Great Sexpectations! (This is NOT the Intimacy College!)

At some point in the dating spectrum, intimacy usually becomes part of the relationship. And while it's supposed to be a fabulous part of any relationship, there is oftentimes much confusion about the hows, whys, wheres, and more.

Many of you have been coming (no pun intended!) to this group for a while now and you're at the point of being ready to ask those tough questions of the opposite sex. What do people really think about things like ...

Is it true that after 3 dates you should expect sex? (The Three Date Rule!)

What does it mean if someone is throwing themselves at you sexually on the first date?

If you're looking for more than a one night stand, what is the smart way to handle sexual timing?

What is it that guys wish gals would or wouldn't do?

What is it that gals wish of the guys?

What about exclusivity?

Let's get all this stuff you ever wanted to know out on the table once and for all! With this group being of mixed genders it's a fabulous venue for asking those awkward questions you haven't felt comfy asking your intimate partner, but you'd die to know the answer to!

This should be a great opportunity for sharing and learning more great tips to improve your dating, mating, and relating! And no one will put you on the spot to talk... Just come and listen and learn, if that's your style. Where else do you get a chance to get this kind of info straight from the horse's mouth? After all, no one I know learned this stuff in school and book learning ... well, that only goes just so far!

By the way - the last time I offered this topic it took 3 MEETUPS IN A ROW before everyone felt we covered all that needed to be covered! Let's see what you guys think!

BY THE WAY, THIS IS NOT THE SAME AS MY "INTIMACY COLLEGE" - Straight Talk From a Real Nurse About Better Intimacy, Desire, and Healthy Love

Those programs are single sex groups and a 3 hour intensive class on how to get better sex by learning more about the female body and female sexuality than you ever thought possible. With any luck, I'll hold the Intimacy College sometime this spring as well.


Doors open at 5:30 so you can order your grub and drinks, then mix and mingle before the actually meeting that goes from 7 - 9. Cost is $10 for the Meetup. You will be able to sit with 3 different small groups of people so you'll have lots of opportunities to meet a variety of our cool singles! Lots of parking for a buck or free. Mercury Cafe doesn't take credit cards but they do have an ATM machine and I can take credit cards as well, now that I've figured out this cell phone/credit card app!

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  • Jodi

    I knew most of information already,but always good to hear other people's opinions.

    March 8, 2014

  • Diana O.

    Thank you everyone for all the sharing and comments about this important topic. Very neat opportunity!

    March 7, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      I agree Diana.

      1 · March 7, 2014

  • Alexandra

    After reading all the interesting dialogue on this
    medium about last week's meeting, I am sorry I live
    so far from Denver to attend the meetings. Seems even after the meeting, people seem quite passionate about the discussed subjects.

    March 7, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    I was a bit uncomfortable in this particular session it seemed some wanted to give or get too many details or explain their personal relationship angst. Wouldn't it be best to have just received feedback from the expert rather than so much confusing data from confused people - sorry just my 2 cents worth

    March 7, 2014

  • Alexandra

    Lisa, I think most men are not at ease discussing sex issue except with other men.. and at the age group of the men on this group I believe it is more uncomfortable yet due to sex issue of men past the age of 50... women are more at ease discussing the subject specially we like to hear men's point of view and their feelings...but women know about men and "feelings"... not going there...!

    March 7, 2014

    • Saul H.

      Not in my group most were defensive or said nothing at all. I could have gain a lot of knowledeg from the women to help me understand them a bit better. But I just walked out gaining nothing

      1 · March 7, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      Saul, Have you heard about the great book men were buying up back in the 80s and reprinted due to its huge success again in the 90s? It's titled "Everything Men Know About Women"? The writer spent years researching the subject. Maybe you'll find this book helpful or maybe not. It will be interesting if you glean any insight from it.

      1 · March 7, 2014

  • A former member
    A former member

    Felt isolated and unwelcome. Left prior to start of meeting and wasn't offered refund. Would not recommend to anyone. Experience left me physically sick.

    March 6, 2014

    • David P.

      John, the rest of us had a great time!! You should have stayed...

      1 · March 6, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      John, I'd love to have you meet me there for dinner on April 1st before the meeting. Getting out of our comfort zone is really hard. I cant tell you how many times I sat in my car at other Meetups trying to force myself to go in. One Meetup I walked in, used the restroom, and left. It does get easier. I'll send you an email with my number.

      1 · March 7, 2014

  • Dan du B.

    I love discussing sex with women. We had some good discussions in the groups where I was included. Men are not mind readers and really want to know how women tick. Men that care about developing meaningful relationships are more than willing to discuss their feelings. So the real man will embrace and relish conversations about sex.

    1 · March 7, 2014

    • A former member
      A former member

      I like what you have to share Dan and I enjoyed our discussions, both one on one and in the group. We had good discussions too, where I was included. I didn't think there were any real intimidating questions or discussions. Also, some people are there to learn from others, not necessarily wanting to share. It was my first meetup with this group and I had a positive experience. Although, the dating topic for the next meetup is more where I need to start since I am just starting to date.

      March 7, 2014

  • Carl N

    Well..... I didnt make it as I had expected but I can say my experience with this, or ANY meetup group has been very positive. Other than the initial jitters of throwing yourself into a new group of 'strangers'. But isn't pushing our comfort envelope one reason why we go?
    John, I'm sorry it was not a good experience for you. If at first you don't succeed.....

    Lisa, ask away! I tend to be 'overly' honest

    March 7, 2014

  • Bob

    I did not make it to the meeting but I plan to go next time. It will be interesting to see if I have same reaction.

    March 7, 2014

  • Saul H.

    Lisa I think I should have hung out at your tableau got the same thing as I was giving my point of view and asking the table no one gave back any info I would think that at this part of our lives things could be talked about I guess sex is still a taboo subject or talk about

    March 7, 2014

  • Lisa S.

    My first time with the group, and all the people were very nice... the theme that night was sex, and I found it ironic that none of the people I sat with in any of the 3 rounds seemed comfortable with any real conversation about the topic. There might be a brief, vague answer to the question put forth, and then someone would deflect the conversation to some other aspect of dating... it was a little pathetic. The one very frank comment I shared which was about something I've heard repeatedly from men, and asked the table about, was met with the sound of... crickets.

    2 · March 7, 2014

  • Mary Jo Fay, RN, M.

    Some great info swapping, as always with this group! And chemistry, chemistry, chemistry! Some people just didn't want to leave - and that's OK!

    March 5, 2014

  • Maggie

    Guess it will.depend on weather

    February 26, 2014

  • Cindy

    Looking forward to it!

    February 22, 2014

  • Alexandra

    Gosh, wish I lived in Denver or closer to. I would like to attend these meetings... my last week's attendance was quite interesting... but...I really "climbed Mt.
    Everest" to get there.... last week and it is just too
    far to journey for me... Best to all those I met...enjoy!!

    February 14, 2014

  • Denny

    Sorry I have to miss this one. Maybe April???

    February 14, 2014

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