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Discussing happiness

We will use this presentation for our own discussion following Prof. Lyubomirsky's talk.  Do not sign up if you cannot join us afterward down the block at the crepevine.

I want to underscore that we will walk down Cedar two or so blocks after the Hillside Club event to discuss happiness at the Crepevine on Shattuck.  If you intend to do this I would like confirmation on the meetup site, by writing in ~ confirmed ~ or ~ confirmed for discussion ~ in the small comment box that is part of your RSVP--NOT in the conversation/notification section below since such responses go out to everyone (see an example as part of my RSVP).  If you don't think you can do this, mostly because you think it is too late, then you needn't add this word.  If you can't join us, I will remove you from this particular meetup closer to the date, which of course doesn't mean you can't attend the professor's talk since we are all getting our own tickets.

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SONJA LYUBOMIRSKY

THE MYTHS OF HAPPINESS

What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, But Does

In The Myths of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky isolates the major turning points of adult life, looking to both achievements (marriage, children, professional satisfaction, wealth) and failures (singlehood, divorce, financial ruin, illness) to reveal that our misconceptions about the impact of such events is perhaps the greatest threat to our long-term well-being.

Lyubomirsky argues that we have been given false promises—myths that assure us that lifelong happiness will be attained once we hit the culturally confirmed markers of adult success. This restricted view of happiness works to discourage us from recognizing the upside of any negative life turn and blocks us from recognizing our own growth potential. Our outsized expectations transform natural rites of passage into emotional land mines and steer us to make toxic decisions.

Because we expect the best (or the worst) from life’s turning points, we shortsightedly place too much weight on our initial emotional responses. The Myths of Happiness empowers readers to look beyond their first response, sharing scientific evidence that often it is our mindset—not our circumstances—that matters. Central to these findings is the notion of hedonic adaptation, the fact that people are far more adaptable than they think. Even after a major life change—good or bad—we tend to return to our initial happiness level, forgetting what once made us elated or why we felt that life was so unbearable. Lyubomirsky offers the perspective we need to make wiser choices, sharing how to slow the effects of this adaptation after a positive turn and find the way forward in a time of darkness.

Sonja Lyubomirsky is Professor of Psychology at UC Riverside. She received her B.A. from Harvard University and her Ph.D. in social psychology from Stanford University. Lyubomirsky and her research have been the recipients of many honors, including the 2002 Templeton Positive Psychology Prize and a multiyear grant from the National Institute of Mental Health.

Berkeley Arts & Letters at the Hillside Club (2286 Cedar Street, Berkeley)

Tickets $12 ($7 students, including OLLI, & Hillside members) in advance only, at Brown Paper Tickets online or[masked]; $15 at the door


 

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  • tom m.

    Sorry I couldn't get out of my sick bed. Thanks for filling in Ilsa. Are you saying that the professor talked down to the audience, that she did not assume a certain (higher) level of knowledge of the attendees? But nonetheless a sufficient number of people got together to chat about the topic. Typically even with the 'confirmed' technique I tried, you still had many no shows. Such a shame.

    January 31, 2013

    • Colyer D.

      I thought it was a perfect number of attendees; great discussion after (quality over quantity?). Talk was fascinating; very interesting research findings.

      January 31, 2013

  • Ludmila K.

    Not many people showed up for discussion but still ot was interesting

    January 30, 2013

  • tom m.

    As noted, your event host has to back out due to illness. That time of year I guess Un confirming for discussion and presentation...Have a raging cold I can't shake which I don't want to pass on. I'll be in my bed while you are gaining insights and then chatting about them. I will call Crepevine to alert them to see if they can set up some table of six. You can go to their website:
    http://www.crepevine.com/location_berkley.html

    January 29, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    sounds fascinating.. especially such a ... how do you define it? subject.. out of the state for about 3 weeks. Hope to be to one of these soon.

    joetta

    January 28, 2013

    • Colyer D.

      Sorry, I must insist you fly back and attend the Happiness talk; it will make me happy. Hmm, I REALLY need to attend (and some other talks, too; and perhaps take more medications... ; )

      January 28, 2013

    • A former member
      A former member

      :), clearly no happiness in not being there. :)

      January 28, 2013

  • henry l.

    Confirm for disscussion

    January 26, 2013

  • tom m.

    Also I asked people to type 'confirmed' in your RSVP box, not here, which goes out to everyone. Is this request so difficult to follow...?

    January 25, 2013

  • tom m.

    Another bizarre question. I thought this was the Brainiacs Meetup. The link is right above this reply

    January 25, 2013

  • Ludmila K.

    Confirmed. Question: how can i get tickets for the lecture? I don't see any link to click on.

    January 25, 2013

  • tom m.

    Jane, while your question is not unreasonable it can be answered easily by clicking on the tickets link.

    January 24, 2013

  • A former member
    A former member

    Is the time posted for the proffessor's presentation or walking to after discussion?

    January 24, 2013

  • Bridget

    confirmed for discussion

    January 23, 2013

  • Janet K.

    confirmed for discussion

    January 23, 2013

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