This is a club for widows, widowers and life partners who have lost that committed relationship through the death of your loved one. We meet casually and mostly for social, fun outings in Manhattan, Brooklyn and Queens. We also have some meetings that are talking circles where members can express feelings about loss without fear of advice or feedback. It is a way to be heard at such a difficult time in our lives. For more information on the talking circles, please click on the "Pages" section of our home page. There you will see many helpful concepts about how to navigate widowhood.
And we are so very sorry to anyone reading this who has lost a love. This club is specifically only for those who had a committed relationship where you lived together under the same roof. We say this so specifically because we have found those of us who lost that kind of partner have a special set of grief and loss issues. Getting together with others who fit that description is so helpful.
An important difference in our club and many other Meetup clubs is this: we are NOT a dating club or website. Our goal is not to introduce you to future life partners or dates (although this can and does happen and we are happy when people find each other because they are members of this Club.) But, we are not a way to find a mate and we caution each member to please NOT use this club simply to find a date. This is upsetting to many members whose grief is so raw and whose need is to remember and grieve their loss - not to move on to dating and the suggestion they should forget their partner. Everyone needs to move into dating on their own terms and time. Club gatherings are not the place to work this through. You are of course welcome to write to members and ask them out for coffee or a date. But please do it in a respectful and delicate manner that our common situations require.
So please join us! We ask that you fill out five simple questions on the profile and then we look forward to meeting you! And please share with our organizers any ideas you have for getting together!