Jon D.


Los Angeles, CA

Member since:

January 9, 2013

Your answers will be visible to everyone. This is like a resume to tell the other members what you are looking for. This is NOT a "swingers" group so please reflect this in your answer. What does the word polyamory mean to you?

To me, it means sustaining multiple loving relationships at the same time. It means not artificially and sometimes painfully limiting friendships below their actual potential simply because conventional society expects us to.

Why did you join the polyamory meetup group?

A new acquaintance of mine told me about the group's monthly meetups and has successfully talked me into finding time to go...

Are you currently involved in a poly relationship? How many individuals in your "tribe"?

Yes. In addition to my wife of 15 years, I have a long term girlfriend in Fullerton and also one in Ann Arbor, MI, both of whom I see as often as I possibly can. My wife's main other guy lives in Texas, but she sees a couple of locals on occasion as well as a fellow in Washington state she's been dating off and on for a few years. We are both active on OKC.

Do you have any children? What are their ages? (helps in planning activities)

No kids.

What would your ideal poly relationship look like?

I think I am in it. I don't like limiting myself to a particular structure, and I don't even particularly like language such as "primary," "secondary," and so forth because in my opinion it seems to slot people into roles and certain expectations based on said language. I don't think "secondary" does justice to any of the amazing women in my life who are not my wife, and I think "primary" understates how amazing she is to me too.


Hi! I'm a married, stable, long term poly guy. I've been living in the Valley (Woodland Hills, now Tarzana) for the past 6 years, but haven't been to any socials, gatherings, etc.

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