Remembering Heidi Arnold

  • June 30, 2013 · 7:00 PM

Hi All,

This Meetup is very different, but very special. (Please note: it is a virtual Meetup.)

One of our members, Heidi Arnold (42), passed away under tragic circumstances on November 30, 2012. Heidi lived in Colorado, and joined Wishful Thinking Women this past summer, while she was visiting the Cape for three months.

She loved Cape Coral, and immediately made friends in our group and quickly donated her time with one of the not-for-profits run by one of the members of our group.

Heidi came with a smile and brought joy with her, she was well-respected by her colleagues and well-loved by her friends and by her math students at Casper College in Colorado.

At our April Meetup, and in earlier conversations with some WTW members, we decided to honor and remember her by creating 42 random acts of kindness in her name. We would like to have all of the acts completed by the end of May, because that is around the time Heidi would have been returning to Florida for her summer stay.

If you would like to join us in remembering Heidi, please simply post a comment about your random act of kindness, or just note that you have shared an act. If the first person would start their comment with the #1, then each following commenter can note the sequential number of their act, as well. Our goal is 42 acts by May 31.

You didn't have to know Heidi to participate, we are only gathering virtually so participation is easy. Feel free to simple share acts of kindness in her honor!

Heidi's profile remains on our group; I plan to leave it up until we share all of our random acts with others in honor of her. (PS Heidi, attended WTW more times than she RSVP'd!)

Warm regards to you and for Heidi,

Patrice

PS For an article about Heidi's memorial at Casper College, click here. I'm so very sad to share that both Heidi and her long-time partner James Krumm, head of Casper College's computer science department, were killed by Christopher Krumm, James' 25 year old son, who then killed himself.

 

Elise Butler's note . . . June 16, 2013

Dear Patrice,

My name is Elise Butler, and I am the co-founder of the Jim Krumm and Heidi Arnold Memorial Committee. I was one of Jim Krumm's computer science students when tragedy struck on November 30, 2012.

The purpose of this message is to inform you and your group that I thought the 42 Acts of Kindness program from meetup.com, in honor of Heidi Arnold is a beautiful and inspiring memorial. If any of your members would like to share a memory of Heidi in a more public forum, some of Jim Krumm's Casper College computer science students, myself included, have created a memorial website in their honor. They can leave memories in the comments section there. If they have photos of either Jim or Heidi, they are certainly welcome to submit those as well. The website is located at http://professorkrumm.com/, and the submission email is [masked].

Anyone is welcome to join our Facebook committee: https://www.facebook.com/groups/205606542916524/

There is also a Facebook page called the Jim Krumm Memorial Science Foundation, which despite the name, also memorializes Heidi Arnold. I am not the one who created the latter, but I do support its goals.

This project is a living memorial. We strongly encourage anyone who knew either Jim or Heidi to participate.

Thank you for starting the 42 Acts of Kindness program. What an awesome idea!

Thank you,

Elise Butler
Casper College
Associate of Science: Computer Science, December 2013
Jim Krumm and Heidi Arnold Memorial Committee Co-Founder

 

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  • Carla C.

    Hi,
    I volunteered today with the Grace Project, a special program for Latinas who have suffered from domestic violence or experienced violence in their home countries. i did this work today in memory of Heidy. Carla

    July 8, 2013

  • Amber E.

    Well tonight was the night that we were going to complete 38 RAK by giving away two tickets to the Rays baseball game but there was a change and Heidi lead us to give away all four tickets to a family that had very young children and as we left feeling goosebumps on our skin we were also lead to giving another family a free parking pass for the game. It was such a wonderful experience and my boyfriend and I both new that Heidi was with us while we gave to both of these family's that she had picked out. God bless you Heidi and everyone!! RAK has touched both of our lives and we will continue to remember you and all of those strangers we have helped. I know that I don't know Heidi nor do I know what she looks like but I know that we met tonight and touched other lives together! Thank you!

    3 · July 6, 2013

    • Patrice

      Amber, thank you so much for keeping Heidi's spirit alive through your random act of kindness! Your kindness touches not only the happy recipients, but all of us who have read about it. Just reading about it and picturing how the family felt from your kindness gave me goose bumps! Thank you!
      PS There is a picture of Heidi in the write-up for this Meetup above; her smile is infectious.

