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Introduction to MOHR.

MOHR is an acronym for Moving On to Healthy Relating.

The topic for our next quarter is Commitment & the I vs. We

This topic is sure to get right to the core of what makes a relationship mutually satisfying or not, and can give clues to what contributes to failing relationships, as well. When grieving the loss of a significant relationship, we learn self care. Individual needs are tended. We learn to look inside to be responsible for our contribution to the breakup, move on and take care of ourselves with kindness. We learn to respect our individual desires and needs, to recover from what can be debilitating self-doubt and self-recrimination. When considering a new relationship, we can create it anew, in a way that sidesteps the problems we encountered in the past. Part of doing that is how much of ourselves will we meld with the other person -- moving away from the abandoned end of the spectrum, and how much will we retain our individuality, so we aren't engulfed. It is a tricky balance.
When we get close to the 'we' aspects of a relationship, after being single a while, it makes sense that we might encounter times that will throw us back to fight or flight mode, and we will react, rather than consciously choose a careful path. We might make a mess of things. How do we clean that up, or work at sidestepping some messes? I think it helps to learn about the dynamics of I'ness and We'ness, and determine how much we will meld, and how much we will maintain individuality. A big part of it could be how we view ourselves. I think if we sense that the other might be holding us up on a pedestal, or they may be feeling superior to us, it is best that we look inward to see if we are solidly accepting ourselves, or not. The foundation of being able to mesh with another, is being fundamentally accepting of ourselves. Otherwise, it follows, we might project our nonacceptance, and see them as rejecting us.
I want to make the case that if you are intrigued by these concepts, then seriously consider signing up for MOHR. Our next session's title is "Commitment & the I vs. We"

The next MOHR session starts 4/17/14 and you are invited to a free open house to experience a session and consider if MOHR is for you.

Contact Rita Fullem at the Changing Focus office:[masked] or [masked], for more information.(Office hours, weekdays 9am-noon).

I'd like to see you in the next MOHR session.
If you'd like to read more on what I found on the internet on this subject that was the inspiration for the above, here's the links to a couple of blog posts by a couple of counselors:
http://twerell.blogspot.com/2010/11/equality-in-relationships-foundation.html
http://twerell.blogspot.com/2010/12/i-vs-we.html

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  • Ken C.

    We had a wonderful turn out of prospective members for the new session. If you are interested, still and didn't attend the meeting, get more MOHR information by emailing [masked].
    MOHR: Moving On to Healthy Relating.

    April 11, 2014

  • Laurie A.

    Is this the free intro to this class? Or is it the following Thurs?

    April 8, 2014

    • Ken C.

      This is the free intro. The following Thursday, there will be no meeting.

      April 8, 2014

    • Laurie A.

      Ok, Thanks!

      April 10, 2014

  • Dee

    Yes

    April 5, 2014

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