Raising Kids Poly - an eye opening experience

Raising Kids Poly - An eye opening experience
by Dennis Smallwood

"I have several friends who have children and are polyamorous. Let me
share an eye opening situation which may make you think.


My friend remarked that her daughters (4 and 5, I think) are often
confused by TV and movies when they portray situations involving sexual
jealousy or marital troubles caused by affairs. Since their social life
is permeated with polyfamilies and they have positive examples of
polyamory all around them, they cannot grasp the concepts of 'jealousy'
and hurt caused by 'adulterous infidelity'. My friend has tried to
explain why a marriage partner would be hurt when their partner falls in
love with someone else, but has been unable to do so. Her eldest
daughter wants to know if the 1st partner loves the 2nd partner why they
aren't happy the s/he has the love of the 3rd partner as well...why
everyone doesn't just love everyone else. The best her Mom can do is to
explain that not everyone feels the way that we do.

The hardest part about being poly and having children is explaining to them
why society thinks differently than we do. Which says to me that it is more
natural and logical for them to understand polyamory than to understand
that society mandates monogamy as a lifestyle. So, once again, the only
thing 'unhealthy' about raising children in a polyamorous lifestyle is
the confusion caused by societal attitudes."

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Table of Contents

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Tips for Safe Online Dating December 5, 2012 10:37 AM Deborah
But What About The Children? March 6, 2009 7:31 PM Deborah
Raising Kids Poly - an eye opening experience March 6, 2009 4:58 PM Deborah
Thinking about Children March 6, 2009 4:45 PM Deborah
Condom Compact January 4, 2013 5:48 PM Deborah
Books on Polyamory January 24, 2009 10:29 AM Deborah
A crazy little thing called.....Compersion October 3, 2008 7:42 PM Deborah
Polyamory Language September 28, 2008 3:27 PM Deborah
Polyamory - What it isn't (Part 2) September 28, 2008 1:28 PM Deborah
Polyamory - What it is (Part 1) September 28, 2008 1:29 PM Deborah
My lover just told me he or she wants other lovers June 22, 2008 9:36 PM Deborah
Coming Clean June 22, 2008 9:07 PM Deborah

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