"Find Something Real"- Tagline to HBO's series "Looking" about three gay friends living and loving in modern day San Francisco.
How successful have you been in finding "something real" in your journey in the Bay Area? In this salon, we will share our experiences in finding friends, boyfriends and in general, building community in San Francisco.
What do you look for in a friend? A boyfriend? What are the most important qualities you look for in each?
How do you go about looking for friends and boyfriends? What blocks have you encountered? What successes have you achieved?
Do you ever have problems deciding whether a particular guy is friend or boyfriend material? What is the difference between the two?
If you're single, have you experienced pressures regarding your single status? Do you find that there is pressure to find someone? With the advent of same-sex marriage, has this pressure increased?
Some say San Francisco can be a tough place to make friends or find a boyfriend or lover. Is this always true? If so, why is this the case? Are there qualities about the gay scene that makes things more difficult? Are there things about San Francisco that make it harder (than say, Iowa?) to find friends and lovers?
Recent positive psychology studies have posited that social interaction and a sense of connection to others is one of the most important elements of happiness for an individual. Do you agree with this assessment? Are you satisfied with your level of social connection to others?
How can we make it easier to find friends and lovers and otherwise build community in SF?