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need advice and help my girls keep fighting...

Jay
jh3578
New York, NY
Post #: 182
My two girls fight...

Maggie is 10 and Bailey is 6. About three years ago they started getting into fights. It was random and upsetting but not that bad. Fast forward two years later and when they fight they really hurt each other. I ended up in the hospital twice trying to separate them.

Maggie never really liked Bailey or other dogs just tolerated them. Bailey loves other dogs, she gets along great with her brother Danny(Maltipoo). Danny came into our lives when I started dating my now fiance Janine but he is submissive so if he goes near Maggie and she growls etc he backs away. Problem with my girls is they both want to be dominant and no one will submit...

Looking back Maggie definitely would have been happier as the only dog, but I didn't know and I thought she would need a "friend" while I was at work.

I've tried so many things, I know what some triggers are, it's usually when Maggie gets anxious or is jealous so I don't let the doorbell ring, when people come over I don't let them give the dogs attention right away till they calm down, I separate them when they are eating.. etc.

Because it is getting worse and it is unsafe for everyone when they fight I am trying medication. Maggie is on Prozac and Clomiprimine, it's only been two weeks.. She seems a little less anxious and calm but the meds can take up to 6 weeks to start working. I also think she's just more sleepy from adjusting to the meds. I tried a trainer, behavior specialist but it hasn't fixed the problem and I can't really afford to try another.

Everyone says I should find a home for one of them, but the thought of not being with one of them kills me. How do I choose between my dogs?, they are my babies. How do I give one away? All my family and friends have dogs so how can I give one to a stranger? Makes me sick to my stomach.

Am I being selfish? Bailey would probably be happier not living with a dog that bullies her and fights with her and Maggie would probably be happier as the only dog. But how can I do that? Sometimes I think I would rather put Maggie to sleep then live without her. I feel horrible for thinking that way.

I am really at a loss, Any suggestions, help, ideas, support from other pug parents would really help. As I type this Maggie is in the living room and Bailey is in the kitchen and bedroom and they are separate by a gate, I have to bring them back together very carefully and it makes me sick to my stomach. The last fight happened yesterday and I still have to keep them separate.

Sorry I know I don't know any of you yet but I could really use some help...

Jaime
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Norma Lehmeier H.
user 6448337
Croton on Hudson, NY
Post #: 22
Read this article: http://ottawavalleydo...­.

Also...I am a volunteer for Curly Tail Pug Rescue and just asked the group what to do. Drea, our founder, just told me that we had a pro work with one of our fosters (I had this foster for 3 months and she did NOT get along with our dogs.) The person who is fostering her now will be writing up what she did to make our foster friendlier with other animals. I will post what the trainer said to do here as soon as I get the information.

If you want to contact me directly, email me: normaleh@optonline.net.
Norma Lehmeier H.
user 6448337
Croton on Hudson, NY
Post #: 23
I got this, too: http://www.10minutedo...­. Local dog trainer
Kathy
KathyandBarrett
Yonkers, NY
Post #: 58
Hi Jaime, I would be happy to try to help you. Please feel free to contact me at kathydllf@msn.com, and then we can speak by phone or maybe meet. I live with 11 dogs, and everyone is required to get along. When dogs know their place in the pack, and have an appropriate amount of exercise, life is peaceful and the dogs are relaxed. You can also reach me through my rescue, Tiny Treasures Rescue www.tinytreasuresrescue.com­

Kathy
Jay
jh3578
New York, NY
Post #: 185
Thanks Kathy I wrote you a private email.
Jay
jh3578
New York, NY
Post #: 186
Thanks Norma for your help and support.

Since I posted I found and amazing vet who deals with "behaviors", Maggie is on new meds that seem to be helping her anxiety and I found a really affordable trainer who will be starting with us next week.

It's gonna take a lot of work but I am determined to try to be the "pack leader" they need and not a push over. I love them so much that unless it was a life/death situation I can't imagine living without either of them!
I really needed some support so thank you so much, I felt so alone and hopeless!
I will keep you posted!
I live in Staten Island, but hope to come to a future meetup when things are more calm.
Jaime
Norma Lehmeier H.
user 6448337
Croton on Hudson, NY
Post #: 24
Jaime,

I am so glad to have been supportive to you! Please keep us updated, as I am sure you are not the only person in this group who has had problems with aggression. BTW...I have 2 boys that get along great, but had a foster female who attacked them and it was horrible and frightening. Now I know there are ways to address this problem, and it is doable...but tough. Good luck--I know you can do it!
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