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Pondering Assumptions

Hello Ponderers!

Unfortunately, I was informed that the Battery Park Book Exchange double booked the Middle Earth room that we normally meet in for this meetup. So, this week we are meeting in the 2nd floor loft. Please order downstairs and bring your purchases upstairs. Do not expect wait staff to come to you.

Last time I allowed 25 people in that room and it was rather hard to hear each other. I am going to make the limit on this meetup 20. However, I still recommend getting on the waiting list. Then if you want to, come and wait in the back of the room until the 20 that RSVP'd sit and you're welcome to find an empty chair and join in, but it a second circle around the group.

So, our topic this week is going to be assumptions. We're going to place an emphasis at the beginning of this discussion on assumptions made about northerners versus southerners.

Assumption: something accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof.

What are the different types of assumptions people make?

Why do we make assumptions?

Do people tend to make assumptions more about certain groups of people? Which groups? Why?

Is there any value in making positive assumptions?

At what point does making an assumption cause problems?

Have you experienced people making assumptions about you? How do you respond?

How do you handle when you realize or become aware that you have been making assumptions?


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  • john k.

    Coincidentally, a cousin of mine, who has South American roots,and has lived in the Pacific Northwest, but just moved to Asheville, posted this article this morning: (not sure if the link will process, but you can cut and paste if need be).

    August 22, 2012

    • A former member
      A former member

      Great article. Thanks, John. I will practice my NCS.

      August 22, 2012

  • Bradley

    "At what point does making an assumption cause problems?" I wanted to reply to his question last night. Others said something similar already. The moment I become attached to it, it becomes a problem. Of course, that's not the actually assumption but the attachment. But also, the moment I close my mind and heart to other perspectives. But also, the moment I make a choice based on an incorrect assumption. But even then, it's not really a "problem" just not the most effective (harmonious) response. But even then, effective is relevant to purpose. So if my (unconscious) purpose is harmony, unification, understanding, love (all the same, really) to identify and discard an erroneous assumption isn't a "problem" but really the seed of the solution. Of course, conflicts only seem like problems if my objectives are based on subjective, erroneous assumptions. ;-)

    1 · August 22, 2012

  • Bradley

    Probably one of the most meaningful, insight discussions yet. The vibe felt more deep, personal, heart-filled. But then, that topic is particularly significant to me. One of the greatest gifts I've ever given myself or another was a chance to understand life from their perspective. I am truly privileged to sit in the presence of so many extraordinary people. Thank you for listening. Thank you for sharing :-)

    August 22, 2012

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