      1 · July 8, 2013

  • Patrice

    Thank you Gretchen for sharing the 42nd act of kindness in Heidi's honor! Your chocolate strawberries made us all smile! In each of the 42 kinds acts that our Wishful Thinking Women shared, it was the thought of Heidi that counted. We wanted to make sure that Heidi was remembered for who she was and the acts of kindness she shared in her life.

    Thanks to everyone who took part; I hope that thoughts of Heidi will continue to be part of our lives. Thank you!

    2 · July 1, 2013

  • Gretchen Kish S.

    When I was making chocolate covered strawberries for our Pool Party get together...I had the idea to make a smiley face and immediately thought of Heidi. I call it Heidi's Strawberry. I know she brought so many smiles to her family and friends the short time she was with us.
    I posted a photo of Heidi's strawberry.

    2 · July 1, 2013

  • Patrice

    Alice's kindness has helped us complete 41 acts of kindness in Heidi's honor. We have one last act to go to fully celebrate Heidi's 42 years on earth. Thank you, excited to see who will be sharing that act with us, and how that act will touch the lives of others . . . And, of course, we can continue to think of Heidi and add to this list in the future.

    July 1, 2013

  • alice

    i did this in honor of my son who died of cancer at 21 i got balloons and the let them go in honor of my loved ones who died and also i help my mom my mom by cleaning her houses because she cant do it alone as she is 80 years old

    June 30, 2013

    • Patrice

      Thank you Alice, and my sincere condolences about your son. I am touched that you shared how you honored him and others in your family with us. And, thank you for helping us honor Heidi, I truly appreciate it!

      July 1, 2013

  • Melissa

    #39 A woman was in the grocery store ahead of me with several small children. She didn't quite have enough money to pay the bill and was having to remove some items. Having seen that every item was basic essentials I offered the pay the balance. The woman was shy but I could see the gratitude in her eyes.

    2 · June 29, 2013

  • Amber E.

    38- my boyfriend got 4 tickets to next weekends Tampa Bay baseball game and asked me if I wanted to ask anyone to go. I couldn't think of anyone and then he said that he had an idea. He said what If we go and give the extra two tickets to someone that is standing in line to buy tickets in honor of Heidi. I just looked at him and said that is an excellent idea. So although its not till next weekend the idea of what we are going to do originated tonight.

    2 · June 29, 2013

    • Patrice

      You guys are so wonderful Amber!!!!!!

      June 29, 2013

  • Amber E.

    37- I saw a commercial tonight on TV about Cancer patients needing a room and I thought of Heidi and immediately donated $10.

    2 · June 29, 2013

  • Fran G

    #36:I had an extra ticket for an event. Gave it to the next person who came to the cashier to pay. Thank you Heidi. You brought sunshine into another stranger's life.

    3 · June 28, 2013

  • dawn r.

    I paid fot a disabled friend to get four acupuncture treatments as he could not afford it.

    June 28, 2013

  • Carla C.

    Hi,
    I donated 4 hours of my time yesterday to a project for Mayan women from Guatemala. I gave this time in Heidi's name. Carla Clason

    June 25, 2013

  • michael B.

    Hello everyone my name is Michael Blair I am Heidi's brother, just want to thank you all for remembering her in this way she would have loved it. Your all special people as was she. Thank You All

    2 · June 24, 2013

    • Patrice

      Thank you Michael, shared your first message with everyone, so happy you are happy with what we are doing!! We are gathering this Saturday, and will be thinking of Heidi and your family.

      June 24, 2013

  • Amber E.

    33- my boyfriend heard what I was doing and also donated 5.5 hrs to help me clean. We both feel very good about the day. The house looks amazing and the lady was very thankful and satisfied!!
    Thank You Heidi!!

    2 · June 23, 2013

    • Patrice

      Thank you, how wonderful both of you are - we just need a 9 more random acts of kindness to meet our goal of 42 by the end of June. Thanks to all who have participated so far!!!

      June 24, 2013

  • Amber E.

    32- I donated 5.5 hours to clean a house in the name of Heidi for a lady that desperately needed her house clean that couldn't do it for herself or afford it.

