|Sent on:||Tuesday, December 13, 2011 10:08 PM|
In any situation, ‘good’ or ‘bad’, we often default to seeing what is wrong rather than what is right, we see problems rather than solutions, and we often apply blame, dislike or annoyance. We become hurt or angry, and then we suffer. It is liberating to know that in fact we choose whether we suffer or not – suffering is optional. Focusing on the problems almost always takes away my peace and happiness, makes me lose hope, turns me into a victim and blocks my vision. Choosing to focus on the solution is often a much better attitude for maintaining peace of mind.
The example of half a glass of water demonstrates precisely how it is we who perceive and judge the situations in front of us. The glass is simply half a glass of water – but we choose, whether to create an attitude of abundance or lack by interpreting it as either half full or half empty.
If I believe that the ‘cup’ of my life is half full, then it is only a step away to seeing it as overflowing. Then I will automatically have feelings of abundance and plenty, gratitude and appreciation. If I first of all see the emptiness in the glass instead of focusing on and appreciating what I do have, there will be a feeling of lack and a constant yearning for more in every area of my life.
A person is perceived as a problem when they do what we don’t want them to do or don’t do what we want them to! Likewise a situation is seen as a problem if we feel we don’t have control over it to make it happen the way we want it. In other words, when we don’t have control over the people or situation – we label them as a problem – they’re difficult we say. So take a moment to reflect what defines something as difficult – when we don’t have either the power, the know-how, the skill set to quite overcome the problem or difficulty. In fact a ‘problem’ can become a gift when we see it as an opportunity for growth. The practice of meditation allows us the internal space to process these situations, rise above then, and see the solution. As Einstein said: We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.
Let’s turn to mathematics to better understand problem solving. In maths there is not only a solution to every problem but a formula. Once we have understood the formula it’s easy to solve any puzzle. Life too has formulas or principles as we might call them. If I choose to live by truth and the highest principles, then I will find that life too will serve me honestly and faithfully. Self-knowledge, self-reflection and a commitment to following my highest principles are the key to understanding these formulas.
Often, we just look at the problems and not the root causes - in other words – what exactly triggered the event or situation to flare up. If I perceive myself as a victim to the circumstances then I will never be able to overcome difficulties, instead I will spend my time blaming and complaining. With correct understanding, I can take responsibility for my life. I realize that in some way - even though it may not be apparent on the surface - I have created my own drama and the script to go with it – my own reality show! And as in most reality shows, we get addicted to the highs and lows, in fact we may even enjoy witnessing other people’s problems (drama’s) – not realizing that on some level we are addicted to watching those ‘soap operas’.
Some problems can go on for years. Is it really that we can’t deal with them? Or is it more to do with denial, laziness, of fear. Sometimes we just hope they will go away someday, or we wait for others to fix themselves. After all, THEY are the problem, so why should I change? But what if they never do? What if we are always waiting for the problem to go away – and meanwhile we have wasted a life.
The fact that something is seen as a problem implies there is a desired outcome, a need for things to go ‘our way’. Perhaps we need to drop a few expectations and learn to ebb and flow with the drama of life. To ‘insist’ on something is really resisting the reality of the situation, it implies that ‘I know better’ and it means that I am trying to control something I can’t control. The result? Pain, anguish and a very bruised ego! It’s a much easier ride if I understand that drama may have its own course for my betterment, let me be patient, have faith and just cruise!
It may be hard to believe, but nothing need be a problem. Learn to be a ‘detached observer’, step back from your own programming and the emotions of anger, hurt and confusion that obscure the truth, and see that bigger perspective. Understand that it is just a life lesson in disguise; it’s an opportunity to help me learn and grow.
These days we live in a world of complaints… however a complaint, put positively, is simply a desire to achieve something better. True, it may be emanating from someone’s ego, but examine many of the complaints in the world and you will find that behind them is a germ of a desire for perfection, for love, for peace. We all want a better world, and often ‘seeing what is wrong’ is our way of noticing the falsehood and trying to find our way back to truth. When we are busy pointing the finger outwards we don’t see those three fingers that are pointing back to us. In fact they are reminding us that the ‘soul-ution’ is always within us!
Of course our lives will always often be filled with things that we would not wish for ourselves, with challenges and difficulties, and with people and situations that stretch our powers of tolerance to almost breaking point. But we choose whether to label that a ‘problem’ or an ‘opportunity’.
If we habitually see faults and problems, we invoke more into our life. Instead, affirm what you do want, appreciate what you do have, and look for the best and not the worst in others. You will find that the number of ‘problems’ you have in life will diminish dramatically.
It’s Time… to see the glass of your life half full – appreciate what you have and don’t be carried away with what you don’t. Nothing is a problem if you are open to learning, adjusting, growing and strengthening. The Soul-ution is in all of us, if we just stand back, observe and steer in the direction of the beneficial drama of life. Remember, you are the Director of your own reality show – play your hero part well without complaints! Is it possible? Of course it is. No problem!
He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.
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