The Issues You Don't Talk About Cafe

The Issues You Don't Talk About Cafe Mid-Month Meetup

As usual there is a lot to talk about.

You can all look forward to the regular appearance of the "Flying 800 Pound Gorilla." The egg timer that can't seem to keep time and the "One Minutes."

"One Minutes" are an opportunity for you to introduce yourself and tell us for approximately one minute, what is on your mind. You can talk for one minute or less about anything from a hang nail that's been bothering you, to your explanation of the meaning of life, but you only have one minute.

Remember the rules:

  • Bring your voice and passion, but leave your anger and condescension at home.
  • Be respectful to everyone during discussionssmile)
  • If you get angry at differing opinions, please realize that this is not the place for you and kindly do not attend.
  • Eat, drink and be merry and tip well if you can.
  • We don't have to leave as friends, but we can't leave as enemies.


Here are some of the topics we could explore:

  • Why do we blame the gun?
  • Hey are black men who marry white women more successful than black men who marry black women? This was a Chris Rock inspired question.
  • Does anyone still pay attention to the Miss America pageant?
  • What's to stop the President from minting a Platinum Quarter?  That would be a quarter of a Quadrillion coin.
  • Should Lance Armstrong confess?
  • Where are the binder of women in the President's cabinet?
  • Are Jehovah's Witnesses exceptionally bad religious people?
  • Why can black people say the N-word and white people can't?
  • The US is now number 12 on the top happiest countries; down from 10.  Is it because we are becoming more socialist?
  • "No matter what you're struggling through -- no matter the pain or anguish -- you can go inside behind your mind and observe it happening to you.  Whatever it is, it isn't you. You are the observer. When you come to know this, you realize that even though the canvas of your life is painted with daily experiences, behaviors, reactions, and emotions, you're the on controlling the brush." Does that make sense?  Who do you think said that?

 

I look forward to talking to you all.

Glenn

 

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  • Kwame
    Kwame

    Pretty good

    January 14

  • Vonda Martin
    Vonda Martin

    What an inspirational meeting!!! Thank you for everyone for making me feel welcome.

    January 14

  • Jim
    Jim

    I am sorry for missing the meeting, but something came up and I couldn't breat away in time.

    January 13

  • Laura Louise Solsten
    Laura Louise Solsten

    Enjoyed all the intelligent, thoughtful comments. Smart, engaged people. I look forward to the next meeting.

    January 13

  • Gary Craig
    Gary Craig

    The issues were interesting and as a result they stimulated conversation from many participants with various view points.

    January 13

  • Beth
    Beth

    nice diverse crowd

    January 13

  • A former member
    A former member

    Coming from a bridal shower. May be five minutes late. So sorry.

    January 13

  • Laura Louise Solsten
    Laura Louise Solsten

    This is my first meeting with the group and it's interesting that the topic is inter-racial dating. I was engaged to a black man for several years, and when that fell apart and I finally began dating again, I realized that I'm partial to black men. It seems I'm just attracted to black men.

    January 3

    • A former member
      A former member

      Laura, I'm not sure that's the topic for the meeting, but just Kwame's post that started this whole discussion. It will be my first meetup too, so we'll be newbies together : )

      1 · January 3

    • Chrissie Farthing
      Chrissie Farthing

      I have ben kicking around for over 79 years and my take on all ths is that if 2 people find that they are with someone who adds to their happiness then education, wealth, race or gender has nothing to do with it. The world, but mostly the USA looks down on anyone who does not follow the rules of most religious groups and the prejudices and hatred that they dictate. Who you are and what you are capable of doing is up to who you are and how commited you are. It makes no difference, same sex, race, education, or intelligence or your life partner. Who you love is your choice and the only force in nature that would make you unsuccessful is you. Usually those of us that are successful are that way because they are happy with their life have the support of that person that they love.

      January 3

  • A former member
    A former member

    This next event will be my first time...go easy!

    January 3

    • A former member
      A former member

      Mine too Liz, but I like the fact that people aren't afraid to discuss things on meetup posts. Should prove to be an interesting evening : )

      January 3

  • Glenn
    Glenn

    Glad to see everyone is so excited. We'll definitely be talking about interracial relationships this time.

    January 3

  • A former member
    A former member

    Kwame, I had an online friend who lived in Atlanta and visited St. Louis for work. When he did, we would go out to his company functions. Tim is a black man & had been married three times, all to white women. Since I'm not afraid to talk about the issues you don't talk about, I asked the obvious. Why had he never found himself married to a black woman? His answer was that he was successful because he was educated and wanted a partner who was also educated. His experience had taught him it was more difficult to find an educated black female, than an educated white female. So his answer to your question would be because he is educated and successful, he had chosen to draw from a pool of women that were more likely to be educated than the other by percentages, which would ensure more success for them as a couple.

    I laughed at him and said, you know you're having dinner with someone who only graduated high school, don't you?

    January 3

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    • Mary
      Mary

      Nice question from Kwame. Looking forward to the discussion!

      January 3

    • A former member
      A former member

      Interesting story Mary. I think mostly it goes to personal taste, and obviously the environment you grew up in. I lived in Barnhart as a girl, and didn't have any friends, no less dates of different races til in my mid twenties because of where I lived.

      January 3

  • Chrissie Farthing
    Chrissie Farthing

    I don't think who you marry has anything to do with success. In my opinion if one is willing to follow their heart and defy the preconceived judgement or opinions of those of diminished intelligence or unsound religious conviction then they have the ability to do what is necessary to gain sucess. Usually like minded people are attracted to like minded partners and I feel that true love is colour blind. A successful person is not one who is worried about what other people think and has the mental ability to do what is necessary to get ahead. Lets face it, stupidity is not colour coded.

    January 2

  • Kwame
    Kwame

    Hey are black men who marry white women more successful than black men who marry black women? This was a Chris Rock inspired question.

    January 1

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