addressalign-toparrow-leftarrow-rightbackbellblockcalendarcameraccwcheckchevron-downchevron-leftchevron-rightchevron-small-downchevron-small-leftchevron-small-rightchevron-small-upchevron-upcircle-with-checkcircle-with-crosscircle-with-pluscontroller-playcrossdots-three-verticaleditemptyheartexporteye-with-lineeyefacebookfolderfullheartglobegmailgooglegroupshelp-with-circleimageimagesinstagramFill 1light-bulblinklocation-pinm-swarmSearchmailmessagesminusmoremuplabelShape 3 + Rectangle 1ShapeoutlookpersonJoin Group on CardStartprice-ribbonprintShapeShapeShapeShapeImported LayersImported LayersImported Layersshieldstartickettrashtriangle-downtriangle-uptwitteruserwarningyahoo

Queer Dharma: The Gentle Art of Conflict with Michael McCormick


What do we do when we see conflict coming? We duck and hide, right? Or we try to beat the other to the punch. Either way, we act out of fear. But we don't have to act out of fear, and when we do, it does us no good. Conflict is inevitable – we can't avoid it. Better to be curious and embrace it. Whether we face an invitation to cooperate or a challenge to fight, it's all feedback. It's all information to tell us what's possible. But we must pay attention and listen – to our true selves and to what's really happening, beyond our habit of seeing an adversary as the “other,” as separate from us. The truth is everyone suffers and wants to stop the pain, including those who we see as causing us pain. Adding our aggression to theirs will only fuel the conflict. Someone needs to choose gentleness and kindness, to have the confidence to be vulnerable and to trust our interdependence, to create space for compassion and empathy, to understand that none of us can be free until we all are.

Michael McCormick has been meditating for 12 years and has been a student of Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche since 2005. He is Director of Practice and Education for the Portland Shambhala Meditation Center, a meditation instructor, and a member of the Diversity Working Group of Shambhala International. For 25 years he worked as a teacher, trainer, and practitioner of conflict resolution and public dialogue. For longer than that he was a community organizer/activist. He now writes on social and spiritual themes.

Queer Dharma is a group for LGBTQ practitioners to study and practice meditation and Dharma and to discuss personal experiences. The group serves to send a message to new-comers that they are welcome in our tradition and to explore (perhaps in ways that may be unintentionally overlooked or excluded in our regular programming) how we as gays, lesbians, bisexuals, trans and gender queer individuals can incorporate the teachings in our everyday lives and in our various social circles. We're scheduled to meet every first Sunday of the month 2-4pm. Meditation instruction is available to you. Continue to socialize over dinner and drinks at Crush afterward!

See you there!


Queer Dharma is a free event - suggested donation of any dollar amount.

Join or login to comment.

  • Madeline B A.

    Valuable exercises and discussions. I came away with clearer vision in some areas.

    January 5, 2014

  • Natalie M.

    I am sorry but I can't make it today. Hopefully next time.

    January 5, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I wish I could make this. Too much to do.

    January 5, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I have an engagement at 7. Any ideas how long this event will last?

    January 4, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Oops. Never mind. Saw the end time up top.

      January 4, 2014

  • shannon

    Hi all, A friend needs my help moving tomorrow so I won't be there after all. Looking forward to the next event.

    January 4, 2014

  • Ellen G.

    Hi Jason,
    Is there a way I could attend if I brought an attendant?
    Are there stairs or what? I'd like to attend. Is there a way we
    could make it work?

    December 21, 2013

    • Jason B.

      Certainly, Ellen. I think an attendant would be very helpful There are stairs leading up to the main outside door which may be the most challenging, and the bathrooms are small. Let me know what I can do to make it doable. Hope to see you on the 5th.

      December 24, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I am out of town Jan. 5th unfortunately, but I'd really like to try for the next one. I have been practicing TM for about 10 years and I think the meetup sounds wonderful. I teach until 1:30 most Sundays and would hope I could make it to your location by 2:00. Please keep me in the loop. Take care and happy holidays.

    December 20, 2013

  • Ellen G.

    Is the space accessible to wheelchairs? I am disabled and would like to spend time with other LGBT meditiators, not struggling with stairs and inaccessible rest rooms. Please inform

    December 20, 2013

    • Jason B.

      Unfortunately we are in an older building that is not yet fully accessible. As the center's Societal Health and Well-Being Director, it is on my list of priorities. Perhaps you could help advise?

      December 20, 2013

25 went

People in this
Meetup are also in:

Sign up

Meetup members, Log in

By clicking "Sign up" or "Sign up using Facebook", you confirm that you accept our Terms of Service & Privacy Policy