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Suggested topic: "What elements in a discussion group encourage or discourage our participation? How can we help each other get the most out of our gatherings?".

Sub-topic: "Revisiting the Introverted Personality Traits"

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  • A former member
    A former member

    We all and each one can shape this group and today was great because people gave valuable input on how to make the best of the opportunity to be together during those two hours of merging our lives in a way that we do not do at work or in superficial daily encounters.

    3 · March 3, 2013

    • vicki e.

      i enjoyed the discussion on group dynamics and hope to continue it.

      March 3, 2013

  • Rick K.

    Despite being preoccupied with some bad news I had just received about a friend's health, I became engaged in the conversation, enjoying the interchange, as usual.

    March 3, 2013

  • Bob K.

    If 10-12 people attend, I think it is a good idea to have 5 or 6 people at one table and 5 or 6 at another. In my opinion it would not be good to have 10 people at one table and just two off by themselves and perhaps feeling isolated. It would be a little disappointing if someone I wanted to be with was at the other table, but this is an opportunity for me to recognize that power I have to enjoy myself despite not being with the "VIP". I'm willing to go with your suggestion Vicky because sitting at home is no fun either.

    March 2, 2013

    • Kari

      Hi Vicki....just got back from Santa Barbara! When is the next meet up? [masked]

      March 2, 2013

    • vicki e.

      Looks like you've received your answer already, Kari. What a lovely place to have spent part of the winter. I know we'll see each other some day soon.

      March 2, 2013

  • Kari

    Thank you Joanna for pointing that out to me. I apologize for the two no shows, much has happened and just returned from Santa Barbara. I think by next week I will attend whatever you have going on....

    March 2, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    I wanted to thank everybody who has contributed to this discussion. Looking foward to seeing everyone tomorrow.

    March 2, 2013

  • Rick K.

    It is difficult enough to secure the area we have now. I have been arriving early to "reserve" our area, and finding seating together for eight or ten is not easy. I agree that separate tables would negate our purpose, but, though "many are called", few actually show up, so things just work themselves out. :)

    March 2, 2013

  • Bob K.

    I would like to attend Sun. March 3.

    1 · February 25, 2013

    • Marcia

      Hope to see You soon. I enjoyed Our conversation last time.

      March 2, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Speaking from my own experience and study of psychology: Introverts naturally prefer one on one conversation or conversation in small groups, such as five or six people. Large and/or loud social gatherings can feel overwhelming, awkward and uncomfortable.

    Having a mediator helps improve the conversation. Introverts are less likely to lead or be dominant in conversation, as extraverts are. Several people talking at once or someone talking loudly can stress an introvert. We prefer quiet people and quiet environments. We're best at focusing our attention on one thing or person at a time. Many people talking at once or too much activity going on usually stresses introverts.

    2 · March 1, 2013

    • Rick K.

      That's probably why I prefer to arrive early, visit with the hosts for awhile, then ditch when too many other guests begin arriving. Six is "company", sixteen is a noisy erratic mob of psycho-emotional oppression. :D

      March 1, 2013

    • Marcia

      I agree with You, Rick. The way it is now is just PERFECT in My opinion. Looking forward to seeing You Tomorrow.

      1 · March 2, 2013

  • Mike

    I think you would be ruining a good thing. Another table might as well be another meetup group, which is possible too but would add nothing to the original group. Most of the time 10 people never show, we just need to be more diligent when we reserve a place at the group. It has been my experience that 6-8 is optimal.

    March 2, 2013

  • vicki e.

    I'm wondering if it's worthwhile going to two tables to accommodate those on the waiting list. That way we'd have 5 or 6 per table which might be nice.

    March 1, 2013

  • Rick K.

    Just me! :)

    January 13, 2013

    • Bob K.

      I hope to see you at Oasis (just kidding) on Sun. March 3

      1 · February 26, 2013

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We just grab a coffee and speak French. Some people have been coming every week for months... it creates a kind of warmth to the group.

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