Sorry x 1000: The Painful Death of the Apology

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No Show Policy

We have a fairly strict no-show policy--RSVPing but not showing. Members that no-show will get a warning email on their 2nd no-show, and be banned on their 3rd. No-show includes canceling within 24 hours.

While this may seem draconian, it's very hard to organize a group when we can't predict attendance. Restaurants are reserving a space for the promise of a big enough order, and when there's a waiting list, no-shows prevent others from coming.

We understand stuff comes up, just send an organizer a message if you got a flat tire, stuck at work, or cut a finger off at shop class.

Apology is only egotism wrong side out -Oliver Wendell Holmes

I am here today to again apologize for the personal mistakes I have made and the embarrassment I have caused. I make this apology to my neighbors and my constituents, but I make it particularly to my wife, Huma.
-Anthony Weiner

Sorry seems to be the hardest word -Elton John

We've all been taught that showing remorse for major or minor transgressions is owning up to our actions. Catholics have confession and Jews have Yom Kippur to share and ask forgiveness for behavior deemed unacceptable. The Armenians are still awaiting an apology from the Turks for a massacre of its people. Some African Americans are awaiting reparations for actions before, during, and after the Civil War.

With this said, what is an apology worth and has it lost its effectiveness in the present day?

Are we being asked to apologize for things we know in our hearts we'll do again and again?

What role does political correctness play with apologies in the current world climate?

Do apologies that begin "I'm sorry but..." have any validity to you?

Here are some useful discussion references:

Let's discuss this surprisingly multi-faceted issue and see where it takes us.


The rules for this meet are simple:

1. Be civil 2. Be on time 3. Stay on topic 4. Speak to the moderator to reply and not to the last speaker if you disagree.

5. Read and watch the materials before attending for context and understanding.

6. Be ready to talk. This is a "no wallflower" zone.

7. Be prepared to stay for the full session or please un-RSVP

8. Order something please.


For those who are a bit leery of the “no wallflower zone”  I’ll make a deal with you.  For your first meet, simply introduce yourself and I’ll call on you only once with one question.  No doubt you’ll feel comfortable for future meets and you’ll be able to fully participate without fear. 

See you there!

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  • Tom

    6 Thumbs Up! I will second what Steve has to say-- we really are the most well-informed group in all of Atlanta... probably the world. Too far? Maybe. ;)

    3 · April 21, 2014

  • Tiffany

    Thank you Steve! Another good discussion. I look forward to the next.

    1 · April 19, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Just canceled have electrician coming. Hate to miss!

    April 18, 2014

    • Mo

      You have 999 more apologies left :)

      April 18, 2014

  • Lori D.

    So I decided to research the history of the apology and I came across the apology of's the link to the SparkNotes...kinda interesting.

    April 16, 2014

    • Steve

      Was he the first to cheat on his wife?

      April 16, 2014

    • Lori D.

      Can't find anything..."True"­ "Good" or "Useful" to support that theory so I'll hold judgement until I can find something worth sharing.... :-). How's that for quoting Socrates the great philospher. See you Saturday Steve... :-)

      April 16, 2014

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