    1 · June 23, 2013

  • Patrice

    #31 While at Aldi's during a visit in Ohio, my sister went to get the car, while I was still in line - we were running late. When I left Aldi's a man was looking at a cart stuck in with all the others, when I glanced over at him, he said someone left all lot of food on the bottom of the cart. There were at least 40 cans plus other items. I suggested he tell someone inside, but I could tell he wanted to leave. I thought of Heidi, and went back in and told the cashier. She was swamped and I knew she couldn't get outside to get it. I went back and tried to get the jammed cart out – the man had left and I didn't have any quarters. My sister pulled-up and was looking at me like I was nuts. I explained; she parked and tried to help. A man helped, got the cart out, and I walked it back in. When I got back into her car, I told my sister the story of Heidi and she understood why I kept at it even though we were late. Another small thing, but lots of good thoughts about Heidi along the way.

    3 · June 18, 2013

  • Patrice

    I also heard from Elise Butler this week. I FB chatted with Elise a bit, and will talk to her by phone tomorrow. I wanted you all to now how important your acts are to Heidi's family and friends - I had to add it to the description above - it is too long to insert as a comment.

    June 18, 2013

    • Patrice

      See her note at the end of the description above . . .

      June 18, 2013

  • Patrice

    Just received this note from Heidi's brother, who has joined us! . . . Hello Patrice my name is Michael Blair and i'm Heidi's brother. Just wanted to say Thank You. You are a special person as was she, the world needs more people like you. I try to do something every day to help someone somehow sometimes it's the small things that mean a lot. Having people do things in her name is very cool she would of thought so. Once again Thank You!

    2 · June 18, 2013

  • Gretchen Kish S.

    #29 Small thing...but I was at the grocery store and they were collecting peanut butter and jelly for local families. I wasn't going to buy them....then thought of Heidi and changed my mind.
    #30 I was dropping Gigi from her art camp at the Cape Coral Art Studio. Last year I spoke to the kids about my pet art (and felt I was off-the-hook) They asked me to speak again this year...and I said I was too busy. As soon as I got in my car, I thought of Heidi. When I picked up Gigi, I said I would. The only week available was a week Gia was not going, so I signed her up. I want her in the class I'm speaking to. She is so excited...and I asked her to help me pass out note cards AND help me talk about the tribute painting we did for our dog Sophie. I think this will be a good experience for both of us, thank you Heidi.

    2 · June 9, 2013

    • Patrice

      OMGosh, I love them both, but Gigi's art class sounds fantastic!!!

      2 · June 18, 2013

  • Melissa

    #28 I got together a group of my co-workers and we are sponsoring a family of 4 in Moore, OK. who lost their home and all contents including their care. Mom, Dad, 4 year old boy and an 11 week old boy. The idea spread outside our immediate group, so we now will be able to send them monthly assistance for the rest of the year. I sent my first baby care package yesterday, only to learn they were hit again last night.

    2 · June 1, 2013

  • Carla C.

    Hello,
    I have been helping with a Guatemala women's project through the Unitarian Church I belong to. Instead of being part of the group, at this time they needed someone to help out with child care, and so I am giving my time to take care of the children who come and I am doing this in Heidi's name. I will be doing this from this month on twice a month until the end of August. Carla

    1 · May 27, 2013

    • Patrice

      Oooh, Carla, the project sounds great and what a wonderful way to help out and to honor, Heidi. Thanks for sharing, we are up to 27 acts in her honor.

      May 29, 2013

  • Patrice

    I extended the date of our virtual Meetup honoring Heidi, so we have plenty of time to share a "Random Act of Kindness" in honor of her 42 years. We are up to 26, we need 42! All participating have talked about how pleasant and rewarding it has been for them.

    1 · May 27, 2013

  • Fran G

    #24 (I think)
    Yesterday while driving to meet friends for brunch I came across a turtle in the middle of the road. I've been told that it is advisable to pick the turtle up and move it to a safe place in the direction in which it was headed. I thought of Heidi and choose to pull over, put on my hazard blinkers and 'rescue' the turtle.
    I approached the turtle, picked him/her up (turtle was much bigger up close that I thought) and carefully placed it on the other side of the road.
    Well, to my surprise, I guess he/she had other ideas and promptly 'ran' back in the opposite direction. At least the turtle was safe and out of the road.
    The cars that has stopped to allow me to do this gave short little honks and waves.
    Thank You Heidi for inspiring me to do a good deed.

