RE: [aspergers-81] Research Project

From: Gabriel G.
Sent on: Thursday, November 22, 2012 9:02 PM

For all who are interested, please be patient. I am working on a draft of the survey and will send it out as soon as I can. It should be sent out next week. Please keep responding, and refer others you may know. For those who have responded both to me and to the mailing list, thank you all for your responses.- Gabriel

On Nov 22,[masked]:34 PM, "Bronwyn Tillman" <[address removed]> wrote:
I'm also struggling in relationships to find the right person to connect with.  Lots of guys don't understand my mood swings and sometimes my need to be alone.  I also find it hard holding down a job as I don't mix that well with work colleagues.  They have different interests to me (eg. football, Hollywood movies, fashion etc).  I would rather discuss more intellectual things like Physics, Charles Darwin, Philosophy, Black Holes etc.  I don't like conforming with what I wear either.  I would rather be able to dress and act as my own person rather than conforming to what other people think is "normal". 
 
My kind nature in the past has also attracted wrong types of people who take advantage of my kindness..both in mental sense and physical sense, as well as financially.  Now I find it very hard to trust people.  Or I have some fear that something will go wrong so prefer to push the other person away before something goes wrong and everyone ends up bitter.  It is hard.
 

From: [address removed]
Subject: Re: [aspergers-81] Research Project
To: [address removed]
Date: Wed, 21 Nov[masked]:46:23 -0500

Hi Gabriel,

First off, kudos to you!  Never give up and why your psychologist told you that is beyond me!!  As a mother of a daughter with Aspergers, I always worry about her relationships (she's 17 yrs old now).  I see now reason why either of you can't have a completely filling and loving relationship.  After all, it takes two.....as the saying goes.  It's a point of finding that "right" person for you.  Relationships are hard work.....for anyone!  When putting together your research, just remember that emotions play a huge part in it.  I would extend your research, though, to include a small group of couples without Autism Spectrum Disorders.  I think you'll find that difficulties still exist on both sides.  Look at the partner who doesn't have ASD to see the patience, compromise and understanding they show toward their partner with ASD.

Maybe, to further the research, show couples where both individuals may have ASD.  I look forward to your findings!! Please, keep in touch.
 
Cindy Phillips
 


From: Gabriel Gray <[address removed]>
To: [address removed]
Sent: Wednesday, November 21,[masked]:12 AM
Subject: [aspergers-81] Research Project

I learned of my Asperger Syndrome when I was twenty-six years old. The first thing my psychologist told me about it was that I might never marry because of it. Ever since, I have been trying to learn how to defy the odds which seem so insurmountable in the case of intimate relationships. For this semester in college, I determined to study this, since this has been my obsession since the psychologist told me how difficult it would be. If possible, I need to find volunteers who have had success in relationships and volunteers with little or no success. My goal is to determine correlating factors which may determine the difference between fulfilling and unfulfilling relationships in Asperger's and High Functioning Autistic individuals. I know many, like myself, may see this as a painful topic, but I hope to be closer to a solution to the problem by the time I finish. Best wishes to you all. - Gabriel Gray




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