June 1, 2012
Intelligence is super important to me, especially skill with the written word. And as with most people, I adore a good sense of humor. Self-awareness would also be incredibly nice -- and rare; I meet an awful lot of people who would prefer to be self-deluded than self-aware. I could go on naming other attractive qualities to me, but I've learned that finding the right person pretty much all comes down to chemistry and timing. In my experience, we can have all the laundry lists in the world of qualities we definitely want or definitely don't want, but if you meet the right person, he or she can totally blow all your carefully contrived lists out of the water -- which may or may not be a good thing. But good chemistry is incredibly important and is certainly the place to start, though it's almost impossible to predict or define. You just have to be open to meeting people and see what happens from there.
Everything is so subjective. I think I'm attractive, bright, and funny; others may or may not agree. I like myself. I'm confident and optimistic and happy. I've learned from the mistakes in my past rather than getting bogged down and bitter about them. I try to learn and grow constantly. I'm hugely dichotomous in so many ways. It's impossible to begin to scratch the surface in a medium like this.
Overall, I prefer more cultural types of activities than outdoorsy things. But generally the company one is with matters more than the activity.
"Can't deal with" seems strong. Given my preference, I tend not to want to hang around with people who are whiny and pessimistic and focused on the negative of any situation. People who don't like to read and/or who don't want to understand themselves better tend to confuse me. I can respect them, but I can't truly understand them. Um ... I guess I can't deal with seafood -- I can't stand the stuff, despite the fact that I was born and raised here in New Orleans and have also lived a substantial part of my life up in Boston -- two of the biggest seafood cities ever. So, yeah, even though it's like sacrilege in these parts, I will say that I'm not a seafood girl.
While some first dates are certainly better than others, I don't think I've ever had a truly bad first date. Again, I'm a big believer in the fact that anything can be fun in the right company and with the right attitude.
As a native, I do have friends here. And I adore my friends, which is why I mean it in the nicest way possible when I say that they suck. No, they don't really suck. :) They're just all married with kids, which puts them in a different place in life.