Re: [divorcesupport-513] Re: [divorcesupport-513]

From: Richard
Sent on: Tuesday, April 2, 2013 8:55 AM
Kim, You have so elegantly and succinctly verbalized the experience of so many victims in the marital arena.
 From your account it is clear that you held true to your vows and also traveled the 'extra mile' repeatedly. I sincerely
believe that God is totally compassionate to your experience and extends his full mercy and grace on you and your
children. He in no way would command or wish for you to stay in such a destructive situation.

Your faith, resolve and courage are an inspiration to all of us who have traveled a similar path.  I salute you, wish you
comfort and peace. You have brought empathy and compassion where others would bring only 'rule and law' therefore
diminishing the value of each and every human being. You are a true 'Champion'

Blessings on your day.


On Tue, Apr 2, 2013 at 8:38 AM, Kim Kiser <[address removed]> wrote:
So Rick.... What do you say to the fact that I was married, I was a faithful committed God loving partner, I did respect my husband as head of the home..... And from that so called authority, while married, I had contracted herpies (which he admitted later on that' he had them BEFORE he married me), that he abused his "authority" to do as he pleased (I.e. alcoholism and partying while I was pregnant), that he traveled so he didn't have to deal with the reality and responsibility of a family?   

Before we prejudge divorce, let us consider the strong weight God placed on marriage.  It is "supposed" to be a beautiful representation of a covenant between God and his bride.  Yet, there are people who take said so called biblical authority and abuse it.  God himself divorced Israel before he sent the new covenant in Christ....leaving behind a remnant through whom he delivered his son.  

We live in a broken world, filled with sinful from birth people who hurt other people.  This is the reality of this world.  That fact will no change and indeed we are told it will get worse.  YET.......... There is hope in Christ.  He does heal.  He does strengthen.  He does not leave.  He promises us a future.  

I wish, in my youth and lack of understanding, that I had not hastily gotten married.  I wish I knew then what I know now.  Marriage is not something to be entered into lightly.  I have three beautiful children.....trophies of grace, whose hearts break alongside of mine. 

We are humans.  We break easily.  We make mistakes.  He is merciful.  While it may never be his "will" that we get divorced, it is never his "heart" that we be abused.  

My limited experience and advice is this......... We can treat relationships like disposable plates.  We use them to fill us up but when we are done we toss them in the trash.....if we instead had the perspective that we and others are like fine china, rare indeed at that, we, perhaps would be far more careful and handle with care.  

This comes from a woman who knows the Word back and forth, who believes her God is big enough, strong enough, loving enough to get her through a divorce that breaks his heart as much as it does hers.  

Government is only the people we put in authority to rule over us.  Like marriage, we will choose the right leadership or we will settle.  In the settling.....we pay the price for what we allow to rule over us.  

Life is not fair..... But, I have found that God is good and still alive in this world.  If our eyes are open and hearts (on the mend) are willing.  

This also comes from a woman who believes her God is big enough to hold her hurt and anger.  I forgive my ex; however, I will never return to the marriage with him.......  To forgive is one thing, a human thing.  To forget, is a God thing and often He will not allow us to forget for a reason. 


On Tuesday, April 2, 2013, rick wrote:

That being said, as long as we can breathe there is an opportunity to be forgiveness and to do things Gods way. It is , afterall, perfect.

 

From: [address removed] [mailto:[address removed]] On Behalf Of Kristin
Sent: Tuesday, April 02,[masked]:45 AM
To: [address removed]
Subject: [divorcesupport-513]

 

Do you believe in freedom of religion? Perhaps the government should mandate a 5 year courtship before allowing us to get married in the first place. Or, since we are adults (some more mature than others) perhaps we should make our own choice and let our own beliefs guide us.





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