    3 · May 27, 2013

    • Patrice

      #26, great story and I love that they honked and waved! Thank you, Fran.

      May 27, 2013

  • Susanne S.

    My retired neighbor does not have a car. I took him to his appointment and picked him up. He is lonely and he really appreciated it. I stop by to visit with him every week and he looks forward to spending time with me. I'm the blessed one as it gives me great joy to be able to help another person.

    2 · May 27, 2013

    • Patrice

      That's 25, thank you!

      May 27, 2013

  • Caro P.

    Oh nooo! Just had to cancel....Doug reminded me I'm going to a company outing with him! So sorry. Dang, when will I ever see you all again.

    May 26, 2013

    • Patrice

      Caro, no problem, it is a virtual Meetup, you can do a good deed in honor of Heidi anytime from anywhere.

      May 26, 2013

    • Caro P.

      Ah...I see. I didn't read it properly. That's such a neat idea though. I will. I wish I had gotten the chance to meet her.

      1 · May 26, 2013

  • Patrice

    I revisited the monastery I stayed at this spring to do some volunteer work in memory of Heidi. The only day I could fit it in was on my birthday, so I celebrated in my heart while volunteering and thinking of Heidi. I also gave half of a gift of Godiva chocolate bars I had received earlier to two of the nuns who had been super sweet to me during my original visit. Brought smiles to their faces. Counting these as #23 and 24!

    1 · May 23, 2013

  • Patrice

    This doesn't count for Heidi, but through this process I have been even more aware of the kindness of others to me. My ex-husband's wife - they have been together/married about 10 years, gave me a box of her homemade candy for my upcoming birthday - it doesn't get much sweeter than that. And, when I was in Ohio visiting family and friends recently everyone was super kind, and went out of their way to get together and help me get together with others - my brother-in-law turned over his car to me when he was out of town for 5 days, my other friends drove long distances to make sure I saw them and others, as well. And, a project I'm still working on with Macedonia is going forward because of the kindness of strangers and one of my dear friends. So much good stuff happens! Right now babysitting my grandsons listening to them discuss life while playing in a closet - at 5 and 3 they are so fun to eavesdrop on!

    1 · May 19, 2013

  • Fran G

    #20: helped a young gentleman in the baby section. He was looking for a baby shower gift that is baby neutral as they do not want to know the sex of the baby's sex. Showed him a diaper changing pad for the car and some infant pacifiers. He was very happy and said "I asked the right person!" Thank you Patrice for this meetup.
    Maybe we should do it annually!

    3 · May 19, 2013

    • Patrice

      You are welcome, I love they way it makes me think about Heidi and doing something special for others. Thanks for joining us, Fran.

      May 19, 2013

  • Patrice

    I sent a Mother's Day card to one of my best high school friend's Mom, letting her know what a wonderful daughter she raised. Then I sent a similar note to my friend, so hard to believe we have been friends since 9th grade! Our oldest sons are the same age. Thinking of Heidi made me think of all my dear friends. That takes us to #22. Looking for 23++++ . . .

    May 19, 2013

  • Gretchen Kish S.

    Wow, I can't believe Heidi was only 42...I'm 46 and sometimes just can't believe it. I've been thinking of her lots...honestly, it feels like sometimes I don't leave my house enough to do anything nice for anyone! But today...I had a 7 year old's birthday party to go to. I call her mom on the way and asked if I could do anything...I knew I was near the grocery store and that her cake should be ready. I was a bit nervous...because if I drop this cake I'm in BIG TROUBLE! This is NOT the mom's cake you wanna drop! But...I honestly did it for Heidi. And it really felt so good to help my friend. ; ) I wish Heidi's life were not over. Also, I "did" reach out to a very stressed and unhappy neighbor...I"m usually "too busy" but think of her often. I tried to get together with her...and she's also too busy. I'm sure she appreciated the effort....but I shall keep trying. I know it would do her good to get out of her house!

