The Raleigh-Durham Singles Meetup Group
Welcome! Here's what you need to know:
First off, this is not a dating site
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Second, this is not a group just to celebrate being single.
The goal of the group organizers is not to "hook up" people in the group. The organizers are not out to play cupid (not directly).What are we about?
Providing a friendly open environment
for meeting other single people.
How do we do this? Events.
Event Calendar in Google Format
The organizers will plan events for you too attend. The events maybe small or huge, but they all will provide an opportunity for you to talk with the other people in the group. We encourage talking to everyone, because you never know what might come of that new social contact.
Everyone wants to have someone special in their life, but it is hard to meet people in this crazy busy world, that's were this group comes in. We are not promising you will find that special someone at your first, third, or tenth event. We do promise to provide a friendly atmosphere that encourages finding that special someone.
What does it cost? Nothing. (well sortof)
To be a member of this group, it doesn't cost you a dime. All you have to do is join and then check back to the web site on a weekly basis to see what is going on. New events are added all the time, but not announced.
Some events have a cost associated with them. For example, "Movies on the Lawn" cost money to attend, but not money to the group. Sometimes the Event Organizer is providing food or a service and there will be a cost for the event. Sometimes Events will be overnight and require travel costs. These costs will be part of the Event information. If available, you can pay for events in advance using PayPal.
When an event does not have a predetermined cost, then the Event Organizer will provide a contribution jar at the event. What is the contribution jar for? Well, there are costs to running this group, there is a monthly site fee, cost of name tags, paper products, food, drinks, etc.... There are things that the Event Organizer has to do to provide the event for you. We don't charge a per event fee, but if you feel like you had a great time at the event, then give to your Event Organizer. Contributions collected above the cost of regular event materials will go back into making the event more enjoyable.
How do you get started?
Your First Steps:
- Join the group!
We want to meet you! We have members from all over the area with a wide variety of interests and backgrounds. Out age group range is 21-65 years old. We do events for specific age ranges, but we also do events for everyone. We are always welcoming newcomers to the group. Map of Group
- Set up your profile.
Answer the questions, they help the organizers get an idea of who is in the group. (They also help other members learn more about you.)
- Check out the message board.
Read through pinned topics and visit often for updates. If you have questions/suggestions/feedback about the group, you can always post them to the board. Some events require more description than can be put on the event page, the message board will have the other information.
- Check out the Events page.
See what is going on and RSVP. Attending events and meeting other people is what Meetup and this group is all about. The group is only as good as what you put into it and attending events is the thing to do. When thinking about attending an event, you should consider who might be attending and not whether or not you are interested in the planned activity. The main goal of the events is for singles to talk to other singles.
If you don't know if you can go to the event and "Maybe" is not an option, select "No". You can always come back and change it to "Yes" up to 24 hours before the event. RSVPing for the events lets the organizers know that you are actively visiting the site. We have a No Show Policy to help keep the group active and the organizers less frustrated.
If the event is full
- RSVP "No" for the event.
- Add the following text to the RSVP comment field "Wait List Me".
- Regularly check the event to see if a spot has opened up.
By doing this, you will either by added by the Event Organizer if a spot opens up or you can add yourself to the open spot. Asking to be put on the wait list is the only way we know if you want to be added to the event.
If you know that you won't be going to an event (age range, not in town, other plans) then RSVP "No" for the event. By making an RSVP, you won't get an e-mail reminding you to RSVP for the event.
An e-mail is sent out on Monday with a list of events for the upcoming week. When you get this e-mail you should go through the list and RSVP for all the events. You can always change your RSVP as the event gets closer. You can also go to the Calendar and view all of the upcoming events for the current and next month.
- Get involved!
This group thrives on volunteers who have event ideas. If you want to be more active and become an assistant, read the Assistant and Event Organizer Guideline first. If you want to just help out at events, but not be an organizer, you can be a Sub Assistant.
- Contacting the Organizer
Because I get a lot of e-mails from Meetup, it is help to have a proper topic for the e-mail. If you select the link "Contact Me", change the topic to what your e-mail is about. By doing this, your e-mail will more likely not be lost in my mailbox.
What type of events do we have? All sorts.Event Reviews by the Members
Game Night - Battle of the Sexes
This is a group game with the women and men challenging each other in a friendly, yet fierce, competition to prove once and for all which the better gender is. This is also a great opportunity to meet others and have a great time. We try to keep the gender balance even on this, so keep that in mind when RSVPing. The battle starts out with some ice breakers to get to know the opponents and there is a break during to make a good foe a friend.
These events are for helping novices learn to cook and for pro's to try new things. The dinners are held at a private home and EVERYONE HELPS WITH THE COOKING. This is not a pot-luck dinner. All the food will be prepared together. This also helps you get to know a smaller group of people better than the larger groups.
Potluck dinners can happen at someone's house or even in the park. The idea is that variety and large amounts of food can be brought together to feed everyone. And while you are munching down on something yummy, you can mix and mingle and find a new single friend.
Cocktails and Clubs
This event allows for a little mingling before going to the club. We will meet at one or more host houses. Prepare and consume a particular type of cocktail, do some introductions, and then head out to a local club. The worst thing about going to a club is being by yourself or not having the courage to approach someone. With this event, you have already had a chance to talk to someone who might want to join you out on the dance floor. And, with a group of 20+ people joining you at the club, you won't feel alone.
Happy Hours / Mixers
There are plenty of bars/restaurants around the area that have drink specials during happy hour. What better than to enjoy these specials with some new found friends. These events will most likely lead to other activities later in the night, like dancing and karaoke. When the event is in downtown Raleigh, you may have to find some place to park
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Want to stay busy with the group? We have repeating events.
We have a few events that pop-up around the same time each week or every month. We do these type of events to make it easier for last minute planners to attend activities. These events are in public places, but we have an area sectioned off for our group.
- Every Tuesday Happy Hour Mixer for 30s/40s Group (location changes weekly)
- Every Wednesday Happy Hour Mixer for 40s+ Group (location changes weekly)
- Every Thursday Happy Hour Mixer for 20s/30s Group (location changes weekly)
Are there other type of Events? Yep.
Beyond these repeating events, there are other types of events like wine, cheese, and chocolate tasting. When the temperatures are more appropriate, we will do outdoor events like picnics.
Of course, if there is an event outside of the group you plan on attending and want others to attend with you, then you can post it on the Message Board
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