The Family Man

  • September 15, 2013 · 2:30 PM
  • 60 kaki bukit place, Singapore 415979

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The Family Man is a comedy drama about a highly successful, single investment banker who gets to experience how his life would have been if he made a different decision 13 years ago (i.e. choosing to stay with his girlfriend over a fast-lane career). It’s a movie with a ‘what if I had done this instead?’ experience and contrasts the life of one with great wealth and success vs. a quiet family life.

13 years ago, when Jack Campbell (Nicolas Cage) left for London to pursue a prestigious internship, he promised his law school-bound girlfriend Kate (Téa Leoni) that they'd only be apart for a year.

Now it's Christmas Eve, and Jack's a high-paid, high-powered and high-living Wall Street bachelor, and Kate's a distant memory. Stopping at a convenience store on his way home from work, Jack finds himself in the middle of a disagreement between the store's owner and an agitated street punk. After helping to settle the riff, Jack proceeds to lecture the young man Cash (Don Cheadle), who in turn, proceeds to questions Jack's values in life. "I have everything I've ever wanted," Jack tells him.

Tucked safely inside the walls of his sleek, immaculate designer penthouse, Jack falls asleep...

...and wakes up in a cluttered suburban New Jersey bedroom next to Kate, 13 years older and sleep-deprived but still looking like he remembers her, with a baby crying in the next room and a six year old girl calling him Daddy. And that's just the beginning in a long list of surprises for Jack.

It’s a great movie to that sparks thoughts about your life, though I’m not exactly in agreement with the indirect message the movie sends that life has to be an either/or scenario (in this case, wealth vs. family). It encourages people to justify not pursuing career / wealth goals because they have a family, or that they shouldn’t pursue love / have a family because they’re busy with their career. Both are achievable (else top business people/CEOs/the best performers in their fields would all be singletons, which isn’t the case) – it’s a matter of growing and expanding our capacity.

What I do like is it gets you to reflect on what you’re currently doing in your life. If you continue what you’re doing today, where is it going to lead you? A life of achievements and wealth but with no real friends or loved ones to speak of? A life spent conforming to norms and never taking action to pursue your real goals and dreams? A life just living for others but not for yourself? Someone bitter at life and at the end of it all, yourself? And is this life what you want? If not, what are you going to do to change this outcome?

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  • Mingjie

    Thanks to marrie and betty for hosting the screening at their office, and generously offering drinks and snacks. Post movie chats offer a rare glimpse (pun intended) into the challenges faced by local feature film aficionados. Had a great time.

    BTW, since the film was related to choices, just want to share this good book "The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less" by Barry Schwartz. Cheers!

    2 · September 15, 2013

    • Marrie

      Tks for the recommendation... will check it out...

      September 24, 2013

  • kelly

    Hi, Marrie, thank you for your kind message, I am currently in Melaka, cannot make it for tomorrow's movie, hope can join next time :)

    Hope you all have a great time!

    September 14, 2013

  • Marrie

    Sorry, I had to remove those who did not leave contact number as I will not be able to sms the exact venue to them... Now there are vacant places... when you rsvp, please please include your contact... my number is 90178188. thanks.

    September 14, 2013

  • Meijun

    Hi all, is it confirmed tomorrow & how do we get there? :)

    1 · September 14, 2013

  • Marrie

    The disk I purchased just arrived so we just have to set a date... I am thinking of 25th Aug, 3pm... I am wondering if there is anyone else who can host this, a place who can accommodate over 20 as we have a waiting list... Failing which the last resort is still my office...

    August 15, 2013

  • Marrie

    Ok, no one volunteered the disc so I will have to buy it unless John can loan his copy to us. If I can get it by the 17th, we will do the screening then as my film wrap up party has been postponed twice to 31st Aug due to my hospitalization.

    2 · August 5, 2013

    • Marrie

      Like I said, no worries.. mine is on the way..

      August 12, 2013

    • Marrie

      thanks for trying :)

      August 12, 2013

  • Marrie

    Venue is likely to be at my office around Kaki Bukit area so do stay tuned...

    1 · August 5, 2013

  • John D.

    OMG OMG OMG! I LOVED this movie so much, just finished watching it... Totally awesome! If, the government ultimately wants more babies, they should screen this movie every night on 5! LOL, i'm serious!

    1 · July 25, 2013

  • John D.

    Lovely, you've just pick a movie for me to watch this afternoon. Thanks!!

    July 25, 2013

  • Hwee H.

    Good choice -- career vs family is a very common issue with us. Do mass-email us when u fix a venue, which hopefully can take more than 20 people. Thanks!

    1 · July 21, 2013

  • Jun

    A thought provoking movie!
    Enjoy :)

    1 · July 14, 2013

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