I haven't had a chance to check out the Monk since it has moved into it's new bigger digs. From what I heard the food is decent.
For those that are interested later on the evening the rock cover band Under Pressure will be taking the stage.
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I realize that frustration over last night's change of plans is running a little high, but I too must champion Diana. Last night's situatioin could not have been avoided and, as an organizer should, she made the best of a difficult situation.
1. It is impossible for Diana to make a dinner reservation when people who RSVP "YES" either consistently no-show or arrive 30+ minutes late. That's unacceptable to the venue.
2. Food was definitely on the agenda for the evening. I also ate dinner before the event, but I did not anticipate that everyone else would have. Going out with a large group means being flexible. That's simple consideration.
3. While disappointment is understandable, blame is not. Several people walked down to CEBU to meet us; some stayed at The Monk; others opted out of the evening entirely. Each of us made our choices. That's not Diana's fault. [She said outright that she hadn't seen the venue; she therefore could not have anticipated the seating issue.]
2 · February 17, 2013
I look forward to getting together with this group. The description of what happened last night would not bother me. As long as there's an update in the comments from the organizer, I'll adjust to what's going on at the time.
0 · February 17, 2013
I have also been an assistant organizer for a group, and am not tolerant of improperly handled lateness, (ie: lack of phone call, text, or demonstration of intent to keep the commitment), in myself or others. I must voice my strong support of Diana. (see below)
1 · February 17, 2013
She very courteously and responsibly gave everyone her phone # yesterday. I saved her number in my phone. I knew that since I had been sick all week, I might not be able to go the Meetup after all, or that I might be late. When I realized that I was not feeling well enough to go out at 7:30, I sent Diana a text, letting her know what my situation was, apologizing that I would be late if I was able to be there at all. At about 9:15 I decided to give it a go, and if I felt too unwell to stay, I would leave. I arrived at the Wicked Monk at approx 9:40, texted Diana, and she told me that they had gone to Cebu but would be there in about 30 mins. Ok, no big deal. I was late to the Meetup, that's how it worked out. I found a place to park myself and waited until they got there.
To me, this is all simply resolved, and I am hard pressed to see what possbile fault Diana may be charged with. Common courtesy says guests to an event or gathering, this one most clearly had a start time of 8:00 pm, are responsible for contacting the host of an event they have committed to attend, immediately upon discovering that they will; 1) not be attending , or 2) be late
As to the accusation that the eating of dinner had not been clearly enough indicated - I understood that the eating of food was part of this gathering, (sometimes referred to as dining), as Diana had stated that she had heard the food was good there, as in, she expects to be eating some with others who attend.
Unless anyone of those who complained about Diana's lack of good protocol had broken fingers, and hence were unable to contact her by dialing her number, I see no justifiable arguments here. Never mind the white elephant in the middle of the room, which is that every person who complained was 30 - 45 minutes late, and never bothered to show the courtesy of making a simple phone call to let Diana know where they were. If they had, Diana would have very gladly explained that because the Wicked Monk would not seat the group who WERE there on time, they had to go elsewhere to eat, and Cebu was chosen as that place.
Keith, since you felt the need to respond to something that was not addressed to you I am going to return the favor. I am a member of MANY meetup groups, and I am also an assitant organizer and an instructor at a few. While I am actually close to being militant about people being on time when there is a SCHEDULE to keep, For something that was presented as an informal gathering at a BAR, I didnt feel the need to be there PROMPTLY. I also did not feel that DINNER was specifically conveyed, and felt it was more like "bar food available if you guys want it" As to your assertion that "if peoiple show up whenever they wish then the organizer should be able to do the same" that is absurd. When you take on the role of organizer you are respsonsible for that event, period. I saw that people had gone elsewhere, to a location I had no interest in going to, and decided not to wait for over an hour. If I wanted to drink alone I would not have joined a socail meetup group.
Diana, seems to me you did all that you could under the circumstances - including emailing all your telephone number yesterday. Anyone failing to call you this evening should take responsibility for that. Also, I find it peculiar that those that show up to an event late, expect you to be there waiting at whatever time they arrive. In addition, one person, while whining about you not being there when he arrived, stated that this "was not an event with a hard start time". Well - if there's no hard start time, and they felt free to show up anytime they wished, it should also be fine for you to show up whenever you desired. In tonight's case, it was 9:30 pm or so - after you had dinner. Thanks for continually arranging for great events. My hope is that those dissatisfied will not participate in the future - I'm not sure that will be much of a loss to the rest of us who do arrive on time and appreciate your efforts.
2 · February 16, 2013
I really am sorry I thought it was clear from the description that we were coming to eat dinner. I trully am sorry. Next time I will be more specific. The place couldn't seat us and those who came in a timely fashion wanted to eat. I did give out my number and we did come back
1 · February 16, 2013
Sorry Diane, saying " "From what I heard the food is decent" is not mentioning dinner in the description. The fact remains that I had dinner before coming and would not likely have gone out to dinner at an alternative place anyway. I beleive the best way to describe this event tonight would be "Epic fail"
0 · February 16, 2013
Actually dinner was in the description
We are almost finished with dinner we should be back in about twenty minutes to a half hour
FYI... I spent 25 minutes finding parking then walked a few blocks over only to find you had decided to have dinner someplace else. To me an 8:00 meetup at a BAR does not mean a sit down dinner. It means drinks. If you expected to have a sit down dinner then perhaps you could have stated that, reserved a table etc, instead of just going sompeplace else and saying you will be back after dinner (an hour and half later?) This was not an event with a hard start time, (its a BAR...) and so you should have expected people to come later and acted accordingly. This is really wrong at a number of levels most of which you have either wasted people's time or left them standing at a bar not knowing anyone.
We will be back after dinner. Call me at[masked]
Sorry we couldn't get a table so went over to cebu on 88
Sorry - won't be able to make it tonight... :(
0 · February 15, 2013
hope to make it.
0 · February 13, 2013
Place is real nice. And bar keep know how to make GOOD ccocktails. Nothing worse then having to ask a bar tender " hey I would like to taste a tad bit of alcohol"
0 · January 28, 2013
I love this bar! My friends brother owns it... Good guy. I have not been to their new location yet so this will be great!
I hope you change the date on this event to a later time. I will be at a Maroon 5 concert that night!
I'll be in AC that weekend.
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