    2 · May 18, 2013

    • Patrice

      Isn't it amazing how it does get you thinking about the things we do and do not do! Thank you, love your RAKs.

      May 19, 2013

  • Melissa

    #19 (I think)...Like Heidi, I feel like I never leave home to have a chance to do something for anyone. But, I found a "do it from home" this week. A friend of mine in Atlanta has gone through a rough couple weeks with her Grandmother (MeeMaw) in ICU. To everyone's surprise she pulled through and has been sent to a Rehab Center. They were trying to lighten her spirits and saying "Meemaw just hink you might make some new friends" to which her reply was... just what I need at 95 is new friends". I sent to the store and fround funy cards to send her at least once a week. No, she doesn't know me, but who doesn't love to get cards in the mail? Hopefully it will give her a smile.

    2 · May 19, 2013

    • Melissa

      Good grief - I had Heidi on the brain. I really meant to say that like "GRETCHEN" I feel like I never leave home...

      May 19, 2013

  • Gretchen Kish S.

    Hi all! I've finally signed up. Patrice, let's go ahead and count the note cards I brought for our group as an act in memory of Heidi...we were talking about her at that very moment. Now that I've signed up I'll be working on more acts to share! Oh, one thing. I did share a video on Facebook showing people performing acts of kindness and I was thinking of Heidi the entire time.

    1 · May 15, 2013

  • Patrice

    We are up to 15 Random Acts of Kindness (RAK)!! Thank you so much. Special thanks to Sea for her creativity and multiple kindnesses. Our goal is 42 by May 31!!! Please join us in remembering Heidi by sharing a RAK in the next two weeks!!

    May 15, 2013

  • Sea

    Adding RAKs in memory of Heidi:
    1) Met a young man at the flea market who was raising money for a trip to Europe. He was offering his service for odd jobs, etc. I had him bake a cake for no special occasion. Paid for the cake and gave him a $50.00 tip. Then I gave the cake away! Maybe that's a two-fer!
    2) Held the door for a lady pushing a man in a wheelchair.
    3) Helped a lady load groceries in her car.
    4) Received a small medical bill in the mail for someone else and decided to "pay it forward" rather than return it to the sender or forward to the correct address!

    Sea

    May 14, 2013

    • Patrice

      You are fantastic Sea, just reading about your RAKs made me feel good. Heidi would be proud!!! I love the cake story and gave your credit for 2 since you gave it away. Thanks for keeping the spirit of Heidi's kindness alive.

      May 15, 2013

  • Sea

    Patrice,
    Oops, I didn't realize (or remember) that the May 31 event was virtual. I noticed "Needs Location" so thought I'd check with our clubhouse. Now I understand how it works for future reference! And yes, if we are in need of a location for up to 25 people. Thanks for adding this small gesture as a RAK in Heidi's memory! See you at the Coffee Haus! Sea

    May 6, 2013

    • Patrice

      Hi Sea, and thanks again, kindness always counts! I can't get the "Need a location" off the Meetup since it really is all about Meeting-up, but this is a thinking about each other Meetup, which is also always a good thing! Looking forward to seeing you soon, too.

      May 7, 2013

  • Jan Briggs A.

    #6 I am remembering Heidi by donating 10 pounds of food to Blessings in a Backpack. This charity feeds kids who won't have food on the weekends during the summer. Heidi loved helping underprivileged kids. She donated her time to a community center in town to teach kids how to play the guitar. What a beautiful and special lady.

    1 · May 3, 2013

    • Patrice

      Thank you so much, Jan. A perfect way to honor Heidi! Glad she came into our lives, and thanks for keeping her memory alive.

      May 6, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    A friend at work told me about this family here in Ft. Myers who is facing a devastating illness. While their tragedy is of a different sort from Heidi's tragedy, it is with thoughts Heidi and the Ciminos that make me aware once again of how fortunate I am. I dedicate my contribution to our site for Heidi. Here is the website for the Cimino family:
    https://www.giveforward.com/fund...­

    May 6, 2013

    • Patrice

      Thanks, Suzy great idea - you have spread your kind deed to many!!

