure payment service organization. Your card info is given to WePay, not to WVMS. Please help us by using the website. Thank you.
12. Tips on contacting another member: If you post a comment on the meetup event page, an email will be sent to all members expressing your comment. To send a message directly to a member, click on the member's name and then click "Message". Type your message and click send. The message will be sent in the form of an email only to that member. To keep your own email address private, respond to messages through the meetup website. Using your own email address provides it to the recipient.
Just taking the time to pay attention to these simple things will help your Organizers continue creating more COOL events. If you have any suggestions to make our group better, please feel free to let us know.