      May 6, 2013

  • Sea

    Hey Patrice,
    Responding to the request for a location for our Heidi event on May 31st. It looks like the small clubhouse in our complex is open that evening for up to maximum of 25 women. Our development, Coco Bay, is inside of a larger development, Kelly Greens, about 2 miles from the Sanibel causeway off Summerlin Road. It is a gated community which means I would need to provide a complete list of names of those attending to give to the security company in advance. Let me know if you would like me to reserve it as I have to provide a $500 refundable security deposit. Happy to help, if this is appealing! "Sea"

    May 4, 2013

    • Patrice

      Hi Sea, thank you so much! Heidi's "event" is a virtual gathering - folks were asked to post their good deeds as they were completed. I selected that date because Heidi was planning to return to Florida after school let out this summer, but I would love to take advantage of your idea and thoughtfulness for a future Wishful Thinking Women Meetup in the future, if that works for you. PS I'm counting this as another good deed done in Heidi's honor - your kindness is much appreciated!

      May 6, 2013

  • Patrice

    Thinking of Heidi today as I put an extra hour on two parking meters outside a busy bakery in downtown Lakewood, near Cleveland, Ohio. A little thing, but thinking of Heidi all the way!

    April 17, 2013

  • Patrice

    #5, Random Act of Kindness (RAK) . . . I totally missed Sea's comments in the discussion string, so sorry . . . "Patrice, thank you for sharing Heidi's story with us today at Warm Springs! It was very sad to learn of such a violent tragedy for one of our own. But...leave it to Patrice to find a way to honor and remember Heidi by challenging us to accumulate 42 random acts of kindness, one for each year of Heidi's short life. Ladies, this is an easy mission for us! All we have to do is reach within and send out a random act of kindness, leaving a heart print along the way! This isn't necessarily about spending money; it is about spending love! During my short time with you, it is easy to see, you have plenty of love to share, so let's do this! The Springs gave me a day of peace and tranquility today making buying a bowl of soup a small gesture to share with a friend! This is one of those win-win situations that makes the recipient smile and is a gift you give yourself! Love, Sea"

    April 17, 2013

  • Judy Ann B.

    Today's my act of kindness......cooked a healthy meal for a homebound patient, and he asked me why I brought him the food. I said it was a treat and to help his wound heal faster. He gave me a pat on my back and said thank you, Judy. That made my DAY !

    April 9, 2013

    • Patrice

      Aww, so glad! Thank you Judy, yours was Random Act of Kindness #4.

      April 9, 2013

  • Melissa

    #3 - At Publix I noticed a frail looking woman on one of the scooter carts. She was bruised and having an awful time reaching things off the shelves. I walked with her to reach the things she needed, then went back to do my own shopping.

    1 · April 9, 2013

    • Patrice

      So sweet, Melissa! Thank you.

      April 9, 2013

  • Judy Ann B.

    Sorry, my son and I will be in Manila on that week til mid June. I will include her in my prayers.

    1 · April 9, 2013

    • Patrice

      No problem, Judy. You are so sweet to include Heidi in your thoughts and prayers. That is al that really matters. Just to make sure everyone understands, we only have to have them done by the end of May, we can start today.

      April 9, 2013

  • Carla C.

    I will love to honor Heidi and offer a random act of kindness in her honor. Such a wonderful thing to do in her name. Carla

    1 · April 8, 2013

  • Valerie D.

    In honor of my late friend, Heidi - I have engaged in 2 random acts of kindness, Saturday evening and Sunday, April 6th & 7th, involving young neighbors. Heidi was going to buy a condo in my building for her very own "girl cave" when she and James came to Cape Coral in the summers.... would have been a fun.... My random acts of kindness in her honor involve my younger neighbors: One young couple suddenly had no electricity so I provided them with several of my battery operated hand-held lights. The other is a single 21 year old girl. Her lanai has openings that bugs, snakes, etc. could get in. I gave her tape, weather stripping, silicon and helped her seal up all the openings. I enjoy them so much as neighbors.

    1 · April 7, 2013

    • Patrice

      Thank you Valarie, we have #1 and #2 Acts of Kindness, honoring, Heidi. We are on our way; enjoy!

      April 7, 2013

  • Patrice

    Thanks for signing-up, ladies. Feel excited about all the lives we will touch in Heidi's honor. Thanks for helping spread the joy she shared.

    April 7, 2013

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